My daughter started pre-school today and im having a seperation anxiety attack!

@peanutjar (5251)
Canada
October 2, 2007 12:41pm CST
I took my daughter to pre-school today at 1:00 and watched her hurry in.I gave her a kiss and went to say bye and she forgot to say bye to mommy while hurrying to meet new friends.Its only the first day but it seems they grow up so fast and im panicking!lol.Maybe the next time will be better for me,ha,ha.I keep looking at the clock to see what time it is so i can be there early.I even thought about waiting outside the little school but id just look to dumb,lol.Have you ever had a seperation attack before?What was it from?I thought it was just kids that had these,wrong!LOL:):)
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@barehugs (8992)
• Canada
2 Oct 07
Hi Peanutjar! Its me again, and I'm thinking,"How lucky you are!" It must be wonderful to be the Mom of a cute little girl who has just started to school. Don't worry about the goodbye you didn't get, be thankful she has good friends at school. These friends are almost as important to her well-being at school, as her Mommy is at home.In the future, as she packs to go off to college, it will seem like only yesterday, that you took her to her first day of pre-school. Kids Grow up so fast! Treasure every moment!
@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
3 Oct 07
Hi barehugs:)When i picked her up,she started crying a bit because she did not want to leave:(.I told her she will be going back and she said "i will miss my new friends soo much mommy".I almost broke out in tears because she seemed so happy there.I took her to get a slush puppy at a little store and we sat outside on the picnic table and all i could do was look at her and relize how fast shes changing and growing up.It made me really think and that im going to do everything in my power to give her a happy and precious childhood,not that its not like that now but even more.Like you said the day will come soon enough that shes gone following her dreams and starting a life of her own.Now im really sad,lol.;)
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
3 Oct 07
My son, who turns 5 in December, is into his last term of kindergarten, so he will do pre-entry into primary school this term also. Then start of next year he is full time. For the last 18 months, he has been away from us a half day on Mondays and full day on Wednesday, and that was hard enough, but then to go to school for 5 full days a week.....ahhh, I don't want to think about it. I'm out of here, lol!!!
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@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
5 Oct 07
I know its hard.I want her with me all the time,lol.It doesnt work like this though,because they all grow up.Im starting to except it,lol.:(
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
6 Oct 07
Yeah, it doesn't help that I kind of bordered on over protective. I've made myself relax more about the whole growing up bit, but it wasn't (isn't) easy!
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@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
7 Oct 07
Yes,it isnt easy.Us for us we have cared for this child since we found out we had this little being in our body and protected it.I see some animal mothers who are willing to give their life for their young to live on.Its the protectiveness thats the main thing to try to at least loosen alittle to kind of let go a tiny bit.It so hard,not to automatically do it and worry.Its born into us as an instinct.Especially for mothers,we carried this little human for 9 months.They are so precious and all must be given love and loved.I feel better now since i released myself some,sorry its long,lol.Have a nice day!:)
@psyche49f (2512)
• Philippines
3 Oct 07
separation anxiety in children is normal - Kids experience separation anxiety is normal for all children...but as to parents, it's truly rare, although it may happen sometimes, too.
You made me smile, peanutjar...he, he. You're right. I thought kids are supposed to be the ones who experience separation anxiety...you proved me wrong...he, he. I never experienced such...when my son was in nursery, he was the one who had separation anxiety. He didn't want me to leave...really cried so hard and I had to make my great escape. Of course, after a few weeks, he has completely adjusted to school when he gained more friends and enjoyed playing with them during and after school. With my daughter it was different. She never experienced any anxiety at all...she adjusted to school at once...even wanted me to leave as soon as I have dropped her in school. Well, I understand your case...but we parents have to be prepared for any waning of influence on our part as our kids start to expand their social circles...this is an interesting discussion, thank you.
@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
5 Oct 07
At least i made someone smile,lol.My daughter did not want to leave when i came to pick her up.She had too much fun.:)
@infoguy (210)
• India
3 Oct 07
Lucky is your daugther to get such a sweet mom...Dnt worry things would change as time passes...being the first time you are more emotional but we have to accept these transformations....
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@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
4 Oct 07
Well thankyou;)I hope things do not change alot,ha,ha.I think i will be o.k and she made some new friends and saw some she already met before.Im a very emotional person when it comes to my daughter,lol,like you said,its all about excepting these transformations with a good feeling and response.:)
@jcj_111776 (3221)
• Philippines
3 Oct 07
hello peanutjar! When I first brought my son to nursery school, I asked his teacher if I can wait for him. She looked at me as if I went crazy!lol Because I was ready to wait and just sit there for 3 hours straight! I was so worried of leaving him there and just go home. He did cry when his teacher had to close the door. I want to cry with him, too.^_^ Then after 15 minutes of waiting for him, the school's administrator, approached me and gently told me to just go home. That there's nothing to worry about and that they will take good care of my son. All I just have to think is that he will have a good time at school and meet new friends. After a week, I've adjusted to our new situation and I don't worry about him anymore.
@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
5 Oct 07
Hahahaha,i almost asked too!LOL.When i went back to pick her up,she cried because she did not want to leave and it made me feel worser than i felt,lol.Ahh kids,gotta love them.:):)
@mariam74 (555)
• Egypt
3 Oct 07
It is a good thing that you have such a cute girl, yes you are right to feel like this but she is growing up and everything will change, after some days you'll find yourself not the same, but I want to ask you a question do you work or staying at home? because if you are working it will be better for you to keep busy and not sit waiting for her you'll feel that time is not passing, so try to keep busy doing anything, and at the week end take her to a lovely picnic and she'll know after that how much you love her and when she grow up more she'll know that there are time for friends and time for mommy, don't worry cheers.
@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
5 Oct 07
Im a stay at home mom thats never hired ababysitter only like 5 times in her life and wants to spend every waking moment of the day with her,lol.I love her too much,thats why it hurt when she was too busy to say goodbye,lol.Its funny now thinking about it.First for everything is rough for me.You are right,i just have to get back into my woodcrafts and kiss my jigsaw again,hahaha.:)
• India
3 Oct 07
I would tell you its just a slight transformation thats causing the problem i can promise you within two days she will be ok,til that keep consoling her
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@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
5 Oct 07
Consoling her?Im the one that needs to be consoladated,lol.I had the attack,hahahahaha.:):)
• United States
3 Oct 07
It will pass, I went through it as well. It is hard to see your little one leave, because you are so use to them being there with you, and you are use to being there to protect them just the idea of them not being there for you to protect is enough to set off the attack. You will still feel it as your daughter goes to kindergarten as well but it does pass trust me I have 7 children.
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@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
5 Oct 07
Thats what happened,i felt helpless when she went in that door,lol.Its part of life and i just have to make myself except it.:)
@vissy10 (82)
• Philippines
3 Oct 07
Hahahaha. I'm sorry I had to laugh, I just find it funny that mom's can get even more emotional than their kids on the first day of school. I can relate very well to how you felt. They are our babies out there. Soon, when they are in higher grade level they won't even be glad at the idea of mom getting them in and from school. We had to make the most out of the remaining time that we can carry our children because soon they would even be bigger than us, time goes so fast (sigh)
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@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
5 Oct 07
You will laugh alot at me then,because i become more emotional over things that my daughter should be,since shes a child,lol.:)