Worry is getting the best of me.

United States
September 30, 2007 8:05pm CST
After speaking with a few of my coworkers and friends about the fact that I haven't had a menstrual cycle for the past two months, they raised the question of pregnancy. Now, I know that I have been battling menopausal symptoms for a while now, but pregnancy never entered my mind. My husband had a vasectomy about 24 years ago. I thought I was safe. Today when shopping I ran into a friend who became pregnant years after her husband had a vasectomy. She said that she never felt pregnant, she even had her period. Well, the worry is now getting the better of me. I am heading to the store for an early detection kit. I feel freaking crazy for thinking of doing it, but I need to know it if is just menopause or something else.
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32 responses
@Darkwing (21590)
1 Oct 07
I think it's more likely the start of the menopause, Elusive. This doesn't just stop, periods become erratic... you won't have one for months and then you'll have a heavy one, and so on. I doubt you're pregnant. It's not a common occurrence after a partner has had a vasectomy and if you were going to get pregnant, you've had plenty of time to do so. No, I think your friend was just unlucky, and you're starting the menopause. Twenty four years is an awful long gap, my friend. Brightest Blessings and good luck!
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
1 Oct 07
I would go to the doctor. It is probably menopause. Usually starts when you are in your fifties and for a time, one does wonder if God is giving you a late baby as a present, but since your husband had a vasectomy 24 years ago, I doubt that is the case. Also you might have a false pregnancy and think the baby is kicking when the expected time comes. That happened to me. It was my stomach rolling and was I ever disappointed.
@GardenGerty (87724)
• Marion, Kansas
1 Oct 07
It is possible to be completely without periods, then to become pregnant, it happened to my mom, but I suspect, like everyone else, that it is menopause. I do agree with the others that an in home test will ease your mind, and it is cheaper and less time consurming than seeing the doctor. Good luck.
• United States
1 Oct 07
The stress that you are going through could also be the cause of missed menstrual cycles. Your best bet is to make an appointment with your gynocologist.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
1 Oct 07
Best bet is to make an appointment with your doctor to determine what the issue is, instead of worrying so much. I know how that can cause a great deal of worry wondering what is causing this. It could be possible that pregnancy is an option. Depending upon the type of vasectomy your husband had, it is quite possible. Also, it is quite possible that menopause is setting in. Best to go to the doctor.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
1 Oct 07
Well I guess it would hurt to get one of those pregnancy test things, but you just might be going through the menopause mode here...I've completely stopped my period a few years ago, and I'm 51. My slowing down started the same way..I'd skip a few months then have regular periods again, then stop, then start..it was like a yo-yo for me---then I went through a long period of not getting my period..like nine months, then bingo, got it again..but then that was the last time for me--So either welcome to the menopause stage of life or..congratulations?????
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@piasabird (1737)
• United States
1 Oct 07
It's highly unlikely that you're pregnant but take the test to calm your fears. I think they're very cheap now. Even some of the dollar stores carry them now. Good luck.
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@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
1 Oct 07
Could be meno. Then again despite expertise I'm not the ultimate source for something like this. Elusive at least don't worry too much, its not good for the mind and body. Hopefully this plays out your way.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct 07
Well I do not believe you are and I hope you have been to the Store to settle your Mind I can go Months without one and then I get a bit and then nothing again so try not to worry to much Hugs
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@Grandmaof2 (7604)
• Canada
1 Oct 07
Good Luck with this. Please let me know the results.
@Thoroughrob (11771)
• United States
1 Oct 07
It is highly unlikely you are pregnant, but getting and taking the test will make you feel better. Good luck.
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@casablynn (150)
• United States
1 Oct 07
The cost of a pregnancy test is worth your peace of mind, good luck.
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@kareng (7986)
• United States
16 Oct 07
I don't blame you--I would be wanting to know one way or the other myself. It's probably just hormones with menopause. Good luck and let us know your results :)
@villageanne (8579)
• United States
16 Oct 07
How did this turn out for you?? I bet you were just menapausal. Is that the case. I have not had a period since 1986. I had a hysterectomy that took care of the pregnacy questions for us.
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@babystar1 (4236)
• United States
5 Oct 07
Elusive Its probably all to do with menopause. I went through the same thing. To make sure go to the dr. can you can fine out for sure.
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@KrisNY (7609)
• United States
4 Oct 07
Stranger things have happened- and oh my god! Can you imagine?? 50 years old—I bet your stress level is high! Good luck with everything! I’m sure it will work out- If in doubt I’d go to the doctor-Stranger things have happened- and oh my god! Can you imagine?? 50 years old—I bet your stress level is high! Good luck with everything! I’m sure it will work out- If in doubt I’d go to the doctor-
@MsTickle (24752)
• Australia
3 Oct 07
Oh Sarina, you poor darling. The perils of menopause. It really puts us off our stride but it will be behind you soon then you can simply age gracefully. Even though I had an array of symptoms, it was really no big deal. I've been past it for about 4 years now. BTW, I'll be 55 tomorrow....half way to 60. :)
• United States
2 Oct 07
Well first of all try not to worry to much. I know worrying makes your mentrual cycle go all crazy. Go ahead and get a pregnancy test if it would make you feel better. I'm only 30 and I have had problems like this to. I've gone almost 5 months without a period and I'm not pregnet and my test show nothing is wrong. It could be menopause, for you and for me. But dont worry, nature has its way of working out.
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• United States
1 Oct 07
good luck i have heard of this as well..i hope what comes out is what u want.. my friend is making her hubby v go get checked cause this now too
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@rosie_123 (6118)
1 Oct 07
Well I guess best to get a test to be sure - but it sounds like menopause to me. I didn't have period between May and August - then I had one that lasted 4 weeks - now I've got another one after only 3 weeks without - LOL! It's just part of Nature's way of playing tricks on us poor women. I'll just be glad when the whole damn thing finally finihes - at least we know where we are then! Good luck!