If you have to make a choice between family and career, what would you pick?

@terrych (1227)
United States
September 22, 2007 6:04pm CST
This is a question hard to answer for me, family it is so important... but what about you professional development?
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@OURDEW (4812)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I think staying home and taking care of the family is most important. That is what I did. If at all possible family would come first.
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Congratulations!! I guess you did the best decision for your life!
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• Canada
23 Sep 07
I honestly think it all depends on what family your specifically talking about terrych! If you are talking about your husband and/or child(ren) then yes family comes first. As for your parents, siblings, etc I could see where work would come first. If you need to take a job or a course in school away from your family I am sure they will understand. I however could personally never EVER leave my hubby and daughter behind!
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Again my friend I agree with you, it is only that I am single, so I have my parents family, and sometime I feel like beeing away I am loosing valuable time with them... same with my sisters and specially my brother.
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• Canada
23 Sep 07
I can understand where you are coming from, but if you don't take a job or course away from them then you have a few questions to ask yourself... a) will you regret it for the rest of your life? b) will you be able to get a job you want without leaving? I know your family would understand if you left to either get schooling or a job you really enjoy. I also think that if you don't go then they may feel guilty for a long time that they "held you back." If I were you I would just sit down with them and tell them how your feeling!
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I talk with them, and I know they want the best for me, thats why I am in US, but anytime I go there to visit, or when I talk with them, I can feel that they miss me so much... I can see it in ther faces, and and hear their voices... All that make me thing about if it is the right decision... and I just got here, and I have to offer to saty here and work after school... so that keep me thinking about it... Thanks for your words!
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@leonarda (92)
• Bulgaria
23 Sep 07
In many cases you can have both. You can work and have a career (well, maybe you won't be the president of a Fortune Top 100 company) and spend 20-30 hours a week for your family. And I think this applies to both men and women. So maybe the question is more about the balance between the two, not which one to throw out.
@terrych (1227)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Leonarda thenks for your answer, and understand your point of view and I think your are right... But tell me about my case, I am studying abroad, so I will be away at least for 2 years... I can be with them in he phone or on line, but it is not the same!
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• Bulgaria
23 Sep 07
Hi, Could you clarify what you mean by "family"? Is it your Mom/Dad, sisters, brothers, cousins, etc. or is it your wife/husband and kids? Because there is a difference between the two types of families.
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I am single... so I only have one family!
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@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
24 Sep 07
well i would have to say my family,they just mean the world to me and with out them i would be lost.i did have a great oppurtunity to work on a celebrity boat and do peoples hair and travel the world and the money was so awesome over $1000 a week but i turned it down because of my family,yea we all need money to survive but my family means more than money to me,so i wouldnt beable to do this.but i do hope you make a great choice and just follow your heart hon.
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
24 Sep 07
I just keep trying, I hope then when I get my own family I will say it secure as you, I prefer my family...
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• India
23 Sep 07
Career comes only second to me , to me family is first, then only career
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Good for you! it is good to hear someone that really know their priorities in life...
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• Chile
23 Sep 07
For me, family will always be there for you, no matter what, so, if a have to make a choice I'll always prefer my career. I know that my family will always give me a hand any time, so I can have both things real good, family and career. Greetings Chilean Friend
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I guess each person is a different world, I know my family will be always there for me, but soemtimes when I am away I fell that I need them, or they need me... and I am so far, and I can not hug them...
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@shiloh_222 (5480)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
striking a balance between the two is so darn difficult. well, right now, i am still single, living at home and with house helper to do our laundry, cooking and cleaning. I just cant imagine how difficult and frustrating it will be to care for your family while pursuing your career. not to forget about tons of chores. with many people to take in consideration, we should expect the unexpected. the state of your family will be in also depends on the capacity to provide for them. plus, i spent my time studying and working on my computer that many people are complaining that im becoming a recluse. guess, i will just cross bridge when i get there
@terrych (1227)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Well, to me I think then being a woman and have a family and career at the same time will be a big challenge... so better get ready!
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@huntbird (277)
• China
23 Sep 07
I will choose family ,in my life,nothing is ipmortant that my family.Maybe i wasn't a man to creat big career.
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
23 Sep 07
You have your poition, that is so good... Thanks ofr shAre it!
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• United States
23 Sep 07
I would chose family over profesion. No can ever tell me that anything is more important than family
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I understand your position, but here is my question, I am single, and my family are my sisters, brother, mom and dad... and I am studying abroad... Do you think that I left my family behind?
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• Pakistan
22 Sep 07
Professional development is most important. Every member of a family should prove himself or herself stable in his or her profession first. The person with low professional developent could not get attention of other family members. The person with developed profession can sport not only himself, can also help and sport the others of his or her family. So I would conclude that profession is more improtant than a family.
@terrych (1227)
• United States
23 Sep 07
And what happened if you get a job far awy from your family and you can not take them? Would you leave your kids because of this job opportunity?
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
I always believe that it is important to know your priority in life. If I get married and will have the chance to stay at home, I would prioritize my family over a career. My idea is that, building a great relationship in the family must be the number one priority of every married individuals. Professional development is important too, but it is a priority anyway?
@terrych (1227)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I know both are important, and I guess it is hard to decide which one is more, beacuse they are related... you need your work to support your family... but again money it is a medium and not a purpose in life.. at least for me!
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
I would agree to that my friend. Money is a medium but it is not the purpose. I think if we prioritize it can also lead to balancing our time to be able to serve the things that are important for us. God bless!
@terrych (1227)
• United States
24 Sep 07
Yes, thanks for your comments!
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@davido (1623)
• Canada
27 Sep 07
Both do count but everything in life has its own timing. It depends on the way we view life that make us to consider an issue over the other, family has their place and carrier its own place. If you are a married person definately your immediate family makes or mare you and it falls on how you rate them in your day to day activities. If you are single then you have to develop your self noe that you are single even if it means making over a thousand mile journey, because at the end of the day your journey will yield its own result in making you (when married) a responsible person, because you will be able to take care of your family.
@davido (1623)
• Canada
27 Sep 07
I maintain for a married man/woman your family counts and matters above all.
@terrych (1227)
• United States
27 Sep 07
Yeah, I agree... I think that is the point... If you are married you have to go for family... that is because that is the family you choose?