I am Single

@Marie2473 (8519)
Sweden
October 8, 2007 3:48am CST
It feels ok to say those words now. It has been a very hard time for me, and I have been really down. he has done everything he can to destroy whatever we had left by just beeing an A**. I am really sorry that he turned out to be someone else, but at the same time glad that it "only" took 2 years and no kids got involved. I AM SINGLE and I will stay so, I enjoy taking care of myself only... Love will have to wait for now!
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
9 Oct 07
Quoted for truth and seconded. But Marie, I can't tell in your post if you are just letting this one relationship get to you or if you've been through more than a few bad ones (like me ;p). Either way, its your life and I'm glad you're taking it positively and on your own terms.
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@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
13 Nov 07
I was in a very bad one for 4 years and then this one for 2 years - and I am just 26 so I guess most my life has been bad relations *haha*
• Philippines
20 Oct 07
I salute you my friend. I too is very happy with the choice I've made in life. I'd be turning 25 and still single by CHOICE of course. I chose not to live a very complicated life like the way it was before. I was put to hell when I settled with a no-good partner. I used to think that life would be so empty without somebody. But I just learned that being single is not really that bad. In fact, I am now living a better life than before. I never thought I could be this contented and peaceful. Not facing any complications or worries at all. Right now, I'm just waiting for Mr. Right to come my way. I'm not rushing things out, I just live my life one day at a time to be able to appreciate every little thing in my life:)
@quanto50 (142)
• Sweden
19 Oct 07
really sorry for you.. life could change sometimes.. but things would definitely be alright again.. so don't worry.. alla would be bra :-)
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@linda021 (100)
• China
18 Oct 07
hello my good friend ,take care ,and i am sigle ,i belive love will touch me ,i am very happy everyday ,i neednot to care about anyone unless my parerents ,hope you happy everyday ,you will find a nice man that really love you i think ,take care 1
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@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
Well for me there is nothing wrong with being single as long as you are happy with that. There are lots of way that you can do to enjoy life.Not all people finds happiness by getting married and having a family of their own, some find happiness by being single and i should say that if you are really happy that way, then its fine.
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• Australia
9 Oct 07
Time is the best healer & It doesn't matter if you have eyes or you are blind what matters is if there is light
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• United States
8 Oct 07
Stay strong & surround yourself with positive people. It's not worth the trouble to be in a relationship with someone that only cares about themselves. Look ahead to a better future with someone that deserves a great persson like you and don't settle for less!! After wasting about 10 yrs of my life between 2 nasty relationships, I found someone else when I wasn't looking or even expecting it and we're happily married now. It does take some time & patience and there will be times when you feel totally alone but keep on moving forward and don't look back. Best of luck on your new journey!!
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@Amberina (1541)
• United States
8 Oct 07
I was in the same boat as you for a couple of years, then I found love and it's wonderful. I couldn't have found it without being single first and working through all the "baggage" I had. With my new relationship I am able to love freely and recieve love as well. I wish you all the best. -Amber
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@claudia413 (4284)
• United States
8 Oct 07
Marie, it's great to see you back here posting. I think you are very lucky that no kids were involved and you just invested a few years. My daughter just got divorced in 2005 after a 20-year marriage and 2 kids. Now, take good care of yourself and stay strong. It's working well for my daughter. She gets stronger every day and so will you.
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@anup12 (4180)
• India
8 Oct 07
No problem, Everything will be allright.Just you require some time.Give yourself some time, it will rejuvineate you and again give you so much to think about apart from being single. You will again start rejoicing and again life will be beautiful.
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@rosie_123 (6118)
8 Oct 07
Hi Marie -it is good to see you back here posting , and I am so proud of you and happy to hear you say these words. There is nothing wrong with being single - be proud of yurselfa nd enjoy it! You are a strong woman, and you are coping and will continue to do so. No- it won't always be easy to bring the kids up on your own, but I am convinced you will do so admirably. So enjoy your new-found single status girl:-)) Yes you will still have bad days, - but with your children, the support of your Mother and your friends, you will get through it and come out a stronger person. Love will come for you again one day I'm sure - but there is no harm in leaving it on the back-burner for a while to concentrate on yourself, and the children. You take care sweetie, and I am so proud of you being so strong!
• United States
8 Oct 07
And I am so glad you are recovering from what he did to you, hopefully this has made a stronger person and a better person for the next person that wants to be a part of your life. Be well, my friend!
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
8 Oct 07
i am a ningle mom of four and i am proud to say that too. yes it is hurting that after all this years a person you got involved with has became a different person. the hurting part is there are four kids involved. lucky you it took only two years, enjoy life let love find you, dont hurry to find one.
• United States
8 Oct 07
Marie, I have just recently went throught the same experience as you. I am too down about it. I also find myself constantly thinking about him.I too enjoy just taking care of myself and my kids. Sometimes I get really lonely though. I know that someday I will find love again I just will not look for it. I believe that love will come to me when I least expect it. Hang in there and best wishes to you. Barb
@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
8 Oct 07
I know how your feeling is... I believe every occasion had its own purpose. Maybe he is not the one. I know you will feel how hard it is, after these 2 years things had done and all just ended up with a broken up. I had been there, too. That girl broken up me, and in nearby times, she made up with other guy. I'm just like you said just now, that I will not falling in love in nearby times. Yes, it did. Every thing needs time before recovery. After 1 year, I met my girl. And we had it until now. I know what you need is recovery times for forgetting him. Don't worry, you will meet with the right one.
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• India
8 Oct 07
It happens you can't always expect good things all the time, but your decision to stay single is good, gives you time to think about yourself & find out what exactly you need & what exactly you are looking for :)
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
10 Oct 07
Its feel to say sorry at first as you have broken up and the pain you have undergone. At the same time its nice that you are out of that pain. Congrats for taking this big movement in life. Hope you don't do the same mistake again in knowing a person fully.
• United States
9 Oct 07
I was wondering about you! It has been a while since I saw you around the "Lot". I am glad to hear that you are heading in the right direction. But, I want you to keep in mind that you never know when or where love will happen. You could turn a corner and meet someone. It often happens when you least expect it. Be good to yourself. Keep smiling. Big huggers to you.
• United States
9 Oct 07
Nothing wrong with being single. It is all right to take your time finding a soul mate. There is no rush. You are lucky that you don't have kids with him. If you do you would have to see him again if he wants to be in his kid's life.
@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
9 Oct 07
Good for you!!! I know when I got divorced, I loved to realize that I was "ME" again. It took a while before I was ready to share "ME" with anyone else, but I think I was better for it. Congrats!