Gifts from your loved one

@jillhill (37399)
United States
October 3, 2007 6:44pm CST
When I was married, my ex never remembered my birthday, mother's day or any other special day in my life. It hurt...incredibly hurt was I when each special day went unnoticed. Do you remember the special days of the one you love? And do they remember you special days?
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@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
5 Oct 07
Some of my exes couldn't remember (or didn't do things for) my birthday/special days. But of course as a guy I had to remember the birthdays, the Valentines, the couple's day, sweetest day (and it was dependent on the relationship at the time, but yea lots of stigma if I didn't remember the special days.
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
5 Oct 07
I did all the special occasions for him...but he never did them for me. The last year we were married for mother's day he didn't even help the kids make a card. So when father's day drew near he sat down with the sears catalog and told me he had marked the things he wanted for father's day. I told him I was getting him the same thing that I had gotten for mother's day....nothing. It was one of the hardest things I had ever done as I love making a fuss over those I love. He truly was shock when he didn't even get a card....just like I had got nothing.
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
4 Oct 07
I remember all of the special days for my loved ones. I always try to do something nice for them. Doesn't have to be expensive or anything. Even if it is giving a home made card or store up some cool freebies. HEHE My partner of over 11 years however hasn't done anything for my special days except maybe suggest love making. LOL I don't mind now though. I guess I am just used to it. I know he cares about me, just doesn't really do the mushy stuff. Never did. I think I would have a heart attack if he really ended up doing something for me at all. LOL
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
4 Oct 07
We wouldn't want you to have a heart attack!!! Thanks for sharing!
@pendragon (3354)
• United States
4 Oct 07
A lot of my special days have been forgotten across the plain of my existance as well, you have my sympathy.The gf that I have now, remembers everyone's everything, so i am blessed with beautiful birthdays and holidays now, and yes, I remember hers too, it's an honour to. :)
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
4 Oct 07
You both are very lucky! Thanks for sharing!
@Bunsdk (242)
• Denmark
4 Oct 07
No, I dont "remember" any of these days at all. I dont celebrate birthdays and christmass because I dont see the point in recieving a lot of junk you cant use, and thus are forced to repay the favor. I dont celebrate christmass and other holidays because they are religious, and Im not. Yearly anniversaries is a celebration of the unity, that I do celebrate. Every christmass and newyears I work for free helping those less fortunate than me, as well as on all other special days where they have soopkitchens open for it. (I make a good santa because of my natural laugh apparantly lol)
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
4 Oct 07
good for you...thanks for posting
@shadowing (309)
• Malaysia
4 Oct 07
Hi jillhill. I am sorry to hear that from you. Basically for me I will remember every single little thing happened between me and my love one. However, I am not quite sure whether my love one will remember those special date? I am not really sure about it.
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
4 Oct 07
I hope you both make a point of doing it....that means they are very special to you! THanks for posting.
@vissy10 (82)
• Philippines
4 Oct 07
Hello dear, I always remember birthdays and other special days of my love ones. Even family member who already passed away are remembered on their birthdays. I know it hurts when your significant other forget about your special days, you deserve better! ^_^
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
4 Oct 07
Thanks.....you are very special to remember important days!!!
@innechen (1322)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 07
i am sorry to hear that.my husband always remember my birthday, even he didnt always buy me a gift or birthday cake because of our financial problem,but he always remember.not only my birthday but also on valentines day.and i always remember my friends,family and my husband bday or special day.always
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
4 Oct 07
How very wonderful. It isn't the price of the gift...it's caring enough to make a gesture!
• United States
4 Oct 07
We remember standard holidays and birthdays. I had a hard time remembering the exact date if his birthday, though, becuase I have a hard time with numbers, but I'm getting better at it. We won't have children and we don't have an aniversary yet, though.
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
4 Oct 07
Well at least you both make an effort! Thanks for posting.
@emetha (69)
• Philippines
4 Oct 07
I recieved a gift, a cute pink bunny stuff toy from my husband when he was still my boyfriend and I recieved from him a tons of cards..:)
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
4 Oct 07
You are lucky too.....I finally stopped giving to him....he still didn't make a point of remembering.
@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
4 Oct 07
I am sorry to hear that your ex-husband didn't remember those special days or events. That is not very nice. I am fortunate that my husband does remember every special event. We may not have a lot of money, but he remembers and always tries to do something special. My ex-husband was very nice about those things to. I think the nicest thing he did was climbed a magnolia tree and got me a blossom and brought it home just because he was thinking of me. I guess I have been pretty lucky for the most part.
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
4 Oct 07
That is such a special gesture! You are a very lucky gal!
@milkfish (377)
• Philippines
4 Oct 07
I think we should not be affected if our ex don't remember special occassions like our birthdays. Though we shared good times with them in the past, it doesn't mean that they are obliged to greet us everytime its our birthday. They have their own separate lives to live. Personnaly, I will be more hurt if the guy in my present relationship forgot my birthday. It's unforgivable.
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
4 Oct 07
It was when I was married that he didn't remember....I don't expect it now.....in fact I don't even want to see him or hear from him...
@Lovett (465)
• India
4 Oct 07
Hi jillhill, my ex too never remembered my brthday, or any special day in my life,,, i felt so hurt u know.... But now my current bf is so sweet, he has been plannig my brthday one month in advanve, n keeps a track of all imp days in my life,, He is so caring,,, I mean dats y the other gut was an "ex" maybe,,casue they never cared so much,,, right??
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
4 Oct 07
Right...he only remembered when it was too late and the hurt took over....glad you have someone now that treats you so special!
@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
3 Oct 07
Hi jillhill, It hurts when that special someone forgets your special days. I am very fortunate that way, my wife never forgets, nor do my grown children. I have always been careful to remember them as well. Whether you are a man or a woman, it's nice to know that you are not forgotten. I hope you are always remembered on your special days now. Blessings.
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
4 Oct 07
Thanks you are a very special person to make a point of remembering you special people in your life. I bet they really appreciate it.
@chym1101 (169)
• China
3 Oct 07
hello, jillhill. I am sorry that your ex didn't remember the special days for you. It is really a great pleasure to receiving the gifts from your loved one. But perhaps you ex is not that kind of people, yes, there are people that they cann't remeber the festivals or special days such as anniversary, birthday and so on. So forgive him. I am a sensitive and careful girl, as long as I know somebody's birthday I will remeber for such a long time that can make me give regards to them on the special day till now. As I am getting older, maybe I will forget, I don't know. Some of my friends and my family always remember the special days for me, and I can get surprises and wonderful gifts from them. I am happy and lucky, right?
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
4 Oct 07
You are a very lucky girl!