my friends list on mylot....is this being rude?

United States
September 22, 2007 4:56pm CST
I am just wondering if this is being rude or mean... I get over 30-40 e-mails from ONE person on mylot and all of this persons posts are non sense.. So I deleted them from my friends list am I being rude by doing this? Personally I am tired of this and my e-mail filling up with such spam... If this was happening to you would you delete someone too to so you don't have to keep getting over fills on your e-mail? Some people on my list do limit what they post like 5-8 a day which isn't bad at all but 30-40 a day is over doing it... And the sad part is when I reply this person don't even respond, just keeps making posts.....
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@beaniegdi (1966)
22 Sep 07
I think if you are talking about being notified when any of your friends make a post you can turn that off and then just check out your friends posts using the list at the left of the page. That will stop you getting loads of emails as obviously if you have lots of friends then you can easily be getting hundreds of emails daily. I hope this helps. Have fun.
• United States
23 Sep 07
I do get alot of e-mails a day but when I go threw them they are 95% hers that she keeps posting and has no intention of going back and answering them.. I feel that's a bit rude on her part mainly when people go and take the time to answer her.. I did learn to skip over them but recently found one that was of interest she asked "what color is your hair"? I replied a nice reply and a picture not one single reply back from her.. Everything she answers she answers she wants answers for herself that has nothing to do with the reply from the replier.. I don't get it.. Oh well!!!
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• United States
24 Sep 07
Patty that's not true I did 2 post yesterday and replied to the people who replied to me and I did make money from it, so you do get paid for replying to people that respond to you post!
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• United States
24 Sep 07
I forgot than again it shouldn't matter either because you want answers and advice from people and most people whom I respond too have always helped me by answering.. I think that's what mylot is all about friends!
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@deebomb (15347)
• United States
22 Sep 07
Yes i had a member do that some time ago. After a while I did delete her too. It got to the point that "discussions my friends started" was filled with her silly discussions. I can see some but as you said 30 to 04 thats way too much to have to handle. I would delete her because she is not here to take part in discussions. Your right it is sad when a member dosen't comment or respond to their own discussions.
• United States
23 Sep 07
We might be talking about the same person here... Not exactly sure though... It gets annoying... Now sense that happened I am able to actually to see my other friends posts and now hopefully I will stay caught up with those! There are alot of people/friends on here that have some very interesting topics that I like to read and reply too.. And thank you for your reply!!
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@deebomb (15347)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Your welcome. I don't think it is the same person because this was 6 months ago and I haven't seen her on here for a long time.
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• United States
24 Sep 07
Your right than it's not... This person is still here and still pounding them posts out every day... I just think people will get sick of it and start reporting her if she's on their lists or they just probably simply deleted her as well..
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@Calais (10905)
• Australia
22 Sep 07
No you are not rude..They are..They dont care, they just want to try and get a cent...If they are not quality discussions, why bother..Who on earth would start that many anyway...Dont worry I would have done the same...
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@Calais (10905)
• Australia
22 Sep 07
Cheers...We are...
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• United States
23 Sep 07
Your so very right Calais, I admit I start a few but I do try and make them as quality as I can... I mean when I ask the question and want an oppion I want a long one so its not a waste of people's time to answer it.. Thank you both for your replies...
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@raijin (10380)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
LoL I do get alot of those, so I dump them because it doesn't make sense to me. After dumping them, another one'll come and then sooner or later I get to realize that I added another one of them!;) I delete them from time to time, I don't think you're being rude since we all have rights on what to choose. If you feel you're bored and tired of reading their post, feel free to delete them on your list and move on. I also experience those members who just start their own post then leave it as it is, it ticks me off so I delete them too. It makes me think that all they do is post for the money, not to discuss and share ideas with others. Then after that, I don't post at their discussions anymore because for me, they are loss is will be my gain!;)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Sense I've been a member here theres only one person who's done that, Sure I have a few others that make posts but they are well worth reading and responding too because they also respond back to what people have to say... Your also right on they just want to make money but what they don't understand is that they still make money replying to people's responses..
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@aorr01 (15)
• United States
22 Sep 07
I do not think that it is rude to delete that person...they probably dont even realize you have deleted them : )
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• United States
23 Sep 07
I don't think they did either the only way they are going to is if they try to send me a message which never has happened sense I've been on her list so I don't think she'll even notice.. Thanks for your reply!
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@reeseyj (906)
• United States
22 Sep 07
Know your not being rude.Thats kinda wierd.
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• United States
23 Sep 07
Like a upper reply had said they are just after that extra cent and I find that very true... Really why would some just post and post if they weren't...
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@talisman (1308)
• United States
22 Sep 07
It's your friends list and therefore, your choice on who you decide to have on it or not. However, I think if the amount of discussions were bugging you, you should have just turned off the notifications for new discussions on them instead of outright deleting them. That's my opinion, though. Again, your friends list, your decision. If you're happy with it, then that's all that matters.
• United States
23 Sep 07
Well in a way you might be right but than again none of the things this person ask is really worth answering as i stated she don't reply to any of repliers what's really the sense right... Thanks for your reply!
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@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
hello wisconsin26!, whoah, that much of emails from one person, i can understand the horror. i don't think you are being rude but i am sure you have told that person to make the limit. i believe you are one nice, sweet person. i am new here, i've been enjoying so far. communicating with a lot of interesting people. by far, all nice persons that i am encountering. drop by mylot area sometime. take care, Perry
• United States
24 Sep 07
Thank you Perry! I think mylot should make some sort of limit on posts that we make I mean some people are just plain money hungry and will spam the whole board if needed.. I remember this person saying I don't want to work... But I do on the net... Now we all know we can't make a reasonable living online well than again some have but this person is from another country and is limit programs so there is no way they are going to making such a thing online.. As I replied one time to her post she'd be better off waking up and getting ready for work this sit here and hope to make a living.. But of course no reply! Thank you for yours!
@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
24 Sep 07
hey there pretty! i sure hope you are done with her, hope she realizes facts as well.i will see you more often then, don't worry, i don't send emails galore....hehehehe. Great days ahead! Smile now....Perry
@jmbauer (43)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Nope, not being rude at all. It's your friends list and you manage it as you deem fit. I can see the desire to garner an extra cent, but you shouldn't feel obligated to read all the nonsense if you aren't so inclined. I think it would be another matter altogether if the content was quality (I dare say you wouldn't mind so much), but spam is a constant drek for all of us who are online and you should feel no prickings of conscience for taking measures against it...especially in a forum setting! You added the party of your own volition, so too should they be removed if you feel it necessary. Good luck, whatever your decision.
• United States
23 Sep 07
Sure I can understand people come to make money, talk and things but I think the main reason for this site is conversation and advice I know if this wasn't a paying site we wouldn't have people posting 30-40 a day.. This person wouldn't even be here I'm sure... Thanks for your reply!
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• United States
23 Sep 07
I think you're right. I first joined this site because it paid, but I'm not going to post minimal content for a few extra pennies. I would simply delete and forget about it.
@limcyjain (3523)
• India
23 Sep 07
You have every right to decide who deserves to be your friend and with whom you want to interact and if someone is distrubing you and is not acting as a friend should you have every right to delete that person from your friends list.
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• United States
24 Sep 07
Agreed lim and thank you for your reply! Happy posting to you!
@vidyadas (415)
• India
23 Sep 07
i think what you have done is right...you can report to mylot and get his accout banned... whats the point in replying to same discussion again and again??i don't get him or her...
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• United States
23 Sep 07
I have done that many times and nothing has happened as I've stated I simply given up... I'm guessing it's ok for people to post nonsense to cheat the forum and not to mention using other people's work to do the same.. Thanks for your reply!
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@hailie17 (448)
23 Sep 07
I think if you were finding this person's MyLot activities irritating and they didn't make the effort to respond when you reply then you did the right thing deleting them. I haven't been in this situation, have only been on MyLot one month but i think if this happened to me i would have done exactly the same thing.
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• United States
24 Sep 07
Thanks Hailie for your reply, Welcome to mylot by the way! though you been here a month it's always nice to see new people around! Enjoy your time here!!
@sunshinecup (7882)
23 Sep 07
I am willing to bet it is the same darn person I just turned their notify off to. They were, as you said, posting 30 posts a day and never responding to a thing. No, I don't think you are mean. I delete people off my list all the time for this kind of stuff.
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• United States
23 Sep 07
Ha ha ha it probably was... I had a few people wanting to add me as a friend, I think sure hopefully when they post they will go back and reply, which i am sure they will.. Most people do.. Thank you Sunshine for your reply!
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@sunshine4 (8710)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I don't think that this is rude at all. I would have donet he same thing. Get rid of all the spamers and this site will be much better.
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• United States
23 Sep 07
Agree 100% I've tried to do my part on keeping the site clean but sometimes I feel like the site don't really care much.. So just deleting the person and moving on is alot let stress on me so I don't have to bother reading non sense post that only require a line or two.. Thanks for your reply!
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@ctrymuziklvr (11063)
• United States
23 Sep 07
This is the reason I turned my notifier off. The way I see it is I can find my friends discussions on my own without having my email filled up them. I have over 200 friends on my list so imagine what my email would look like? No, I don't think you are wrong or rude for deleting that friend at all.
• United States
23 Sep 07
Thanks ctry... I don't think i would of but i am just tired of dealing and see cheat the site when i turn this person in nothing is being done and it drives me crazy actually... It makes me wonder is it ok for people to cheat to make money? I don't think it's right.. But my guess is it's ok... Thanks for your reply!
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I think you did the right thing by deleting them..I would feel it to be spam as well. If they don't even bother to reply then that would be another reason to take them off the list...don't worry or feel bad....This isn't a contest to see how many someone can post in a day..It is actually maybe defeating the purpose...
• United States
23 Sep 07
I really don't feel bad, I just feel this person don't deserve my attention.. I've always responded to her post with no replies back from her... That is the rudest anyone can be toward someone on here.. Yeah there may be times that that you can't reply to one because you already said it to the above post, but there is a reason but just not answering and making ton's of post isn't right.. I do come to look for answers from my posts, advice and simple conversation and it's been great and i know now it will be even better! Thanks Feona for you reply!
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@jcj_111776 (3221)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
Hello wisconsin. What you did isn't rude. But what your "friend" did was. It's like she asked you a questiona and when you answered back, she turned her back on you. I was really surprised at the number of discussions she can post in a day. And I thought a friend of mine was doing so much, and he only posts about less than 15 I think. But the difference is, he does try to answer back in some responses, if not all. If I were in your shoes, I'll be doing the same thing,with no regret or guilty feelings. She brought it upon herself. A discussion should be exchanges of ideas and I guess, she just doesn't understand the true purpose of it. And again, I'm shocked at the number of discussions she can do.
• United States
24 Sep 07
Me too, but the thing is and I have reported this, Some of it isn't even her own questions she's copies and paste them here on mylot from another forum we both once were at.. Well I am still a member there but she is no longer... Anyway I think she will get caught and mylot will finally than do something to her for all the cheating she's done here.. I figured if I just deleted I don't have to worry about reading her non sense...
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• Philippines
24 Sep 07
I guess it's better that you have deleted her from your list. I know how you feel when it comes to sorting and wading through tons of e-mail notifications. But to learn that the discussions are completely senseless, are entirely another thing. Let's just hope she doesn't request for your permission again to add her up as your friend.
• United States
24 Sep 07
They do have a deny button so I will just use that.. I maybe still on hers though I am not sure.. Oh well I have 25 people here saying what I did wasn't rude so I will stick to that.. That JCJ for your reply!
@anniepa (26858)
• United States
23 Sep 07
No, you're not being rude. Are you referring to e-mail notifications of discussions started by this person or PMs? I'd especially say if all their posts were nonsense it certainly wasn't rude. I've also found some posts to be nonsense. True, what may seem like a great topic to some may be a total yawner to others but at least TRY to make it a little interesting! I try to post on a variety of subjects some silly and light and others of a serious nature. Since you're my friend you have my "permission" to let me know if I'm getting boring. Annie
• United States
23 Sep 07
E-mail notifications are what I'm talking about.. She's been asking questions like almost crying cause her star went down, from blue to red or something, and or why she can't make alot of money.. Truthfully it's simple reply to the replies but when you do respond there is never a answer from her and at least not when i reply to them... Thanks for your reply!
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@anniepa (26858)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I saw when I read a little further that you meant the e-mail notifications. I still think you did the right thing, after all it's totally up to each member who to be friends with. I'm not here to make money...true, I do check my earnings but that's just icing on the cake. I try very hard to respond to as many of my friends discussions and responses as I can but I do fall behind once and awhile so please forgive me for that! lol I have some on my friends list who post what seems like dozens of discussions a day and it does get time consuming and there are some I just have no reply for, if you know what I mean. I have some friends in my offline life as well that tend to talk about "nothing", I think just to hear themselves...lol After awhile you just sort of tune them out and think, gee, they don't really expect an answer or reaction to that, do they? Anyway, as I said, I try not to be too thin-skinned so I really would appreciate it if someone would tell me if they had a problem with me or my discussions or responses or anything else pertaining to myLot. Hey, that's what friends are for, right? Annie
• United States
24 Sep 07
I do agree money is a bonus that's for sure.. But what I like most is conversations from friends that want to talk and look into anymore deeper than really that, sure they think the same money is nice but I don't see everyone on my friends list pounding out post to make money.... Thank you so much for your reply again!
@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I would either turn alerts off or just remove from my friends list. I have a few friends who must post 15-20 discussions a day, most are things I don't understand or don't relate to. I turned off alerts but didn't remove them from my list - mostly because I can't even find who I am looking for on the list. I wish it was alphabetical or I could search for a friend by name. But I don't think you are being rude at all. I know we are supposed to start discussions but I kind of think going over a certain amount of day feels like spam and it does annoy me. Especially if I don't understand what they are saying. I do understand there are many cultures and many nationalities here and I try very hard to understand people but sometimes, I just don't. Other times, the questions are like three words and make no sense. I feel justified removing a friend in those cases. I think you did the right thing.
@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
23 Sep 07
PS: Congrats on your 1000th discussion!
• United States
24 Sep 07
Thanks Patty, I also try to understand some cultures too... They sometimes are hard but when a person just throws non sense in the forum it's not worth even looking at or touching.. 15-20 really isn't all that much but as long as they are worth reading that's the thing and answering... 20-30 and sometimes more gets annoying when you read for example "should i go visit my boyfriend" and nothing more... I mean come on already that's nothing it doesn't say anything just spam clogging the page... Thank you for the congrads on my 1000 post I worked pretty hard to get here it does feel very nice too!!
@nill_07 (1105)
• Bangladesh
26 Sep 07
Rude never effectfull for nonsense.. So don't be anxious about your punishment. Really cute baby!!
• United States
26 Sep 07
~Thanks Nill.... I guess you know sometimes I am the person who feels bad because I sometimes feel like I did something wrong but than again know that I really didn't.. Over all I do feel she was the rude one that don't have a care for what other's have to say and posting 30-40 each day just to fill up the forum.. Kinda sad on her part just to make a few cents... Thanks for your reply!