Coping with change - how do you deal with it?

@rosie_123 (6118)
September 20, 2007 6:06am CST
This morning at work, I went to a semiar entitled "Coping with Change". Obviously it was mainly aimed at the working environment....... how people cope with changes in their job roles, the need to relocate for work, the threat of redundancy etc. But it got me thinking about life in general, - because we all have to cope with change in one way or another at one stage in our lives. Whether it is life-changing stuff like bereavement, divorce, or financial problems, or little, daft, everyday things like finding the local store has closed or having to change the car - it happens to us everyday. I've noticed that some people positively seem to embrace change as a way of leaning about themselves and moving forward, while others crawl into a hole, pull a blanket over their heads, and hope it won't happen. I don't get stressed by it because I am generally quite an easy-going, non-stressed person, but I admit that constant change annoys me sometimes, as I prefer a bit more routine in my life, and a lot of times (especially at work), I feel it is just being done for the sake of it with no real reason - constant change of offices and desk layout for example! But how about you? Do you like change, or do you prefer life to go along pretty much the same? And if you have to face change and you're not happy about this - how do you deal with it?
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9 responses
21 Sep 07
I do like change if it is good and not just another target to be met..that just annoys me Mr Gordon Brown. I have a job that is constantly changing as the stupid government bring in new incentives every bloody month to do with education and most of it is just corporate BS, which does nothing to improve performance or learning for kids. So this sort of change is not good for me and I usually end up ranting for the rest of the day. I am facing change soon as we are moving out of our nursery why it is being refurbished, I am looking forward to this and I also have to start looking further into my teaching career, which will bring about a big change. Although it is quite daunting I am going to embrace it and see what happens.I must admit I am very impulsive and have lived with many changes. At least I have different memories of different things in my life. I don't think I could be the sort of person who could stay in the same job for the rest of my working life, but for those who do it must be a very content existence if this is what they choose!! I love the idea of a seminar on coping with change. This is the very thing that I hate the most about the changes to our lives now. We have to be directed on everything as if we cannot cope with anything nowadays. I hope you didn't have to have a bonding session at the beginning of the seminar, these are just so unbelievably embarrassing and stupid. I went to one a while back and we had to get into teams and do some stupid games. I hated it. One of the blokes running it was from last years The Apprentice and I knew why Mr Sugar had him fired, he was a total idiot. I dread to think how much they charged for their services, but what made it funny was the fact they had no idea about education!! Oh, I'm off on a rant gain..sorry :0))
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@rosie_123 (6118)
22 Sep 07
LOL - feel free - rant away! And thanks for your comments - very thought-provoking and interesting as usual. As for Mr. G. Brown - well I think he is a mild improvement on Mr. A. Blair - but not a lot!!
23 Sep 07
Thanks Rosie for best response. I am now going to create a seminar on how to cope with receiving a best response!!LOL
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@rosie_123 (6118)
23 Sep 07
LOL - I hope I get an invite:-))
@insite (55)
20 Sep 07
Small changes don't seem to bother me, sometimes they can be for the better. Life changing ones well, yes obviously, because there the hardest to accept. I guess somethings in life you can't change and other's you have the choice of adapting and making it easier for yourself or digging your heels in. In an office environment sometimes logic flies out the window, I am convinced management are bored or can't manage their way out of a paper bag.
@rosie_123 (6118)
20 Sep 07
LOL - yes I agree about the work ones! Making everyone change desks every 6 months surely can't help anyone - except keep the removal people in work! Thanks for responding.
@insite (55)
21 Sep 07
Sounds like office gymnastics. I guess if there was eye candy you would have something to look forward to. LOL You have to look on the bright side.
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@rosie_123 (6118)
21 Sep 07
LOL - I can assure you there is no eye candy in my office - more's the pity!!!
@thefortunes (2368)
• Netherlands
24 Sep 07
Hiya Rosie my friend, well, what a nice question you pose here again, and I love changes as I hate boredom more than anything else in life :) As a matter of fact there but a few changes in my life and I'd like many more to take place, unfortunately it seems like the changes are there for the people that hate change, and the more one likes changes - the less happen in his/her life. Isn't this something? My partner is very different than me in this, and he would rather continue in the routine he is in. I am the adventurer here and for me the boredom of this life is getting at time too much for me to bear. For me there is stress when keeping the same type of life all of the time, and no stress while changing continuosly, does this make sense to you? TheFortunes
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@rosie_123 (6118)
24 Sep 07
Well yes - it does kind of make sense to me, though I admit I am much more like your partner, and I prefer to find a routine that works for ma and stick to it. As you know Iam somewhat of a control freek (LPL!), and I guess lotsof changes put me a little out of control because things are not being determined by me - and that stresses me a little. Thanks for respoding as always.
@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
24 Sep 07
I hate change! I like a normal routine, once I get used to something I become a happy bunny, change it and it puts me out of sync! Especially when it comes to the work's computer system. I always believe if it's not broken don't fix it. We had a sound, good working system at work which everyone found easy to work with, then the powers that be changed it and nearly caused a riot because they refused to admit they were wrong wasting millions by bringing in a new system we had to stick with it, believe me the change went down like a lead balloon. It annoys me because the people who decide to change things are not the ones that use them!
@rosie_123 (6118)
24 Sep 07
I think those are very wise words. If changes were actually discussed with those who were affected most by them - things would be very different.
@brendakaya (2335)
• United States
22 Sep 07
It just depends on what the changes are. If they're good changes, then I'm all for them. But to be perfectly honest, most of the changes, that I see, don't really qualify as better. At my job, for instance, when another company, took over, we lost some of our vacation and sick time, and bonus days, and most of our recognition programs. Now, it sounds like we're going to be bought out, again. We're worried that we're going to lose more. It would be nice, to actually gain some, this time.
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@rosie_123 (6118)
22 Sep 07
I agree with you about the work stuff. We don't lose holidays and sick time here because there are lots of laws protecting workers' rights in the UK, and the Unions are also pretty strong here and would not allow anyone to try to let it happen. Half the time it does just seem to be a way to frustrate the workers with no gain at all for them though! Thanks for responding.
@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
21 Sep 07
well i think change is great to have because then you wont get bored faster and you have something to look forward to at all times.when i was working at my own salon the changes were great,i always made certain changes for everyone so it was more fun and creative and kept them going.even changes at home is good sometimes too.xoxox.pattie
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@rosie_123 (6118)
21 Sep 07
Well I guess you're right, that it can be fun, and certainly stops people getting bored. Thanks for responding my friend.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
22 Sep 07
I used to hate changes in my Job and believe me there was many of them in the 8 years I worked there but I dealt with them we all did we could not afford to get stressed out in the job that we where in but we used to get so annoyed and then of course came the Courses with these new changes lol
@rosie_123 (6118)
23 Sep 07
Ah yes -the COURSES! Hours and hours spent learning how to do something that will change again in 2 or 3 months! LOL! Thanks for responding here my friend.
@MGjhaud (20833)
• Philippines
28 Oct 07
Job changes or job rotations are one way to make a worker not to get bored with their jobs. Well it’s kind of hard to let go of one work to another especially if you get to love the work you have but maybe there’s something bigger down there so just deal with whatever or wherever you’re put and maybe out of it something bigger will come.
• United States
28 Sep 07
Change happens. There have been so many times that life throws ya an unexpected ordeal. You sink or swim. I choose to swim.