Career or Love?Which COmes first?

Carrer or Love - Career or Love.Which one to choose?
India
October 8, 2007 12:26pm CST
Recently,one of my friend who is in search of Job is planning to shift in the city where his Gf resides.The job prospects for the kind of job he's looking for,is less in that city.But still he wants to go their,as he wants to be with her.I explained him that at this point of time your career must be important thing for you and instead this,you should move to a city where you can have high probability of finding job.But he's not listening.What,according to you,he must do?am I wrong and giving him wrong advice?or He's doing wrong?If you are starting your career,at that point whether love is important or the career?-AV
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11 responses
@milkfish (375)
• Philippines
9 Oct 07
In life, we can't have everything we want for. There is always something to sacrifice in favor of something. Choosing between career or love depends on the priorities of a person. If a person is career-oriented and has dream of going up in the corporate ladder, then he choose career over love. However, if the guy is committed on a serious relationship already, then he might choose love over career. I would say that the ideal situation would be to find the right balance between the two. If the girl is secured in the relationship already and uderstanding enough to let her man go for the opportunity for his career growth, she will also benefit from it the end because it will also be for their future. It will also mean a long distance realtionship for them. But if they really love each other and will remain faithful to each other, distance will not be a problem.
• India
9 Oct 07
Yes,your are very true.I like your comment that if they are faithful to each other,then distance will not be a problem.And this is what I explained to him,that why are you worried about the distance?It won't be forever...you just have to wait.But may be,his priorities are different than mine. Thanks for your comment. Cheers, -AV
@milkfish (375)
• Philippines
10 Oct 07
And may I just add, they say that "Distance makes the heart go fonder".
• India
10 Oct 07
Hmmm,then I think distance is better.More distance,means more affection :-).. Cheers, -AV
@ailema4ever (2675)
• Finland
8 Oct 07
Well, if he can find a decent job there and he's happy with that, I don't see any problem. Being far from your loved one is tough. I understand his decision in moving to the city where his gf lives. ;-D But if he can't find a decent job there, then it'd be best for him to move. All in all, just let him find his own way. IMO you've done enough in telling him to consider all the factors before moving to that city. If he still insists on doing it, all you can do is support him. :-D
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• India
9 Oct 07
Ya,tha's true if he can find a good job there.Thanks alot for your comment,I am now making mind to support him.Lets hope for best. :)
• Finland
9 Oct 07
Yeah, let's hope for the best then. :-D
@subha12 (18453)
• India
9 Oct 07
I think it varies from person to person. The priority also depends on individual. I would have advised same as you to the friend to look after career first. First he need a job. After that all will look greener, be it love or life. If one doesnot have a very good career, after some time these love and all will disappear. But may be he has got his own views and priorities.
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• India
9 Oct 07
Yes,lastly,his views and priorities rules.But I like your comment that "all will look greener".Its true and always happens.Its a fairy tale.Nothing is set. Thanks again for your nice comment. -AV
@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
9 Oct 07
you're right with your advice. he is just starting in his career so he should give it importance. but I'm not saying that his gf is not important. of course she's important too. but since they have been in a relationship for so long, I think the gf would also want her bf to develop his career. career growth is important too in a relationship because it gives confidence to a person and thus, lessening incidence of misunderstandings over jealousy. and besides, if their love is true, then it can wait. and developing his career is not only for himself, its also for his gf, like a way of preparing for their future. ^__^
• India
9 Oct 07
Yes,you are very true.The career at the starting is very important and moreover,as you said,its not only for my friend or his family,its for his GF too..which will part of his family in near future.Thanks for comment. -AV
• China
9 Oct 07
Hi Anan,You are not wrong. Coz u are his friend, just gave him good advice. Career and love are both important, which comes first, it depends.Look, your friend thinks love is important. you should be happy for him. He loves his GF so much,he's willing for her to suck in difficulties. So i think you'd better to give him more courage to get over difficulties. You are friends right, and i think you love each other and trust each other. Now, Bless him, I think he will be very very happy to make friends with you. Cheerful
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• India
9 Oct 07
Ya :-).I already have blessed him.And frankly,it wasn't a "hot" discussion between us.It was just a general discussion which we led.I just wanted to give him some options before he make a move.So,I put in front of him.I am in support of his move,cause according to me he's taking a brave action.Just wanted that he don't get deviated from his goals and other responsibilities. Thanks alot for your comment. -AV
• India
8 Oct 07
hi anant, anant love for me love is important but not in the cost of career. n in this case im lucky becoz my love n career both r related 2 each other. dear one thing i want to ask one day ur love is in one side and ur career is in other side what ur going to choose. ans me plz
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• India
9 Oct 07
Hi Neha, This could be a special case that your love and career,both are related to each other.It's not always,as in case of my friends. And as far as your question is concerned,I'll try to manage in between the two so that none of them lost their importance.Where ever it is necessary,love will be given priority and when career is necessary,it would be given the same. Thanks for your comment. -AV
• Philippines
8 Oct 07
If you are a practical person, then you must go for CAREER first. On the other side of the rope, if your priority in life is your emotional needs, then settle for your loved-one above your career. It is actually a matter of one's priorities in life. In my situation, love scenes in my life seems to be over. So if ever I am into such situation, I really know what to choose and that is CAREER anyway, love could always wait ("v")
• India
9 Oct 07
Nice comment "Love could always wait".That's really true.If it can't wait,means its not love.Thanks for your comment.
@prazad (281)
• India
9 Oct 07
When you are teen its love but when you become adult its career.
• India
10 Oct 07
gr8.:-) thanks for the comment. -AV
@prazad (281)
• India
11 Oct 07
you are welcome
@kodie420 (872)
• Canada
9 Oct 07
Well first off I guess it all depends on what kind of person you might be. You have to figure out what makes you happier then go from there. For me I love money and can never have enough of it and up till 3 years ago money was the most important thing to me until I met my last girlfriend. After meeting her and her 3 kids I soon found that love is harder to find then making money ever was for me. Jobs can come and go by the hundreds but as for finding that one true love well thats a whole other story.
• India
9 Oct 07
Thanks for sharing your experience.Its true that love is very hard to find than finding a job.But lastly,suppose,if we've our love life settled on one side and our career is not settled yet,it can create problems. -AV
@jothis (519)
• India
8 Oct 07
Girl friend will be there, But one has to secure his career. That is the main thing to do. If he doesnt have a good job girlfriend won't be with him. Try to understand him.
• India
9 Oct 07
Thanks for your comment.I don't think his GF is going to leave him only on the grounds that he is not having good job.But,possibilities are there.And then I should say,they don't love each other,Just cause they can't adjust. -AV
@tomomo (25)
• Indonesia
8 Oct 07
career is more important because the chance is not come to you for twice and love will find u if have great position on your job and than u will have a lot of money and than love will come to u
• India
9 Oct 07
I am not sure that if we've a good position in job than "Love" will come to us.I don't think that would be love if it comes after seeing the job position,it would be lust.But yes,while choosing between love and career,career must be important.Cause after all, if we want to lead a good life with our beloved ones than our career should be settled first. -AV