call from school that my daughter is sick

Canada
September 27, 2007 7:51pm CST
i got a phone call today from my daughter's school saying she had been complaining of a sore stomach and asking to go to the bathroom a lot. (she's 4). i was out of town almost 2 hours at college and my grandmother went to get her. 2 hours later when i got there to pick her up she was eating ice cream, cookies and gummy bears. i couldn't beleive the school sent her home. she seemed fine to me. she tends to hold in her poop until her tummy hurts so i'll have to let the school know this cause i think that's what the problem was. that way they can just let her sit in the bathroom until she goes instead of sending her home, unless she's actually having diarea or throuing up.
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@biwasaki (1745)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Trust the kids to know how to get out of going to school! Maybe if the school is given advanced notice of your daughter's bathroom habits, this could be prevented in the future. Good luck!
• Canada
28 Sep 07
she's only 4 and it's her first year in school, i didn't think she'd know how to pretend to get out of school yet. so i do beleive she was sore but just needed to do her business. but now i'm afraid she will keep doing it to come home if the school isn't notified to at least try to get her to go to the bathroom before calling me to come get her. so i think i'll call the school tomorrow.
@biwasaki (1745)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Yes, now that she knows that will get her out of school I'm sure she will try and employ that tactic again! My daughter is 4 as well and she LOVES school. But one morning she got up and said she wasn't feeling well, and she looked really sick too. After about 2 hours at home, she was torturing her sister and causing havoc. So, the next time she gets up and says she isn't feeling well I am going to send her anyway and the school can call me if she's really sick.
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• Canada
28 Sep 07
Oh My Goodness LOL What a little turkey LOL My son has a tendency to hold his poop as well. I ended up having to buy Fibersure to make him go daily. You can put it in everything and anything. It's great because it's flavorless. Kids learn too quickly what will get them out of things LOL So I think you shold tell teh school too. I would if my boy still had that problem too. Good Luck!
• Canada
29 Sep 07
thanks for the advice i'll try the fibersure.
@nyumix (1661)
• Belgium
28 Sep 07
Hi there. I wonder if the teacher in your daughter's school know that your daughter hold her poop. Maybe your daughter only said to the teacher there that she had stomach pain or something like that. Or maybe the teacher was to busy with the other children so didn't give a lot attention to your daughter. I choose a school which only has few children in the class for a reason, that I want my daughter to get more attention from the teacher, so she can really know what's happening with my daughter in the day when she is in school.
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• Canada
29 Sep 07
this is a school that has the smallest class sizes in this town. there are only 11 kids in her class.
• United States
28 Sep 07
Yes I think you should inform the school of her habits. Also, being it is her first year in school she may have wanted to come home because she is not used it. Or possibly she expected them to be like you and know her habits.
@saraho (23)
• United States
28 Sep 07
A 4 year old does not have the mental capacity yet to "try to get out of school" so that is not an issue here. Trying to understand what the cause of a tummy ache is (constipation, virus, etc) from a 4 year old can be very challenging. The school was most likely just acting in the benefit of your daughter and the school. Better to be safe. I would definately let the school know about your daughter's bathroom issues.
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@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I'm surprised they did not refer her to the school nurse?!! My son had a bleeding nose (it happens when he is over heated or very hot) and the instructional teacher took my son to the nurse. When he got home, there was a note from his teacher in his folder explaining what happened. The school SHOULD of done more before sending her home. They could of asked her too?!? Sorry that happened to her!
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
28 Sep 07
Yes I would do that, one of my kids would come home because their stomach hurt and they didn't like using the bathroom at school. Then after they got home and used the bathroom they were fine, I was so mad when I found out. Now with my 5 year old, I will not allow that, I have already told him that if he has to go, go there, don't hold it..
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
28 Sep 07
WOw, my son had to have a temp to be sent home, but then they would tell me not to send him back until he was without a temperature for 24 hours. The funny thing is that when he hits a growth spurt, his temp spikes to about 101-102 for about 2 or 3 hours in the afternoon. He missed many days of school for no real reason other then growing.
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@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I would talk with the school. At least she really is not sick. I am sure they thought it was more than that.
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@talisman (1308)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I agree that she was probably doing it to get out of school, but not on purpose or even consciencely. A lot of kids feel sick when something is bothering them, even if they're not sick. A sick tummy is one of the biggest signs of it. At 4, I doubt she's faking it. Does that make sense? It's real and not real at the same time. Talk to your daughter about how things are going at school. See if anything is bothering her overall or if something specific happened today.