Is Loving some one close to you so wrong?
September 20, 2007 2:53am CST
I have a small(big for me) strange situation recently.I had a girlfreind who used care me verymuch.She used to show such a care that even i forgot taking a breakfast or a dine she used to force to have and she used to such an affection that i used to feel HER each and every second of a day.And this type of her attitiude pulled me towards her and i started loving her and one day i expressed it to her.At that time she siad that she didnt think in that way right now.But, my god i could not believe that from the next day onwards she even didnt had a glance towards me.I cant understand still now what went wrong.Is it wrong loving one who cares us?I too care her very much....Then which type of people should we love?
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22 Sep 07
Actually, it is not wrong loving someone that is so close to you. As a matter of fact, that is a good start of having a nice and healthy relationship. You start from being closed to each other and ending up saying that both of you are inloved with each other. But, unfortunately, in your case, it did not happen the way that I should think of. At first, this girl, as what you have described above, is showing some affectionate on you. She really cares a lot on you. Maybe we can say that the love, concern, and care that she is trying to show to you is just for a close friend and nothing else follows. Meaning to say, she did these to you as a close friend of yours. And you have misinterpreted the love and care that she is showing to you. But if you are really inlove with this girl, then go for it. Do not give up on telling that you really love her and that you would do everything for her. I am sure she will accept and love you too because you are closed to each other. Just keep loving her and you would really anticipate the sweet "YES" answer of her that she is indeed inlove with you too. Wish you luck! Have a great day!
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20 Sep 07
It is sad when you love someone and they don't love you back.I don't know what happened. Maybe she thought you didn't love her so when you finally said it, she didn't believe you. That is my guess.Loving someone that you are close to is good but as soon as you feel you love them, you should tell them.
20 Sep 07
I think its the case of complex human psychology. I can say this happened to me also in the other way round. There was someone who felt this say. I also declined him. I cared for him because I thought him to be my good friend. I did not had that type of feelings for him. He got attracted by these gestures and proposed me. I told him that we are friends. May be at that time I thought its not true love, just infactuation. He also told me that don';t I care for you so much? May be he was right or wrong I don't know. But there are some problem that he accused me badly recently. So we have no contact now. I think it was for good that i declined him. His behaviour gave me immense pain but may be it could have been worse had I been accepted him and then he behaved this way.