open relationship? --- permissible to guys?

@eliezl (766)
Philippines
September 21, 2007 1:57am CST
duh! more and more guys these days are unto cheating..dunno why and dunno why they can't simply stick to one person in their lives when in the first place, they pledge their heart to the person they are courting to only to get tired as the time goes by? its really a bad thing that GUYS would go through this. i mean, MORE GUYS are going to open relationship compared to the number of WOMEN entering unto such cheating affair. can guys stop being selfish for a while and learn to value the feelings of the woman they are hurting? arent they afraid of KARMA at all? hmmmm...
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
21 Sep 07
Eh, I really wish people would get that open relationships and cheating are nothing like the same thing. If you're in an open relationship, then you agreed to be with other people. That's different from someone cheating on you, which is being with someone else without your permission. In fact, I've known people (men and women both) who were in happy open relationships for years, with everyone involved knowing about it, and no one getting hurt. Cheating, however, hurts people. A lot. I really dislike cheaters, in almost all situations. Though I haven't noticed more guys cheating than women, just more guys who will later admit they have cheated on someone before. In fact, it seems to almost be a bragging thing for some guys to say how much they have cheating and gotten away with it. It's pretty sick. I just think that everyone should be honest with each other. If you want to be in a monogamous relationship, you should do so, and be faithful. If you don't want to be in a monogamous relationship, then don't be in one.
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• Philippines
21 Sep 07
Agree with lecanis to just be straightforward about it. If you want to screw around then don't enter into a committed relationship.
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@talisman (1308)
• United States
21 Sep 07
Actually, women cheat just as much as guys do. It's wrong for anyone to cheat, regardless of their gender or relationship. An open relationship is different from outright cheating, though. In an open relationship, both people involved agree that they're not exclusive and that they'll be dating other people. It's not much better, but at least they're involved. Unfortunately, people in open relationships generally don't let their other partners know this.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
21 Sep 07
Actually, most of the people I've known in open relationships have let all their partners know, and tend to look down on cheaters or people who don't fully disclose very much. If you go onto a website for people in polyamorous relationships and say you are with someone that you haven't told about it, you're likely to get many people going off on you.
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@lgwlong (199)
• China
21 Sep 07
not only the picture is so scared,but also these words,guys like cheating to his half should be his instinct,most time guys cannot refuse the entice
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
22 Sep 07
Girls cant resist the enticement either. Especially since they can get more from cheating than just another lover. Its being courted by more than one guy, which means more gifts, more time with guys and more attention from the opposite gender. There are also biological reasons, women want the alpha male, but socially a beta male needs to be used to survive.
@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
21 Sep 07
I think it just seems like men cheat more because they are more open about it or they get caught more. Open relationships are totally different and I think, if someone feels the need to be with more than just their spouse or partner, they should talk to them and see if an open relationship would work. That way, no one is hurt and they know up front what is happening. I wouldn't want to be in one but I know people who are and they are very happy. I honestly think men just get caught more. They are flippant and don't THINK. Women, when they cheat, generally do think about it and maybe take steps to cover their tracks better. This is simply a theory. I do know two women right now who are cheating on their husbands and their husbands are very devoted men who I don't believe ever strayed. I just cringe because it is going to be so messy eventually. Hearts broken, people fighting, relationships falling apart. Ugh. I think, if people enter into a relationship agreeing to stay with just one person, they should. If they don't want to, then they need to be honest and say so. They may end up leaving the person they are with or being left but at least they aren't sneaking around and hurting their partner by cheating on them. Ya know, I never REALLY understood cheating. It seems like it would be way more stressful to cheat and not let it affect me and not get caught and not feel bad and not be confused than it is just to stay faithful. But that's me. I flirt now and then and I go home to my husband. I believe, with all my heart, he has never cheated on me. He's wayyyyy too rushed and busy to hide his tracks. Plus I hope we both, after 23 years, have solidified our commitment to each other by now. Anyway, I do think men and women both do their share of cheating but it seems we hear more about the men who do.
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@sheerjane (112)
• China
22 Sep 07
Cheats are more and more at present!!!!!!
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
22 Sep 07
I don't think it's just guys - there are women who cheat, too. But it does seem like it's mostly guys who cheat. I wonder why. I think there is a difference though, between cheating and an open relationship. If two people agree to have an open relationship, then there shouldn't be any hurt feelings. If there are hurt feelings, then they need to rethink the open relationship.
• United States
21 Sep 07
i agree if you want to be with mutliple partners than let the person your with know maybe they think the same thing. But i also agree that there is as much woman cheating out there as there is guys guys just arnt as smart about it.