How can you help your childeren to make a choise what to be In live?

Netherlands
October 9, 2007 4:05pm CST
I have a son who doesn't know what do for a living when he is old enough to work. It seems a little bit early becaurse he's just 13 years old. But even know it's a issue for us. He has to choose a direction at school next year which can be hard to do when you don't know what you wanna bee in live. How do you help you child whith this problem?
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@deebomb (15322)
• United States
9 Oct 07
Here in the United States we have what is called take your child to work day. It lets the kids know some of the things that are related to the work that parents do. There is also a career day. the school setsup booths that show the kids what kids of jobs are out there so they can know what subject to take to start preparing them for college. you might get a friend to take your son to his or her job so he can learn what is involved. The school also do test that show where their potential is.
• Netherlands
13 Oct 07
That's a great idea. I will talk about that with his teacher. Mayby she can start something up with the parents off her students. Thanks
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
9 Oct 07
Wow, they really start to push you early in the Netherlands! LOL I didn't know what I wanted to be until I was in my mid 20's! I think it's an awful high expectation for a 13 year old to try to decide what he wants to do with his life. Here they just get a paper route or bus tables at the local restaurant. As far as helping your child, maybe you should look into careers that center around what his interests are. Which, IMHO, would be difficult too, teenagers change so fast.
• Netherlands
13 Oct 07
We donĀ“t push them but in the second grade they have to choose a special direction at school. You can choose between 4 options. Within these options you have also different directions. To make it easier, lol. But I believe that when you choose wronly now it effects his whole future. Mayby I think to far ahead.
@lovein (345)
• India
10 Oct 07
education and application of it, is what a child needs. during his/her life span. This is the definition of work. A son child has come to earth for application of education. A Girl Child Already Knows Every Thing, So she needs no much emphasis on education outside of home. Thanks
• United States
10 Oct 07
Yeah, a lot of schools are forcing kids into this early... I think its stupid. Many kids don't know until they're in college!! However, since he needs to... what are his best subjects? His hobbies? His strengths? What does he hate? Weaknesses? things he wouldn't do on a bet? If, for example, he really likes history and talking out loud during class and making posters, but dislikes math, race cars and cats (I know I'm being arbitrary) he might be a history teacher, a museum curator, etc. Or if he likes math, or science... see? We were fortunate in that we homeschooled and didn't need to decide this; my son is still exploring long range goals, but my daughter's known from very early on that she's called to be a special ed teacher and is in college for that now.
• India
10 Oct 07
As kids grow up they interact with lots of people around and get to know about various avenues around them. They also relate themselves to the profession which suits them the most and develop skills suitable to it. What contribution once can make from thier side is not to push them to choose the one they prefer may be because you wanted to be that and due to some reasons could not do that.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
9 Oct 07
my first born is 16 years old and he only had something on mind to do with his future when he was 15. he said he will be taking up culinary at college. it was really a surprise to me because my son loves to draw although he has a passion in cooking as well i didnt thought he would like to study cooking more than drawing. so dont be discourage if your son who is 13 years old has nothing in my on what to do with his future, slowly he will soon know. for us parents just talk to him freguently on what you wanted to be when you are a kid. sometimes kids also get discourage on people he sees around him. for example i have a sister who is graduates from a computer science course but she is unemployeed for 2 years, i have a cousin who is a engineer but ended up playing with a band. with such people around him who has studied too much and ended up with a different career sometimes affects his thinking on what to be him in the future.