Do you use appropriate words at the appropriate time?

Words and their effect - How to use good words
@dpk262006 (56718)
Delhi, India
September 25, 2007 11:54pm CST
One Great Philospher has said that – ‘Words are your slave until and unless you do not utter them, you become slaves of your words once you have spoken them’. I think this ‘thought’ appear very correct. If we utter some unpleasant or nastry words, our spoken words may land us in deep trouble. On the other hand when we use positive and pleasant words, it creates magical effect on the others. I feel appropriate use of words at appropriate time can make or mar our relations with someone. Do you feel that slip of toungue can sometimes be very costly so much and so that it can spoil our relations with someone very badly? Please share your thoughts with me! Thanks in advance.
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@subathra (3519)
• India
26 Sep 07
Absolutely right and this fits much when words are used during acute anger.I always think before i speak specially when iam in an anger mood.I know that words hurt someone so much than lashes hence i use them very carefully.If something geos beyond extreme and my anger is in such a stage of outburst..i never loose words which can hurt one badly and keep calm inorder to maintain the smooth relationship i have with them to go in a long run. So as when iam in a happy mood i express my words with happiness so as it pleases someone.A right appreciation is necessary with good wordings to praise someone.
@dpk262006 (56718)
• Delhi, India
26 Sep 07
Thanks for agreeing with me and for coming out with your wonderful thoughts. Have a nice day! How are you? :):):)
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@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
3 Oct 07
Deepak, I feel our toungue is the most powrful of all organs - it can change lives, it can motivate, destroy, kill, build and soothe hearts. So, we should be very careful while using it. Judicious and proper use of words is desirable, as you have rightly pointed out. But we are forgetting that at a rapid rate. In today's world of fast pace, ppl hardly care to ponder over the words they utter. As a result, we tend to hurt ppl habitually. Using right words at the proper situations is an art and decorum. Some ppl are every good at it, I wish I could be like that. Deepak, I am not a good talker and grope of words. Here, I would like to add that difference in culture and customs and language many a times lead to miscommunication. With the world coming so close through internet, we should try and learn the international etiquette and decorum through the right use of language. Thanks for a great topic of discussion. smiles...
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@dpk262006 (56718)
• Delhi, India
3 Oct 07
Mimpi! I agree with you that appropriate use of our toungue can make or break a relationship. I try to be careful while using words, but sometime I commit mistakes, which in the long run proves very costly for me. I wish I could be more dimploatic and could learn diplomacy. I agree that difference in language culture can sometimes create communication gap, causing unnecessary trouble. Thanks sooooooooooo much for appriciating the topic. You made my day and your constant encouragement always keeps me on the high. :):) Have a great day!
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
3 Oct 07
Deepak, As far as i have seen your posts here in mylot , i get that you are genuine and truthful with your words. you are the kind of person who would never hurt anyone with harsh words. You are one of the few users here who is most decent and I really appreciate it.
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@dpk262006 (56718)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 07
Thanks for using all the BIG appreciating words for me. I feel honoured. I try not to use incorrect or indecent words here in my discussions/replies/comments and would never like to hurt anyone with my words, in my life. Deepak,
@SONALIKA (573)
• India
2 Oct 07
exactly.i feel our words express our personality.according to my near ones i am very diplomatic while answering whereas according to myself i speak my heart and mind but yes in refined manner so as to i don't hurt anybody's sentiments.
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@dpk262006 (56718)
• Delhi, India
3 Oct 07
I wish that I could be diplomatic as you are. I am very straightforward, though I try to use appropirate words for an appropriate occasion, yet sometimes I falter and lend myself into trouble, by speaking truth. I need to learn diplomacy, will you please help? Deepak Have a nice day!
@kaplya (1578)
• India
1 Oct 07
sometimes i wonder about that;) it's just that i happen to not to use inappropriate words at a appropriate time!lol and i guess there weren't any case of relationship going bad because of my not using the right word at the right time since my tennage years:)
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@dpk262006 (56718)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 07
I believe you are wise enough to use appropriate words at an appropriate occasion.
@Buchi_bulla (8304)
• India
30 Sep 07
Appropriate words always do magic. When my son loved a girl, who belonged to different caste, her mother did not give way. I just said, "give me your daughter, I will take care of her like my own, PLEASE", you know what, immediately she agreed for the marriage. Many a times I noticed this. Words create great effect in the minds of people. But they should really come from your heart and you should mean them.
@dpk262006 (56718)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 07
Thanks! You did the most appropriate thing by using approprate words on that occasion. You deserve all the praise for your gesture.
@ssh123 (31096)
• India
28 Sep 07
One should have good vacabulary in order to speak well by using appropriate words. I love to use appropriate words to make my talk more interesting and yields results.
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@dpk262006 (56718)
• Delhi, India
4 Oct 07
Thanks for your inputs.
@worthy (2413)
• India
26 Sep 07
you are right.we must think before we speak.i need to train myself a lot.usually i choose my words carefully when i am with elders,teachers,etc.but i have used some nasty words with friends.but they do too.:P
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@dpk262006 (56718)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 07
Worthy, Welcome back. Nice to read your response! Where were you. I can vouch for you that you speak using appropriate words at the appropirate time. With friends, it is another thing. Have a nice day! Deepak
@kiaakira (29)
• China
26 Sep 07
i can't agree with you any more. in china, we have an old saying, say human being's words to people and nonsense to goast (i don't know whether the translation is right or not). USing appropriate words at the appropriate time is a kind of arts.It's hard to learn it but it's useful. As for me,I am not a talktive girl and i also don't know how to praise people, but i am honesty. In fact, being honesty is not enough when entering into society and sometimes appropriate praise is necessary. So i think i have a lot to learn on talking.
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@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
18 Jan 09
Hello deepak! I do agree with you. Sometimes, words that came out on our mouth reflect our personality. If we are saying nasty words, people will think we are rude or something. I always, watch whatever words that came out to me especially when giving compliments because I don't want to offend someone.
@dpk262006 (56718)
• Delhi, India
19 Jan 09
Hello! Aisa! I am very sure that you think carefully before saying anything to anyone. You appear to me a very mature and wise person and if you can control your anger, you can win many battles and arguments. Hats off to you. I am very lucky to someone as you my frined, because I can learn from you. Thanks so much for taking time to reply to my discussions.
• United States
19 Jan 09
thanks deepak..I am glad I found such a good friend like you..
@dpk262006 (56718)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
Aisa! Hello! You are most welcome and you are also so nice, it is mutual respect and regards.
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
Some tribes in Mindanao consider words as the breath of the soul. Hence, if you speak, your soul, your body, your face, your mind also speak. Your word is you: body and soul. That's why Indigenous People who have not been corrupted by "modernity" or by media "spin" are afraid to speak. More so the Tribal Chieftain who speaks for the Ancestral Domain. Ancestral Domain is a concept that encompasses not only territory but also all the things living and inanimate in the territory of the tribe as well as the present generation of the living, the spirit of the Ancestors (called those who traveled ahead of us) and the generations that will be born. You can imagine the awesome responsibility of the Tribal Chieftain who caters to this belief. S/He will speak with dread and trepidation for fear of making mistakes, for how do you divine the wishes of the Ancestors and those as yet unborn?
@dpk262006 (56718)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
Bantilesroger! I am really pleasently astounded to read your responses. You sound so professional and you have tried to answer it in a superb manner. I did not know that words could also be considered breath of soul. I agree that use of appropriate words could make or mar a relationship. Full marks to you for your response.
@riyasam (16571)
• India
24 Nov 08
doing the right thing at the right time.i have yet tolearn that diplomatic way of handling words.
@dpk262006 (56718)
• Delhi, India
26 Nov 08
Here the issue being discussed is regarding using appropriate words at the right time. Doing the right things at the right time is a larger issue, which is difficult to attain by everyone. Hopefully, you use appropriate words at the appropriate time.
@balasri (26549)
• India
1 Oct 07
I am a very impulsive (not a bad)person.I am used to reacting fast in love and war.So I have this habit of spilling the beans fast.
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Yeh, i am difinitely agree with you. We should becareful in using a words. If we don't think before saying it. It can really affect our relationship with someone. We dealing different attitudes and personalities so we can't please everybody. Nasty , insulting, contradicting, debating words. Those words can make you bad. Think first before you say it.
@ssh123 (31096)
• India
30 Sep 07
If language when heard is like a music, words are like pearls. By using proper words appropriately, one can make a good impact on the listners. Man should make continuous efforts throughout the life to learn the skills of the language as a culture.