Are Houses Full of Memories Or Just Bricks and Mortar?

@wolfie34 (26792)
United Kingdom
September 29, 2007 8:10am CST
As the time is coming to an end and as shortly I am to bid farewell to a home or a house I have lived in since February 2004. It hasn't been an altogether happy home, not because of the home itself but for the person I share it with! If it wasn't for that person the home would be wonderful, rented but still it was my 'home' Next Sunday, 8 days time I will bid farewell to not only the house I have lived in for 3 and a half years now, but also to the area, county and the few friends I have in this area But is a house a place where you would miss if you had to leave it after a period of time, 3 and a half years may not sound much and the strings that bind you and the settlement you have made may not be strong but how would you feel if you had to leave your home after this time? Or at the end of the day is a house just bricks and mortar?
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 07
Hi there Sweetie Well I lived in my House 14 years till everything fell apart round me my divorce which I was happy about but then my Illness and the loss of my Job because of my Illness and having to give up a lot in my Life Well my Son bought the House so we would not loose it as I fought very hard for this House in my Divorce and gave up everything I was entitled to money wise also took on all the Debts just to keep the house, my Son will not give it up now As you know I moved away in February and it was hard but I moved Closer to the Man I loved which made it a bit easier Now I am happy where I live and it is the best move I ever did I come and see the Kids quite often as you know and I have to say I do not regret moving away at all You will find it hard at first but then you start a new Life Sweetheart I will miss you Love and Hugs xxxxx
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 07
Thank you my dear friend, it's more the fear of the unknown and besides, I compare it to when I left my four bedroomed home (OWNED) which I gave up that was a beautiful home which I only lived in for two years. Now if I can give that up, a 2 bed rented semi should be no probs LOL!
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 07
Good on you Wolfie and you will be fine Sweetie I know you will Your Strength has grown so much from when I first met you Sweetheart and I am so proud of you x
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• India
29 Sep 07
I thing 3 and half years is not a small period. by then so many things would have had happened in which some could be such that one could never forget. my mother used to stay in a beautiful house where i would leave my little son while going to job. they left the house after 3 years. even now when i pass by that home, i get lot of memories back. even though i did not stay there that house gives me motherly touch. But you litterely stayed in that house. i feel you would have much more attachment with it.
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 07
Thank you for your response and welcome to Mylot.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
14 Mar 08
I think most houses are just houses until you fill them with memories and love. To anyone else my Grandparents home up North is just a house...to me it's a home filled with memories of sitting at the table with my Grandma and having soda pop, of spending many nights in the little trundle bed in the little room with the old fashioned oil lamps and Grandma coming in to check on me. I remember playing in the corn rows and finding birds nest in the garage and Grandpa teaching me to be quiet and patient till I saw the mama and baby birds. It's that way with every where I've lived...memories that bind and tie. Some of the places I've lived didn't have happy memories but I still remember them. I remember reading somewhere "There are alot of houses, but it takes a person to make it a home". !!HAPPY ST. PATRICK'S DAY!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
• United States
9 Oct 07
I think that a home is much more than just bricks and mortar. When I was growing up, we arrived home late one evening to find our home burned down to the ground. It was a brick home, yet it totally was gone. The only thing left were the bricks, and for years you could still see the chimney reaching to the sky and the remaining bricks still standing. It was hard every time I drove by there. Even to this day, sometimes I will drive down our old road. The lot has finally been cleared, but it will forever hold a place in my heart as somewhere I loved growing up, and then somewhere that I missed dearly.
@timou87 (1642)
• Singapore
9 Oct 07
houses are in reality nothing more than brick and mortar, but it is humans that make houses more than that. houses to humans are places where precious memories are made kept and stored, and that is why many people have such deep emotional attachment to houses, expecially to thse they grew up in.
@eaforeman6 (8983)
• United States
7 Oct 07
I think when you have strong feelings about it being time to go , you just know you are going to. We tend to start focusing more on the future home and less on the ole home. Theres the things you miss and then there s the things you dont. The things you dont are what helps you in the transition.
@Naomi17 (624)
2 Oct 07
I think the song "wherever i lay my hat thats my home" is me i would be happy to move tomorrow so longs hubby and kids came to! my dream as you know is to move to a sunnier climate maybe Cyprus. Memories are always in my head and in photographs sometimes a move can be the best thing you can ever do, its like life things don't stay the same but new opportunities come along. If i won the lottery i'd be of no looking back for me i would grab my new life say goodbye to my old life and embrace my new life. Your feeling nervous i hope with a bit of excitement in it thats normal but its your time now so go grab it HUGS xx
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
1 Oct 07
I thought about this overnight and it's not the places I rented I miss....it's the places I've owned. There's such a sens of satisfaction and achievment when you own your own home. I've now bought 2 with partners and 2 by myself. This is the second home I've owned outright (the other was also one I bought by myself). When you rent you're limited with what you can do. When you own a place, you put a lot of yourself into it. So for me it's not just the memories. It's my own blood sweat and tears that I leave behind when I move. The memories I take with me.
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
1 Oct 07
Old houses are kept alive by memories. It is my dream of maintaining our own house till our old age. Beautify it with things that reminds of a lot of happy memories. I want my children and future grandchildren to see and experience my life when I wan growing up. By just looking at the house and all that is in it.
• India
30 Sep 07
Hey, I have been living at this house or Home of mine since 12 years.I have loved and lived every second I stayed in this home. I have been living here with my family and this has never been just a place made of bricks and mortar. I have lived here since I was in third standard and since then this house has seen me grow and I have always felt its strength in sheltering me. I have had my friends here since then and now I have even had my girlfriend in her. I have a lot of memmories attached to this house of mine. I may be anywhere, but the only place I find true rest is my own house. I can't even think of moving out or selling it any body else. I had the best and the most important times of my life here in this beautiful house of mine. May be just a house for otheres, but its a true HOME for me. Take care GOD Bless YOU
@lgwlong (199)
• China
30 Sep 07
i also miss the house that spend me more than 2 years ,it can give me much memories ,can remind me what i had done for the past time.it is not easy to say goodbye to it
• Philippines
30 Sep 07
hello there..... There are houses that full of memories especially if it is where you grew up and build your dreams.. I agree with you that it is not how long you stayed in a home but how you made your house a "real home" with friends you met, the place you stayed... You will really miss those things... i feel sorry that you have to leave but I am looking forward for good things that will happen as you entered your new "Sactuary"... have a good days ahead of you.... thanks
@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
30 Sep 07
A house is not a home. Your attachment seems to be strong because the fact that you took time to dwell on how you will be leaving a house. It should have been the home you will be missing the community and the people who made the house a home. Never the less, You will be alright, counting it a progress to move on and take another adventure in life. Do not fear the future. Create it in your thoughts, think about the kind of home you'd want for the next and hold on to that thought, call it your dream home, believe that you will have it and each day you wake you do the things you you need to do to achieve your dream home. One day you will amaze yourself living your dream home.
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
29 Sep 07
Hi Wolfie a house is just a place where you live for a while, it is the memories and good times that happened to you while residing there that you take away with you, leave the pain and sorrow on the doorstep where it belongs , that was then this is now, take the one step and the next will follow for sure. looking back can not be changed it is what it was, now you know one more way on how not to do some thing, and free your self for all the new adventure you will encounter. best to you as always
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Sep 07
For me, Wolfie, a house is just a house. The important things are the memories that you have made wherever you reside. If you associate good times with a place you will miss it; if the memories are not very good it will be just the opposite. I have lived in more houses and apartments than I care to think about over the years, but there are only a few that I really considered "home." You are about to embark upon a new journey, and you have lots of memories just waiting to be made. You can make a home wherever you choose. I am wishing you all the best.(: