Mom of 3 kids and a wife what to do?
October 5, 2007 12:21am CST
So I'm a stay at home mom and I love it but,sometimes I want time for me.Does anyone else fell this away? I mean i cant even go to the bathroom with out ethier the kids at the door or my husband.I mean damn can I pee in peace..LOL Im trying to fuguire a way to do this.The other day i left to go to the store I didnt even need anything I just want 20 mins by myself.I love my kids and my husband and would never change it for anything.But being a mother and a wife is hard and stressfull. Ok so i will stop going on. Thnaks for listing
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5 Oct 07
Everyone needs time out for themselves. How old are the kids? If they are in school, make that time your time. If they're below school age put them in daycare one or two days a week. I have 3 kids and have them on my own. When their father left my eldest was 4 yrs, next one was 10 months, & I was 7 months pregnant - I've been completely on my own since (he hasn't bothered with them). The year after he left my eldest started school. After while I put my other two into daycare twice a week cause I needed that break. My kids are now 13, 9, & 8 so are all in school. While they are at school I go to the gym. For a while I did ten pin bowling. Anything that gets you out of the house and mixing with others is great.
5 Oct 07
We are on the same both. I am also a stay home mom with kids to take care of. I sometimes,too feel bored and wanted a time for myself alone. So when it strikes me, I let my maid do the things for me while I do my online programs. lol Sometimes,too we need a break. To take a walk, breath fresh air, feel the sunshine, and do whatever we wanted to do.
5 Oct 07
Hello Mommy!! I am completely with you. Even I have a child and my Husband is not less than a child.I have to be on my toes always.My day starts at 5AM and ends at 10PM.I can understand how tirng it is to manage everything. I am a working woman too. So after my daughter and husband leave for the day,I have to manage in whatever little time I am left with and reach ofice on time. The moment I return back home my daughter would be waiting for me to get her school work done.Its really difficult to find time for myself. But its life after all.And I have started accepting it the way it is.We wives don't have a other way out. But at the end of the day I feel happy and contended with whatever it is.I do feel that I should get some time for myself too, but now it is such that I cant do things alone. But when I try to, I just can't do it. I am also used to them now. Being a mother is hard and stressful as you mentioned but finally they are our world and everything. They can't live a single moment without us.Isn't it? So imagine how important we are for them.
5 Oct 07
I understand you it is indeed very stressful to be a mother and a wife. I am a working mother and I have a nanny so in terms of housework I am not that overloaded. But working also in the office is also stressful and when I go home it is also stressful. But this is our role as a mother and wife. Why don't you hire someone to help you even if it is only for a few hours? I think it is also important to unwind sometimes to help us refresh our self. Or your husband can take care of the kids for a few hours for the weekends so you can have time to walk alone with yourself. And keep visiting here in mylot, this is the place where we can express ourselves.