I'm sorry friends...

Friendship has to have the element of honesty. Keeping secrets sometimes happen because of one being afraid to hurt the other friend, or just plainly waiting for the opportune time to reveal such secrets. But true friends, no matter what the circumstances may be, would be truthful, even to point of risking losing the friendship.

Welcome back, shiela :) Generally, secrets are kept because once revealed, these may hurt people --- might be your own self, your loved ones, your relatives, your friends --- We have secrets and as much as possible, we do not want it revealed unless it is extremely necessary to do so, or when we believe that telling it to others would clear our conscience or that it would make us feel better. And once a secret is told to us, we must respect the one who passed it on because it signifies trust. Unless permitted to do so, we must also keep it to ourselves. We must not be hurt when one who is dear to us would keep a secret and doesn't want to tell us about it. It is his or her prerogative, and believe me... secrets are kept for the interest of common good. If it is bound to happen, you will eventually come to know about it. Now, cheer up, dear, and put that smile on your face. Your friend must see you as a very dear person. Think positively. And try to logon more often. We missed you here :)

I would say that if someone kept me a secret I would find out why. The only way you are going to get a real answer is to ask that person. If it's a deep friendship...like a real relationship and you are being kept a secret who are you being kept a secret from? Family....other friends....other women? I'd be leary of someone that kept me as a secret!

p.s. welcome back.

it can be both. depends on the secret itself.