Do you set an age bracket for you to get married?

@MarieJ23 (1040)
United States
September 24, 2007 1:39am CST
How old are you when you get married? Or if you are not married yet, what is your age preference when you want to settle down?
6 responses
@g3raldin3 (169)
• Philippines
24 Sep 07
During my teen years, I told my friends that I want to get married by the age of 25. It never happened. Not that I don't have a bf that time. I got two marriage proposals when I was 23 and 25. But I didn't accept it yet as I can feel that I am not yet emotionally ready. So I told myself, I'll get married when I am already 100% sure of what I am putting myself into. My bf proposed to me last December and we became officially engaged just this Sept. 7, 2007. I accepted the proposal because I am now ready and I do really love my bf. So, we will be married next year. :)
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
24 Sep 07
It's good you didn't pursue the two marriage proposals just to get your ideal age of getting married. That's nice to know that you have accepted your fiance and you're ready to really tie-the-knot. By the way, just curious, how old are you now? =)
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
24 Sep 07
You did the good thing g3raldin! JUst like you, I believe that marriage should not be forced only because you want to get married by that age. As for me, 25 or 26 was my ideal age to get married and 27 or 28 is my ideal age to have a baby. Well, I was married 2 yrs in advance with the least age of my ideal age bracket, I'm 23 now but will be turning 24 by January. Prior to making my big decision, I did a lot of reflection and self-consolidation because I wanna make sure that I know all the pros and cons of what I am heading too. No regrets so far though. As of now, my ideal age of having a baby remains the same. Hubby agreed also to have a baby 5 yrs from now. CONGRATULATIONS by the way on your engagement and the upcoming wedding! BEst wishes!
@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
24 Sep 07
Whoaaaoooo! Thats good for you. Congratulations and keep it tight. About kids, I dont think for i can wait till 28. Me i want kids as soon as posible after we tie the knot. But now that am 2 yrs older than you let me go b4 u then I will welcome you to the mothers club just as you did welcome me to the wifeys club...........hahhaaaaaa LOL. Cheers and enjoy you bliss. best wishes
@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
24 Sep 07
When I was a teenager, i set to be married by age 25. But it dint stick to my mind. When my bf suprised me with a diamond, and we set the date to be february next year is when it dawned on me that I will be exactly 25 years. It just came as a suprise to me. He will also be 25 but we have dated for 5 years. so sometime its good to set age preferance but dont insist on it coz you will subject yourself to a lifetime of agony.
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
24 Sep 07
Wow! What a coincidence! As what they say, good things come when you least expect it! Oh by the way, my warm congratulations here for the upcoming wedding! By now, I want to welcome you to the "wifey club". hehehe
@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
24 Sep 07
Wifey club! LOL, for how long have you been in the club? Is is hard to maintain or everything drops into its place once u get married? Any kids? Me I think when we get kids things will change. As in the kids will come between us! what do you say?
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
24 Sep 07
I just registered in this club lately, to be exact just about 4 months ago. A neophyte..LOL..hehehe...But by the time that you will be officially in on Feb, I will surely have more to share with you already! Well, so far everything is doing great, honestly. Like other new couples, we have our share of adjustments but we are thankful that we don't have difficult time merging our thoughts and views in life. The secret? hehehe..not anymore now coz I am sharing it to you.. Seriously, both of us are willing to listen, open up whatever thoughts we have, sit down and talk every issue, we never let the sun set without saying sorry if there was a disagreement & the most important thing I guess is we both want to have a lifetime commitment with our vow and we are working more to realize it. As of now, we don't have kids yet, not until 5 yrs from now or it could be sooner than that but not in 2 or 3 yrs.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
24 Sep 07
When I was younger, I have always wanted to get married by age 28, like my mother did. But now that I'm 27 and there's only 1 year to becoming 28, I have my apprehensions. I love my boyfriend so much and he did informally ask me to marry him but we haven't set a date yet. I don't think we'd marry by age 28 (my age) but it's ok. I guess age doesn't really matter at this point. I've seen so many couples falling apart or divorcing that I'd wish and really want that our relationship wouldn't be hurried for my age, but rather we both could really understand each other well and decide if we really want to pursue our life together or not. I am even contemplating these days whether we should try living together to see how things really are. But we'll see. For now, we're enjoying our lives as boyfriend and girlfriend. Thus, for me the ideal of getting married at 28, still remains an ideal but will not be forced upon. :)
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
24 Sep 07
Base on experience, having apprehensions or a lot of what if's when the a prospected wedding is approaching is just normal. I have my share on that! Hubby & I were officially engaged in a year and when the wedding is just couple of months away, I started to have cold feet. I love my husband (fiance by then) so much, no question on that but like you I am also looking into that divorce rate and it scared me. As much as possible, I want it out of my marriage life. Praying to that.... Well, just don't force it yet when you think you both still need more time to think about it. I know a a couple of people who tried living in together for a year or more before they get married, some ended up to marriage, a few decided that they can't be together in one roof due to irreconcilable differences.
@jhanna (334)
• Philippines
25 Sep 07
I don't believe that there is a certain age for marrying. But I don't believe either that marrying as young as 18 below is advisable. I think marrige will just come and knock on your door the least you expect it. If you think you are mature enough to commit then you are ready to marry. The age does not matter (they say) but it is when you are ready emotionally, financially and physically.
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
25 Sep 07
Maturity in all aspects of life is what counts the most in getting married. Yes, certainly I agree with you jhanna, age doesn't matter at all but a couple should at least make sure to it that they are financially stable or at least have a stable income especially when there are already kids along the way.
• Malaysia
24 Sep 07
I married age 25 years old. When I was at school, one of friend ask me. When I will married, I simply said soon after graduated. I decide myself and at the time I haven't have any boyfriend yet. soon I know I already mature than just a simple short of time I finding one suit to me.
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
24 Sep 07
It's wonderful to know that you finally find someone whom you will gonna share your life with. Here's to more beautiful years of your marriage life!
@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
24 Sep 07
I got married when I was almost 28 years old (28 years old minus 26 days). When I was a kid, my Dad told me, "The best age for a woman to get married is 25." Being the rebel that I was, I told him, "I'll NEVER get married." He panicked and said, "Please don't say such a thing!" HE HE HE HE... However, when I was a teenager, I thought that 27 would be a good age to get married, though I never really wanted it so bad. I mean, I just let it flow. I think there's really no "good" age to get married, 'coz you'll never know when you'll find "the one" for you. My aunt (Dad's sister) found the love of her life only when she was 49 years old. ;-D
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
24 Sep 07
I'll definitely agree with you, no one knows when you find that special one, one day you will just wake up having him in your life. See? Who knows your aunt will gonna find the love of her life at 49! Life has really a lot of surprises and love also does a lot of "magic" to people lives. Well, at least your dad is not worried anymore for his daughter to grow old alone coz you found him already....hehehe...
• Finland
24 Sep 07
HE HE HE...yeah, that's true about my Dad. And about my aunt...yes, none of us thought she'd ever get married, but she did! Surprise, surprise! ;-D