daughter ignores me....

@moxalot (100)
United States
September 22, 2007 4:06pm CST
Hi.... What would you do? I can sit and call my 2 year old for a while. She'll sit there and ignore me. My husband says, 'She's only 2. It's a normal thing.' But it's not that normal. Not every 2 year old totally disregards their mom. Sure every once in a while, but not all the time. It is so frustrating. What if I was trying to tell her something important? Sometimes I just want to sit down and cry. It's gotten worse recently. Mostly because her dad has been undermining me at every turn. Letting her stay up until all hours of the night. ERRRR!!! Anyway, I better get going as the girls just woke up... Hope all is well
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@deebomb (15323)
• United States
22 Sep 07
Frist why do you sit and call your daughter over and over. Once or twice should be enough. at the third time get up and go get her then get down on her level and let her know that you called and she needs to come to you when you call her. I see so amy parents stand or sit in one place and just tell the kids over and over don't do that don't go there, instead of going and getting the child. Calling and telling them once or twice then go get them and take them to do what ever it is yoou want them to do. The problem is so many parents just want to call or yell at the kids. Go get the kid and get down on her level then speak to her. At the age of two she may be really absorbed in what she is doing and not really hear you.
@mrsbrian (1951)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I have to agree with deebomb here her reasoning is the correct way to go about getting your daughters attention and while your on her level let her know that you expect her to answer you when you call her. as for your husband he must have no respect for your parenting ,the two of you need to have a set way of doing things if one has a way an the other something else you will have a lot of trouble down the road best to get a handle on it now
@TTucker3 (147)
• United States
22 Sep 07
HI, well lets just say been there done that, yes two year olds will ignore you to a certain extent, but I have to agree also that she has no consequenses. just recently..(my daughter is three almost four) we have been fightin the battle with her to clean her room and fo rthe longest time she would say "I NOT BIG I CAN"T DO IT" which was cute in the begining, but as you well know I am sure kids can tear a room apart in less than two minutes..so she would make it a pig pen to th epoint you couldn't even walk in her room...well I finally figured out what to do and it worked..THE CORNER! when she didn't listen to me I would tell her she had one more chance and in the corner she would go, after her standing in the corner sreaming at me for like maybe two minutes I ignored her she felt said to me in a very humble voice I just wanna clean my room mommy, and she did, spotless in fact..suprised me. so I gave her a treat, and we worked on it again the next day..she then did it again, after the corner came to her once. the husband undermining you, thats not good, in fatc my husband and I have been going through the same problem, and it really hurts my ability to make her listen when i am the one home with her all day. He has been working on it, we now remind each talk quiet, or wait till we are in private. so good luck, I can't say it will get easier, because the older they get the more of a mind they get..LOL
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@reeseyj (906)
• United States
22 Sep 07
Thats why your daughter does it because she can with no conciquences.If your husband wants to keep your daughter up at night he can deal with her in the morning to. You can always without saying a word take your daughter and put her to bed.You need to let your husband know how much this bothers u because its only gonna get worse. When a man does this kinda stuff its because they dont respect your opinion as a mother. Men who respect your role as a mother never interfere cause they know mommy knows best. good luck.
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@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
22 Sep 07
If you let her get away with it now it'll just get worse. First of all I'd make sure she can hear you, wax build up can interfere with hearing for example. Then once you've verified that decide on an appropriate consequence. Since she is only 2 a short (1min) time out perhaps. As for your hubby he needs to quit undermining you! Sure she's cute now but she won't be cute when she's a misbehaving teen. ;)
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I am sorry, that does not sound right, most 2 years old do not ignore there Mom, you said it is getting worse? Have you talked to your doctor about it? Does she talk and respond you other people? Does it seem like her verbal skills are regressing? Is she ignoring you alone or other people as well? If you could answer these questions. I might be able to help some. It could be a hearing problem. It could be something else.
@moxalot (100)
• United States
24 Sep 07
Thanks... Since I wrote this I have been getting on her level. That has seemed to help. Anyway, she has been a little better. I need to get her hearing tested again (when she turns 3). I had it tested last year because her doctor and I were concerned because she had few words. About a month ago she had a verbal explosion around people she knows really well. Her dad, me, Dr. A, and her doctor... But no one else. So we'll see. She follows direction from other people really well. This is one reason we started her in a mom's day out program. Thank you guys for all your suggestions. Hope you all are having a great day...
@cyntrow (8524)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I'm not trying to scare you, but some above mentioned hearing problems; autism is also a possibility. I've raised 5 kids and they didn't start ignoring me until they were 7 or 8. I'd talk to the doctor.
• United States
23 Sep 07
Just for the sake of ruling it out have her checked by a Doctor, it may be fine, but just check, she may be having signs of Autism, which they have difficulty communicating, and ralating to people.
@violeta_va (4834)
• Australia
23 Sep 07
I dont want to alarm you or anything this is just a sugestion but do have her hearing tested. We had the same thing with my son. He has never had an infection in his life but some how his ear got blocked and had water in it and than a build up of wax. They removed the wax (simple 1 min thing and painless) and he changed completly. He complained about the noise as he was not used to hearing so much but in those 3 weeks after that he learned more words than he did in 3 years. (god knows for how long they were blocked as we took him to doctors but they never actually had a look insite as such). In a way if you had her checked you will know that she is ok.