Why people are afraid of commitment?

@caesarin (1091)
Indonesia
September 28, 2007 1:23pm CST
I'm married for more than 2 years now. And I dound there are people who are older than me still not get married. Some are being with somebody but they don't plan to get married because they are afraid of the commitment of marriage. My short 2 years experience of marriage so far proves that marriage is not the same like before you were married. But it worths the struggle of being responsible to keep a happy and stable marriage. Everything has risk even marriage. It's the same thing like you're doing business, there are risk where the business could collapse but you won't give up easily when thhere were problems in your business, don't you think so? Only that marriage is a commitment of life where you are tie to it mentally and physically. Wr have to learn to compromise and tolerate and listen not just taking what we think we deserved.
3 responses
• United States
28 Sep 07
I was married previously, and it was a lot of work. At the time, I really wasn't cut out for it. I am engaged now, and plan on getting married when my fiance finishes his studies. I think that our relationship won't really change much when we do get married--we have lived together for more than a year, and we basically consider ourselves married, we just haven't gotten legally married yet.
@caesarin (1091)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 07
If we had enough time to know about our partner, it would be great. But living together before marriage in my country is not a tradition. Thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
28 Sep 07
I'm still single in my 40s. It's not that I am afraid of commitment. It could be that I have set a high standard for myself and for my would-be partner that I forget to notice that time passed me by already. LOL.
@caesarin (1091)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 07
It could be a reason why people aren't married. High standard. People get too picky sometimes because they wanted to have the best for themselves. Is it because (inside) you are afraid of not getting a perfect marriage if you don't find anyone to meet the standards? Trust me, people might have standards and someday they might find the one with the standards but still it won't guarantee that it will make a happy marriage. Life can't be perfect as you wished, everything has ups and downs and that make life beautiful. Thanks for sharing.
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
Well, its because commitment is a big responsibility to yourself, to your partner and to the family taht you will be building. It is better not to enter into a commitment if you think that you are not yet ready for that. Because your perception towards it will affect not only you but also the life of others.