Cynical on Relationships

@theprogamer (10539)
United States
October 9, 2007 9:55pm CST
Yo mylotters. Just thought of a new discussion. I think its 120% quality though I know some of you will probably want me burned at the stake soon. Anyways, I'm just gonna explain my cynical posting especially in relationship matters. Yes, I've been burned several times and it wasn't that fun (and it was with several types of women so I've got that experience as well). So don't get mad if I mention it or if I use it as an example why one should be cautious in relationships. Also I've seen friends and family go through things too. And after that I know people online and I've talked with groups and their experiences. Now the obvious question or observation is "oh you hate women, blah blah blah". No, and great way to show me how limited you are. Just because I've seen some of the nastiest people and relationships does not mean "i hate women". When I post, I refer to some women not all. So try not to get too hurt or offended, not worth the time and energy. I also know several women both in real life and online that are great - my mylotter buds know they are part of this greatness too ;) And this is just the same as some women and married women posting on the bad things guys do. Oh but maybe I'm wrong, maybe there's only room for one viewpoint on the lot -_- Oh and one more thought. Why is it so terrible for me (and a couple of others) to post on the vices and bad behavior of women, but its A-O-Freaking-High Five-KAY!! to post on the vices and bad behavior of men on mylot? Threads like that are endless in number on mylot too. Just asking... *cheers*
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@Sharon38 (1916)
• Jamaica
10 Oct 07
Cant say I blame you on that for feeling the way you do. some people are jsut too nearsighted or is it farsighted? I say what is good for the goose is good for the gander so if women can slug men for being mean then women (we) should allow you guys to slug it on those who women who were mean to you. I say to you that I have found mylot to be a place where you can really and truly let lose and let down your hair so why should you feel fenced in because of what you express or want to express. Go ahead and vent!!! I know that women can be really mean and its not all of us as you say but if you need to talk about it go ahead!
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
10 Oct 07
Thanks Sharon. I try not to be insane harsh and I have indeed tried to comfort others if my comments do hurt or are read in an unintended way. I feel great I had this discussion just to let it all go and to get some feedback. I must say, your responses are a great reason to stay on Mylot
• United States
10 Oct 07
"Why is it so terrible for me (and a couple of others) to post on the vices and bad behavior of women, but its A-O-Freaking-High Five-KAY!! to post on the vices and bad behavior of men on mylot? " It is verbotten for the male of our species to speak ill of the female exactly for the reason stated in that old Texas saying concerning the problem with women. You don't know that? The problem with women is that they have all the (fill in the blank) and they know it.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
10 Oct 07
Yea yea yea =P By the way, should I be listening to someone who's star was removed? =D (Kidding of course) Thanks for sharing that, cause sadly its rather true.
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• United States
10 Oct 07
Actually, it makes me proud that my star was removed. Anyone can have a #10. How many lose a star without ever having a post deleted or receiving a warning from myLot? That my star varies now from #1 to none is a sad reflection on myLot, not myself.
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• United States
10 Oct 07
This seems to be a very common sentiment amongst nerds and gamers. Do you just all have really awful taste in women or what? I'm not sure if this applies to you, but it seems that a lor of guys seem to like to aim "out of their league" so to speak. I think it's not fair that all the worthwhile, fun and/or intelligent men all still go for the hottie bimbos. Not only assuming that they're going to magically transform into women of depth, but that they being what the current standard for "beauty" dictates, then somehow it makes him more worthy or masculine.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
10 Oct 07
I've aimed for several types of women like I said (small, tall, thin, shapely). But I do see your point Lex, I've seen it myself. I've also seen the flip side of it, different types of women going for whoever and then either expecting change or slowly getting them to change. Thanks for your input though, its a good light on the subject.
• United States
10 Oct 07
Well, my fiance is a gamer nerd and all his other girlfriends were b*tches, cheaters and just plain morons and I just don't get it. Then there's that Beauty and the Geek and The Pick-Up Artist and you see all these smart and awesome guys just going insanely gag over these bimbos and I just don't get it. And meanwhile, my whole life, I have never once been approached, hit on or asked out and was even turned down a few times and (say it with me) I just don't get it. It just makes no sense to me. Sorry for the rant lol.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
10 Oct 07
Nah, thats fine Lex! I've seen your plight too, its nothing new at least to me. Much of what you are saying, I can easily see myself saying (albeit with a few roles reversed here and there, naturally). I'm even chuckling at the pop culture reference, very funny because its true, you're spot on.
@Flight84 (3050)
• United States
12 Oct 07
Eh, it's your business. I would completely understand you being cynical if you've had several bad experiences. I'm a woman, and I can't stand many of the female species. Many are catty, rude, and gossipy. I'm a pretty chill girl and I don't get worked up over silly/petty nonsense. I mind my own business and prefer other women to keep all the gossip to themselves. They can save the drama for their mamas.:P You can feel free to post about all the vices and bad behavior that you want. It's your business and your life and other women shouldn't be offended by that. It's not like you're calling out the entire female race. Anyway, if they did get mad, they're just proving your point.:P
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
13 Oct 07
Thanks for the support Flight! Tell Cait I said hi too.
@Flight84 (3050)
• United States
14 Oct 07
I'll tell her. She doesn't have the Internet at her house yet, so she only gets to use it when she's over at my house.
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
10 Oct 07
(I don't think if I can give a quality reposne to this but I can always try, here it is.) Well I guess I am too kind of struck my this women or I must say girls..!! Mostly girls (females) are obbessed by themsleves and in this obbession they don't really care about others!! I have seen many families breaking up only cause of the women in it. She want a better house, better jewellery and blah blah...!! Beating up her own husband threatening him of and etc..!! They have many fantasies!! Well I am my self a girl but its true. YOu know my father was looking up for putting me in a all girls college I was kind of all scared to get struck by all those mean and proudy girls around me there in college....lol NOw thank goodness I am in a co-ed college. Well I guess this is the thing why I can't make good friends in females....!! And Yes still I will say that not every person(women) is the same. Nice discussion. :)
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
10 Oct 07
Thank you for commenting Stella. Again, I've seen it from multiple perspectives (and from the points of some women too). I'm glad to add your experiences to my own, like all others. Its great to see life from all sorts of perspectives, thank you for contributing.
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• India
11 Oct 07
:) your always welcome. I tried my level best to give a nice reponse to your discussion. I guess I did it. Yes that was my perspecting. I am still discovering this world as I am just in my teens. Thankyou for your nice comment. Nice discussion. :)
@kiobug (2250)
• United States
10 Oct 07
This makes me sorry I have posted about my boyfriend. : ) Im sorry you have been in bad relationships but its people like you that I like to hear from on these discussions because you have experience and a valued opinion. I think men find better things to make into discussions then there relationship problems. Girls want to talk about it. Thats about it. I cant out smart you. I do consider what you say on the topic.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
10 Oct 07
Huh? Don't feel sorry :) I wasn't offended at all by that all. It gave an individual perspective on it, and that's fine. I'll keep posting too, but Kio you keep sharing your stuff too.
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@kiobug (2250)
• United States
10 Oct 07
Hey thanks. I just dont want to seem like I complain a lot which I do. My boyfriend is great I just happened to start mylot when I was kind of mad at him. Haha anyways you keep posting too. Youve got some great things to say.
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
10 Oct 07
Just because you have that bad experience that you can't let go. Accidentally you'd met someone who didn't deserve for your great and tender love. They were all part of your past life that you can't get up too. Bad past memories that you let to get in and keeping hunting your present. And i think and base of your responses of several discussions that relate of what your bad relationship experienced. Hatred and pain was exposed and explained. For me and sometimes people doing as what you did in a way to relief. They want to say what's on there mind and what they feel. And My lot is a big help of this kind of an emotional thing. But i can see that you are not a woman hater. YOur mind is also open to different personalities and belief. YOu specified every situations and human you had encountered. You also explained your part why you having this kind of reactions and bla,bla and bla.. Progs, i had been also this kind of experience but i avoid myself to say anything bad words for them.. They know they made a mistake and they know what they did is foolishness and jerk thing. Important is i let go on that hurt and hatred thing. I am thinking not on the past but i am thinking for my present life and preparing myself to the future. happy posting friend:)
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
10 Oct 07
Yea thank you Cia. It still hurts, and the pain will always be there. There's no pretending otherwise. But also why should I keep quiet if someone else is in a situation similar to something I, or other guys and even some women, have been through? I'd rather warn people or at least give a different view on the subject(same as other hot-button topics). And thanks for mentioning the other part too. Yes I've posted some of the negative aspects but I'm also on the record of really helping people with their relationships and with other comments that were not negative. And you've also seen some of my other posting else where on mylot, I've had some great times talking with and helping other people. In a way I do get around the pain. I just live, I do a whole bunch of things and I help others. Its actually great the way it is and I wouldn't trade it :) Plus yes I do work toward bettering myself and making a better future for myself and others. I think you pretty much won it all Cia.
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
No need to say thanks progs! What i had written was base on my observation of your showing personality here in mylot. The way you shared your emotions of the matter. YOur smart and intelligent but despite of that your an emotional. And being emotional you can't avoid to react like the way you reacted. We are human. And we have the right to express of what we feel inorder us to relief. Our feelings rule our mind that we can't avoid sometimes.
@AmbiePam (50053)
• United States
10 Oct 07
I don't mind. We have pathetic men, we have pathetic women. Go ahead, just please don't use the 'b' word. I hate when people use that all the time, LOL.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
10 Oct 07
Definitely. I've never used that word. I've got other ones but nothing as bad as the one you mentioned Ambie. Thanks for the encouragement.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
13 Oct 07
You know what gets me about you Mr. Gamer? You have like the best and most creative way of ranting. I wish I could do that. I mean you actually cuss without cussing. LOL. Wait . . . I'm going to have to check out your other discussions. Anyway, sorry you've been hurt so bad. I know women can be so manipulative. We try not to be. In any case, may your heart heal soon and thanks for making us laugh and cry and all that stuff.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
13 Oct 07
Sometimes I do indeed use the real profanity. Other times though I'll go **** or ##. And yes I do use some play profanity like "screwball" my trademark ;p The heart is still healing, and many times a heart never really heals fully. I'm fine, and I'm happy too despite the pain that can rise from time to time. That's probably the most illogical thing I've ever posted, but thats how I see it :) Thanks for the kind words GTA.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
17 Oct 07
You are absolutely right. We should be able to see others as individuals and not generalize as men's behaviour and women's behaviour. Being a woman, I don't think all women are nice...there are some very nasty women out there (worse than some men I know). So, you really wouldn't be wrong in venting your feelings about them. If we can talk about all the nasty things men have done to us (we also speak about nasty women), you have all the right to speak about all the nasty things women have done(certain women....not all women are the same just like all mean are not the same).
• Philippines
10 Oct 07
i totally understand your point and i think that some women may just be as nasty as some men and it's not fair to just nail all the vices on the guys. a lot of girls have broken my guy friends' hearts because they actually cheated on them. and a lot of guys have also broken my girl friends' hearts because of the same reasons. so cheating is not just exclusive for guys. girls are more vocal about being cheated, though, so i guess that's why we hear more about men cheating on the ladies. but if guys spoke up as often as the ladies do about cheating and all that, then we'd find out that both girls and guys are capable of being nasty cheats.