How can people be so cruel???

United States
September 27, 2007 1:03pm CST
Okay, I responded to a discussion about abortion. I had read a few other peoples responses and everyone had mixed opinions. Well all of a sudden I just started getting attacked by this very cruel user! She was cussing at me, being very ugly, and acting very immature. I mean, doesn't she get that everyone who responded to a discussion about such a sensitive subject were going to have different opinions? I NEVER attack any for their opinions. I ignored her first response to mine, and she hadn't cussed in that one (but she was still mean). But after I read the second one I was shocked at how cruel she was! And that's when the cussing started. So, I reported her. Was that wrong of me? I just got so angry at her disrespect. I don't care of someone disagrees with me, unless they share their feelings like she did!
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@KH0389 (56)
• United States
27 Sep 07
Wow...Yes, people in this lifetime are very cruel. I can't believe the way that you were treated about the abortion status. It sounds extremely harsh, and what people need to realize is that everyone has different opinions. I am highly agaisnt abortion. But, in my standings, I wouldn't get one for myself, but I have nothing against those people who do such a thing. And People should respect everyone's wishes and opinions, that's why opinions are made. At the first sign of an attack from this person I would have reported. You definetly did the right thing. And for those people who don't quite understand why it's right, that person would attack probably everyone who disagreed with them. I'm very sorry this happened to you, good job on the report though. :) Proud of you!
• United States
27 Sep 07
Thank you :) I'm against abortion too. I said that the only circumstances I would see it be okay was rape and if the mothers health was in danger because of the pregnancy. Then I went on to say that I never want to have kids, but if I ever got pregnant I would not have an abortion. I never said anything bad about people who get them, I just stated that I don't think they are good. And this person literally flipped out! She started comparing the babies to germs and all this other stuff. I'm glad it was good I reported her. I hope she gets in a lot of trouble! :)
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@KH0389 (56)
• United States
27 Sep 07
It is such a heavy topic though. I'm not quite sure where she got the idea that there was even a slight comparison between germs and children. I love children, but I'm not one to want to be pregnant either. I would adopt first because there are several adoptable children out ther ein need of good homes.
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• United States
27 Sep 07
Yeah. After I told her I couldn't believe she compared babies to germs she went into this whole "scienticfic" explanation. That is my thoughts exactly. If and when I decide I do want to have a baby in my life I want to adopt. I have the same exact feelings you do about it. I want to give a home to a baby who needs one.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
27 Sep 07
It is one thing to disagree with someone, even to be a bit mean. But to attack like that & to curse then it is good that you reported her. Never be afraid to report someon for bad behavior, if you are reporting someone wrongly, then they will come back to you, if not, they will deal with them.
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• United States
28 Sep 07
I didn't know they would tell you if you shouldn't have reported someone. That kind of makes me feel better. I just wish I could stop feeling so bad about things like this lol.
@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Hun, don't feel bad. Just because you are a nice person, that's how mean people get away with their mean acts for so long. They trust that nice people will tollerate their misbehavior.
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
27 Sep 07
I've noticed that alot on here. People will ask a question and then it starts a big debate. then people just get down right mean. I had asked about leaving the kids in the car for a 5 min or less with the car in full view...I had one woman tell me I wasn't fit to watch kids. I was upset that she questioned me being a good mother. its not like i was forgetting my kids were in the car in the hot sun. I had elimated every possible threat and was just going to be running my daughter in the building to her class. you'd have to read the whole discussion. anyways...some people nicely told me they didn't think it was a good idea, while some were kind of mean towards me. I'm glad you reported that woman.
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• United States
27 Sep 07
Oh! I responded to that discussion of yours. I believe all I said was I don't think it would be awful for you to do it, but then I gave you some tips at what else you could do so you didn't have to leave them in the car. Someone said you weren't a fit parent!??!?! It's not like you had even done it! You were just asking. People really need to grow up.
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• United States
28 Sep 07
Um. Perhaps the way you were told was awful... but unless you're standing right outside the car (and maybe even then) it's too dangerous to leave them in. Too easy for a little one to try their hand at driving - all they've got to do is slip the car into gear and it'll roll. Plus countless other things might happen - hundreds of "what-ifs" - not just on their end, but on yours (what if you dash back into the house for something, trip over a toy on the floor, fall and smack your head? Stuff like that happens (ask me how I know)
@anniepa (27238)
• United States
27 Sep 07
You certainly did the right thing in reporting her! I've said this before, as have many other in myLot, but people need to grow up and learn to either respect those who don't agree with them on some issues - especially those as deeply personal as abortion - or just keep their feeling to themselves! I mean, we can discuss things without agreeing all the time but there is never any justification for being rude and cursing and name calling! I'm pro-choice but I understand completely how others may feel differently. Being pro-choice doesn't make me a baby killer or a baby hater and saying those cruel things about someone who had had a miscarriage is horrible! My pro-choice stance is based on the idea that I can't judge someone else if I'm not in theier "shoes" and that it shouldn't be a political issue but a personal one between the pregnant woman (or girl) and her doctor and whoever else she chooses to be part of the equation. Oops...I didn't mean to turn this into a discussion about the topic that started the friction to begin with...lol...so I'll finish by saying rudeness and cruelty are never acceptable and should be reported! Good for you and great discussion! Annie
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• United States
28 Sep 07
lol. Thank you for your response. That's about exactly hwo I feel. I'm kind of weird in my feelings about it. I hate abortins and I don't think people should ever be able to do them, but oddly enough I don't think they should be illegalized. I also had said that I don't ever want to have my own baby, if I ever do get a baby i'll adopt one. But then I went on to say if I ever became pregnant I would not have an abortion. I was just kind of trying to show both sides...somehow lol. But it didn't work. Thanks for the response.
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@AmbiePam (49889)
• United States
27 Sep 07
I've experienced that when I responded to the topic of abortion. The last time I responded, I posted a disclaimer noting that I was kind and respectful in my reply, and would appreciate if people could keep their calm if they wanted to respond. Because I have been attacked viciously over this. I don't respond to that topic much any more, but you do have every right to report it. MyLot wants to know about trouble makers.
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• United States
28 Sep 07
oh maybe I should start posting disclaimers with some of my responses. Although, I kind of did with this one hehe. I might have to stop responding to discussions on those topics too. Thank you.
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• United States
27 Sep 07
I think the best thing to do when you are being attacked verbally by someone. Is just report it and move on. There are always going to be people who will attack mostly because they have issues with themselves and that is the only know how to cope with situations. You just need to tell yourself your bigger then that and then thank yourself for not being on that person level.
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• United States
28 Sep 07
Thank you :) I tried to keep myself in control during the conversation, but I kind of blew up at the end of it. I didn't cuss, and I don't think I was to mean...but I think I def. got my anger across X.X And I hate being angry! lol.
@clrumfelt (5424)
• United States
27 Sep 07
I like to think that myLot can be a friendly enjoyable place but for it to be one we all, even if we don't respect another's opinion, must at least have enough respect for the other person to disagree agreeably. I don't think you were wrong to report her, b/c she was being abusive and you are helping all of us when you are instrumental in putting a stop to that sort of posting.
• United States
28 Sep 07
Yeah overall people I discuss with are always respectful and nice. This is the first time I got really upset at something said towards me. But I do feel bad reporting people X.X I just feel guilty way to easily. hehe.
@free2lmao (230)
• United States
27 Sep 07
No, thats not wrong of you...i had posted something about abortion and people were so judgemental on their views...like telling people they needa grow and backbone and stuff...its crazy how some people get on here this isnt a place to curse and carry on like that with people you dont even know...People act like they are gonna get into a fight or something over something said on the computer...
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• United States
27 Sep 07
Yeah I know it's crazy. And I find it sad that people do behaive like this, especially to strangers! I mean, I could never say things like that to people who I don't know. I could be hurting a nice person and I just wouldn't want to do that.
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@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
27 Sep 07
Well Lily that's the way people are.. They sometimes think they are better than others and will be very immature about such things.. I know when I start a discussion rather it's good or bad, I do respect everyones oppions but I won't swear at someone to make myself feel better.. That won't happen.. I think when it comes to that point it's best to leave things alone and not act on them.. I've done that... People would say rude things and it upsets me. I just sometimes act like I've never read it before.. That's really all you can do so their isn't a conflict between the two talking on the subject, How ever you did do the right thing on reporting her because there is no excuse for swearing and attacking people for their oppions...
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• United States
27 Sep 07
Thank you Wisconsin :) I have the same feelings you do. I respect peoples opinions. I will gladly share mine, and let others share theirs. But I would never be mean to someone because of their opinions. And I would never, ever cuss at someone and use bad language.
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@nancyrowina (3850)
27 Sep 07
It is an annoying thing when people attack each other on here over differences in opinion. Mylot is a discussion forum for sharing our interests and thoughts people shouldn't get rude or attack each other over differences in opinion. Abortion is a controversial subject and there are many different opinions on it and it stirs up all kinds of emotions, best to just avoid discussions on such a hot issue. It's sad I have to say that but there's nothing mylot can do to make everyone agree about abortion is there?
• United States
27 Sep 07
Yeah I wasn't going to respond to this discussion, but the person who created it seemed like they would be very understanding for any opinions shared. And I had already shared my views on other discussions about abortion, and no one had ever been that cruel to me.
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• United States
28 Sep 07
Where have you been Lily? With your damn near 2000 posts, you would think you'd know this by now. They are not really being cruel, that means pain and suffering, they are giving valid facts, and thats the way they live their lives, by facts. Some live by emotions, which is fine, I just think that leads to more heartache than one can bear. (I read the discussion by the way) The ones that were harping on you, have harped on me. Its repetitive with them, they come to myLot to do just that, piss people off. Just stay away from them, if they respond to you, ignore it. You have your opinion on abortions and they have theirs. Its their lives, its their choice, WHAT DOES THAT HAVE TO DO WITH YOU?????? Great your for keeping a baby once concieved, you obviously have the abilities, the finances, and the drive for it, as well as the emotional input, not everyone does! If you care so much, then be happy they are not going to ruin another life, the world is over populated as it is. Doesnt that seem cruel to you? Anyway, this is not the abortion disucssion.....just let everyone have their opinion just like you would like. Oh yea, back to your discussion, I dont think you should have reported her. For what? I think you feel a bit guilty about doing it, and youve got this discussion to try and rectify your actions. Why announce that you reported her? Ask yourself, do you feel better? Do you think that was wrong? Dont rely on what anyone here has to say. Dont second guess yourself now hon. Bay xx
• United States
30 Sep 07
I understand that everyone has there own opinions on these kinds of subjects, and I respect every single opinion. The only reason I was upset by her response was because she cussed at me and verbally attacked me. It had nothing to do with the fact that she was disagreeing with me. As for me saying I'd have a baby...I'm not saying it would be easy for me once I had a baby. I'm not rich, it would put a lot of stress on my bank account, and I know it would be hard work to take care of a baby. I do feel better reporting her because she was very rude. Once again, I don't care if she disagreed with me. Plenty of people did on that discussion, but she was the only one who was rude towards me and some sensitive things I said about my family.
• United States
1 Oct 07
As long as you feel better Lily, just seemed like you were second guessing yourself about reporting her. They have harped on me like I said. The one in particular harps on everyone! From what I have read in comments around here anyway. Reporting isnt what she needs if you know what I mean!? ;) lol Bay xx
• United States
1 Oct 07
lol. i def. know what they should get instead of reported =P lol. Thanks for the response =P I still kind f am second guessing myself...but just because I've never reported anyone, and I have a guilty conscience lol. But I do believe it was the right thing to do. Thanks for the response!
@marcialoyd (1174)
• United States
28 Sep 07
My parents always raised me to respect others and their opinions and/or beliefs. For Example I am of Christian Faith. However, one of my good friends is Wiccan. Those are to total opposite beliefs. But you know what? I do not love her any less because of what she believes. she can have her own beliefs and I can have mine. This world would be an awful boring place if we all thought alike. Some people just need to grow up.
• United States
28 Sep 07
Yeah, I was thinking how it would be a boring world if we all had the same opinion too lol. It's really great that you can accept different beliefs so well! People like that are great, I wish people could be more understanding like that. Thank you for the response! =)
@Stiletto (4584)
27 Sep 07
Yes I saw the discussion you're talking about - it was all pretty childish. Report her and then ignore her - she's really not worth getting upset about. Unfortunately there are a few people on here like that but I've noticed they don't seem to last that long. Although maybe they do stick around but I'm just too good at ignoring them lol!
• United States
28 Sep 07
lol well then I better start getting...better at ignoring people lol. But sometimes it's hard for me just because it's such a sensetive subject. Thank you for your response! :)
• Philippines
30 Sep 07
no your not..she's harassing you so you just did the right thing of reporting her..she must be one of those people who keep on destroying mylot..attacking members through response..the mere fact that she disrespected you and cuss on you that is already a violation..so you just did the right thing..
• Philippines
28 Sep 07
Oh she is such an immature individual! I wonder why don't she get it that these discussions are nothing personal, it's just a venue to convey personal opinions. Well, I hope you'll forget her already. She doesn't deserve the time and emotions that you are giving her. I'm sure she'll be kicked out of this site soon if she doesn't improve her maturity level. Start having fun here again my friend, take care :)
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Yes people can be cruel especially on here. And thats a very sensitive subject to some people. You were right to report her. What she did was wrong.
@gharinder (2044)
• India
28 Sep 07
well its not the first time, these incidents are part of mylot, it was better on your part if you have reported this to the mylot. i know personally if a person gets hurted or cussed its difficult to avoid, but try to forget about it and move on, mylot is a good place to be and everyone here has the right to share their feelings
@mistissa (1348)
• Netherlands
28 Sep 07
Ofcourse it was not wrong of you to report her. This is a discussion place and everyone is entitled to their own opinion. If you couldn't respect that then myLot is certainly not a place for her. I have only been rude one time on MyLot, because someone was very mean and starting cussing at me and about my family, who he knew nothing off. I think you were totally right that you reported her
• China
28 Sep 07
You are right.I think she is a bad person.
@tanjam420 (228)
• United States
28 Sep 07
i think you did the right thing.. i would have reported her too. and i also am against abortions.. but everyone has there own opinions about things and i really dont understand why there are soo many people out there who want to start bashing someone for voiceing that opinion no matter how big or small it maybe..but i also think that people do that just because they want to heard and the fact that they can i guess you would call it freedom of speech..lol.. but i would have dont the same thing you did good job..