With dignity

@jillhill (37354)
United States
September 24, 2007 3:53pm CST
Today I saw a couple half way carrying their elderly mother into a restaurant. The older woman could hardly walk. I have seen it time and time again where families take someone out of a rest home on an outing, sometimes that person is barely able to eat and by the looks of things sometimes not able to make it to the bathroom in time. I have told my kids that when I get to that point that I don't want them to do me the favor of dragging me out in public. If they want to treat me bring it to my home or where ever I am living at the time. I want to remain dignified in my old age without the embarassment of spilling all over my self or wetting my pants where the general public can see. I want to grow old with dignity. How do you feel about this?
4 responses
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I'm kind of on the fence on this one b/c I see your point to not wanting to be a public spectical but at the same time I have a Grandma who is wheelchair bound, has to be taken to the restroom and sometimes needs help eating but she loves to go out to eat. She loves to be around other ppl and see things and I'd hate to think she would be deprived of that b/c she's gotten older and isn't in the greatest of conditions. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
29 Sep 07
If she enjoys it...then it's right. For me it wouldn't be right unless I asked my family to do it.
@DJ9020 (1596)
• United States
25 Sep 07
If a person is in such a condition that they can't feed themselves or control themselves, then I don't think it is a kindness to take them out in public. They are probably very aware of their limitations and terribly embarrassed. If I get to that point, just come visit me in my room, bring something nice from a restaurant and spend some time with me, in my surroundings, rather than drag me out in public someplace. I'm with you.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Sep 07
This is what I think.....thanks for sharing!
@KarenLO (238)
• United States
25 Sep 07
I agree with you that I want to have my dignity when I am old and feeble. I do not want to be taken into the public where my friends can see that I have lost my ability to be me.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Sep 07
Totally true.
@remaster74 (4067)
• Greece
24 Sep 07
I tell my self that I would like the same thing as you do. Then I consider that this will be a burden for my son and I choose that God will do me the favour to let me die before I reach that point.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Sep 07
For sure. And save everyone some grief.