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@TerryZ (22083)
United States
October 6, 2007 9:39am CST
Are you the type of person when your out and about either shopping or at friends house or with your family do put on a smile and pretend everything is okay in your life when its really not? I can only do it for so long.LOL How about you?
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@aidonia (4210)
• Greece
6 Oct 07
That's me my friend.I always put on smile and pretend that I'm really fine.I had so hard child age but again even as a young girl I was the center of my friends,always smiling even if crying from inside.My very close friends know that as much I'm seems happy many times I have problems in my head.I just don't talk about them easy and specially to everyone.I know few people do.I 'm not sure if talking about what bother you help or make the problem even bigger....
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Your so right about helping or not. I have found after Ive held it in long enough and then I talk about it to someone I feel so good. Sometimes its good to share. And you can share with me anytime.
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
6 Oct 07
You can share with me too anytime aidonia and Terry!! I'm a good listener :)
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@aidonia (4210)
• Greece
6 Oct 07
Thank you so much both of you.It's so nice to have such good friends...
@thefortunes (2368)
• Netherlands
6 Oct 07
Hi Terry, nope, I never do anything like it and find it unnatural when done by others, as i usually can tell when the way one behaves is real or fake ;) LOL, what's the point really and why pretending something that is not so? It is definitely not in this country's culture to fake how one feels TheFortunes
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
6 Oct 07
I too am good at being able to tell when someone is faking or not.LOL
• Netherlands
6 Oct 07
Hehehe, and do you say so to them too? I usually don't, but at times it flaps out before I can stop myself, ooeps :) TheFortunes
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
13 Oct 07
Yes I am that kind of Person and I do it every time that is just me But People that really know well always know there is something up no matter how hard I try to hide it The good thing though is when you sit on the Computer and you are trying to soothe a Friend they are not able to see if you are in Tears and down and I will not say how many times I have done that lol
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
13 Oct 07
Awwww gabs thats so true about the tears. Big hugs to you sweetie.
@sexylc (501)
• United States
6 Oct 07
I think I am like you! or I can consider myself is a great pretender.Since my friends look at me that everything is fine with me and I am happy.They really don't know whats I feel or how sad I am.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Yes my friend I know the feeling. But most of time I am happy.
• United States
13 Oct 07
I was like this for a long time. Now if I've had a rough day everyone knows it. If I have a smile on my face now either I'm trully enjoying your company or something really good has happened that day.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
13 Oct 07
I do that too!LOL
• Canada
13 Oct 07
Hi Terry! I know exactly how you feel. I do the "front" all the time! A lot of times I do it because I don't want people to pester me into telling them whats wrong when it's really none of their business. I try and smile as much as I can, but like you said after a while it gets tougher and tougher! I'm not always sad though, sometimes when I walk around smiling I really am happy =) Have a good weekend! Love & Hugzz, Your Friend, PurpleTeddyBear!
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
13 Oct 07
Your so right it does help to have a smile on. Hugs back to you and you have a great weekend too.
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@Grandmaof2 (7603)
• Canada
7 Oct 07
You may not want to hear from me on this one because I don't feel the same way as most people here. If things are not OK in my world I will and can honestly say so. I don't like to worry my daughter but whenever I try to cover with her I'm busted she sees right through me. I do know what #6 suspensful means about trying to talk to someone and suddenly they have a biggar problem. That is a pet peeve, mind you I have the gift of the gab and I don't have much trouble saying what's on my mind most times. Take care my friend.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
7 Oct 07
Of course I want to hear from you. Theres nothing wrong in that at all. Everyone is different.Thankyou for sharing that with me my friend.LOL
@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
7 Oct 07
it all depends who i am with i suppose. usually i try to pretend im fine, but sometimes its hard. I have a couple of friends who know instantly if somethings wrong, and i know i can talk about things with them. best wishes and take care
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
7 Oct 07
I know I too have people who instantly somethings wrong.
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@rangics (1335)
• Philippines
7 Oct 07
Yup. I'm like that. I'm actually good at it. I'm used to pretending I'm okey when I'm with friends or is out there shopping and stuff. I just don't want them to get involved with me at the moment especially if I'm not that ready to talk about the situation I'm upset at. ;)
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
7 Oct 07
yes your a pretender!LOL
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
7 Oct 07
I've been blessed such that most of the time everything is really okay in my life. When I do have problems I don't feel a need to pretend. Especially when I'm with my true friends I don't hesitate to talk about my problems. They wouldn't be true friends if they couldn't understand.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
7 Oct 07
Your so right thanks for sharing it with me.
• United States
6 Oct 07
I could too, but if Im that upset or freaked out about something, I usually just decline. Most times I can put on a smile and be my usual self, but there are times when I just wear my emotions on my sleeve! Ive been told Im "dramatic" lol I dont doubt that, hey atleast I can admit it. ;) Bay xx
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Oh what do they know about being dramatic?LOL Im glad you can admit it. Alot of people cant.
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Well maybe because I did study acting I know how to pretend..the show must go on. Let me tell you a story...this had to do with my acting days too. I was in a performance of Ibsen's Hedda Gabler (as the lead no less..lol)--It was during the summer, and there was no air conditioning in the college theater were the performance was..I was dressed in a period style costume, a velvet dress to the floor, I felt lousy not only from the heat, but hadn't slept much...before performance nerves, and on top of it, had just gotten my period that morning...so yeah, I was sure in fine form...LOL--but the show had to go on! heheee But yes, even now, I can feel like real drek, or maybe I'm going through one of my real stressed out times, but yes, will still "act" cheerful when I'm out, even though I'd rather crawl under a rock, or go back and crawl into bed and forget the world for awhile. Once I'm home I just kind of take it easy and let the mood pass it's normal course...
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
6 Oct 07
I didnt know you did acting. Im impressed. Hey at least you went on the show must go on. We are the great pretenders.hehehehe Its good to be home!
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
6 Oct 07
I always give a good front and pretend that everything is okay in my life. When I start complaining, my offline friends tell me to get over it, as if I can, so to avoid that remark I just say, 'fine." It rather upsets me, because sometimes I want to tell them how I feel, without learning of someone who went through a harder circumstances, although different then mine, and yet survived. Trouble is, soon the problem becomes insurmountable and I am blabbing it all over.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
6 Oct 07
I think its good to put up a front for as long as you can do it!LOL
@usmcsgtwife (4999)
• United States
6 Oct 07
I am the same way, I try and but a front on espically around the kids, I usally will not lose it until I am alne
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Oh sure you cant break their little hearts.
@Ricko82 (585)
• Philippines
6 Oct 07
I would not want to call it "pretend." Maybe we do it in order not to spoil the day you have with friends. Certainly they don't want to be with someone who is not fun to be with when they go out. However, if they are really true friends, they can understand if you show your true emotions regarding what is happening in your life. They too would like to know the real emotion you feel at the moment, so don't afraid to show them.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
6 Oct 07
I can only feel comfortable with certain peolple. Sorry cant change that.LOL
• China
7 Oct 07
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• China
7 Oct 07
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@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
7 Oct 07
me and my husband always have an argument.. and when we go out i do put a nice smile just to pretend that everything was okay... that nothing happened..