Hate and love

Hate and love - Do you love and hate at the same time?
@mycharm88 (2292)
Philippines
October 11, 2007 3:55am CST
Do you believe in the saying "the more you hate, the more you love" Is this possible? can you love the person that you hate at the same time?lol quite confusing for me... I once had a childhood neighbor who ecame my friend... i hated him knowing that he likes me.. I think i was 10 yrs old back then, at a young age he said he loved me and he said he's going to marry me..ughh! i don't know but i just don't like him...as time passed by the hate turned to love, omg! as in it was a total opposite of the feeling way back in my elementary years, i was a junior highschool then... wierd but it did happen to me and but the realtionship didn't last long. Did this happen to you too? do share some friends c",)
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25 responses
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
Hello mycharm! Yes, I experienced that situation too. I think some people used to hate the person they like so that it will not be obvious that you really like him or her. However, it is kinda different from your situation. Have a nice day and God speed!
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
Hey braveheart c",) that time when i said i hated him, i wasn't really atrracted to him at all.. we were teased by our friends and i hated when it happened but as time passed by i saw something good in him, and i appreciated him, and then loved him, i guess that wasn't real love because it didn't last that long.lol!! tc sweetie c",)
@raijin (10382)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
I only get that feeling everytime I tease someone, then would later on realize that it turned into reality. Sometimes, people would just hide the feelings they have as a sort of defensive strategy!LoL Though it happened to me one time, I experience that on my friends. I would tease both and pass on informations about each other, with me acting as their invisible bridge!;) I'd be happy whnever I see the results turned into good things, it makes me think that it is always great to share the love and spread it to everyone!;)
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
Hey raijin!!! I like the statement " it is always great to share the love and spread it to everyone", and i do agree with that. Love is a wonderful thing that must be shared to everyone. I was once a bridge too and i never wanna do it again, wanna know why? The boy fell inlove with me instead of my friend who liked him, i know my she was hurt but i never intended to do that... shook my head ***wink***
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@raijin (10382)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
Aww, that must be tragic. I experienced that before too and believe me, the feeling of guilt is always there inside..
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
hhyeah!! i was a little guilty, but just a little because i didn't like the guy.. he was unto me but the spark was never there.lol!!!
• India
12 Oct 07
even this kind of incident happened to me as well, when i was in my first year but the person whom i proposed hated me in the first place but now that person likes me but there is a slight problem in that now i dont want her to be my lover because she doesnt want me to be her real lover. she wanted the relationship just for 3 years till she finishes her college
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
Ohh.. you mean she only wanted you until he finishes college, then what? break-up? Oh..no that is not right, two things will happen either you or her end up being hurt. 3 yrs is long and a lot of things will happen during that period of time... I don't know her reasons though but like you i would never want to be in that relationship too.
@Bawwwlin (38)
• Canada
12 Oct 07
That's confusing.. Your HATE can change to LOVE anytime.. its just a matter of AT THE SAME TIME. Loving and hating AT THE SAME TIME is impossible in this universeee
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
Ok thanks for your opinion bawwwlin, tc always...
@subha12 (18472)
• India
11 Oct 07
it did not happened with me. I must say what happened is just the other way. There was a guy. he was my friend at work. We were good friends . He had some feelings and he proposed me after some months. I declined as I saw him as friend only. Later it turned out that he was just acting nice to take advantage of me. Recently he behaved very badly with me for no reason and i was shocked. Now I hate someone whom i thought my best friend once.
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
Ahhh...there really are guys like that and i'm glad you're ok subha. I too experienced that only he was married. I accepted the friendship thinking that he was a nice guy and i do respect him. Later on i received nasty messages from his wife, she thought that i was his other woman...arghhh!! grrr..the guts she has to tell me that. I wasjust being friendly and never had any intention of hurting anyone.I didn't really know that he was inlove with me, if i'd known i would have avoided him. So after that happened i never spoke to him again, it was 3 yrs ago now i still nod when our paths crossed but nothing more than a nod for him...
• China
11 Oct 07
Hum,I think it is possible,the person who you love hurt you more painful than the person who you do not love very much hurt you.When you are hurted deeply,you would hate the person who hurt you.
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
I just realized that sweetie c",) thanks for the response.. take care
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
Hi Charm! In science it is said that similar poles detract each other, so as emotion. When one likes the other and his style of approach didn't fit your taste, your tendency is to dislike him. The more you negate his feelings, the more you give more emphasis on his being, such that you will miss him, his styles, then without knowing it, you are trap to like the person. That's why, when both of you like its other, it's now the turn of the strong vs. the weak that made you attract each other....he,he,he...can this explain such emotion?
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
Wow!!! i think it does sweetie..lol you said it right and i do agree with you..
@sang2k2 (1834)
• India
11 Oct 07
yeh i beleive in it, n i have nvr experienced the example wht u have mentioned above...bt i have heard about the same form many people and have seen the same among my freinds as well... theres this friend of mine the girl used to hate her very much n they used to always tend to fight and they had difference of opinion finally after certain years thy got together n they are still together its almost 7 yrs now.. there are 2 kinds of love, one in which the boy / girl either of thm is silently admiring the other (without the others knowledge ) and then over a period of time it turns into love and the other oen whcih satrts with hate n thn gradually turns into love..
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
Wow!!I've seen that happen to my friends too. Really sweet to think that hate could turn to love right? thanks for sharing this nice response my friend.c",) you take care always...
@jcyap888 (721)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
yes it is possible coz you are concern of why you hate him!
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
16 Oct 07
Oh..thank you for the response my friend c",)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
There are many people experience that. I also have the same experience, but we did not end up together. I hate him when we are classmate, and when he went to college, i realized he is good looking. But although we became friends, we did not end up together. This can happened to anyone of us. We suddenly realized their potential in the right time that is why we end up liking them.
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
Hhyeah..it does happen to most of us.lol!! I use to think the he was the one or wished he was but now i've realized that he is not for me. I'm happy with my boyfriend now, nothing more to ask for...i do have this feeling sometimes that i hate (during misunderstandings)him but i still do love him.
• India
12 Oct 07
Dear as you know hates generate for whom you have a space in your heart.You can see whom I dont know atall or whom we dont depended atall we cant hate them.We just ignore them.The frist step of love to anyone is hating him/her.We generally answer no if anybdy propose us for love or marry.We have a little space fro him/her in our heart.Thanks.
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
I do agree with that raj, sometimes it happens c",) thanks for the response sweetie c",)tc
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• India
14 Oct 07
You are welcome my dear.Thanks for agreeing with me.I hope our future discussions could get a nice way for each other.Thanks again.
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
16 Oct 07
We'll sure will raj dear c",) thank you so much.
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@sid556 (31029)
• United States
12 Oct 07
I do believe that there really is a very very fine line between love and hate. If you think about it , both are very strong emotions. You really have to have a strong reaction emotionally to that person to feel either. I used to feel as if I "hated" my ex husband. I loved him very deeply for a very long time. When things went bad, the intensity of the anger was so strong. I would say as strong as the love i had once felt. I think that more than hating him, I hated that he even mattered in my life. I think maybe a part of me did still love him and wished that I didn't. It was a very painful time in my life and such a relief when I could be around him with no emotional reaction at all...when I really would not care a bit if he found another girlfriend or anything at all.
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
hello sid c",) I'm sorry to hear that my friend...I don't really know exactly what to say about your situation, i don't know what would i do if that would happen to me. Must've been very painful for you struggling about the way you feel for him i couldn't imagine how... but i could see that you are a strong person. If you don't mind me asking, are you happy with the way things are in your life? if you don't wanna answer, it's ok :) just take care always and hugz..
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@sid556 (31029)
• United States
14 Oct 07
Oh yes, I am very happy in my life right now. I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason. I guess my point was that you have to have a certain amount of feelings for a person for them to affect you enough to feel hate. It is very very true that it is a fine line there between love and hate.
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
16 Oct 07
You are so right about that my friend and i'm am so happy for you sweetie c",)
@Amberina (1542)
• United States
12 Oct 07
I loved my ex husband then I started hating him and that turned into a divorce :)-Amber
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
oh.. i'm sorry to hear that amber, are you happy with your life now without him? sorry to ask that is if you don't mind... Tc always
@Amberina (1542)
• United States
14 Oct 07
I am very happy now with my new life. It still has it's ups and downs but it's much better. All the best -Amber
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
16 Oct 07
Well i'm happy for you dear Amber, at least your free from the pain you've felt before c",) things do happen for a reason that's why... you take care
• India
13 Oct 07
Life is very short. I do not find enough time to love. Hate is not in my agenda.
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
I admire you for that pyari.. tc always
• United States
12 Oct 07
If you hate someone - you obviously care! My mom always told me there was a very thin line between love and hate. I didn't understand what she meant until I had my heart broken. I went from loving him to hating him in just a few days. I hated him because he hurt me(obviously)...it's not until you can let go that those feelings subside.
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
14 Oct 07
hello!c",) yeah that happened to me and my hunny too. There was a time that i thought i hated him because he did something foolish, but it turned out that i misunderstood him...lol!!silly me...
@Bada711 (42)
• China
4 Nov 07
i believe this sayig.beacause i meet this situation in high school.there was a beautiful girl in our class.i liked her and we had lunch tegether.she and i were student union'member.so the oppertunity of getting along with her was more and more.one day i heard that she was quarrling with my best friend,using fourletter word.i couldn't bear that.after that i hated her so much.but along with the passage of time.i like her gradually again.
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@irene_27 (545)
• Philippines
2 Nov 07
I once have this guy friend who told me that there's only a thin line between hate and love. I think this is true and has a conection to the saying "the more you hate, the more you love. The logical explanation of why we hate a person is the we unconsciously get affected by him. in the first place, why subject yourself to letting him get to your nerves when you don't feel anything for him? If you consider him to be nothing then you wouldn't care less and just go on completely ignoring him. Fact is, your hatred is sometimes a defense mechanism of you trying to control your feelings towards that person.
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• China
31 Oct 07
we are human beings,and i think the feeling you mentioned is common. For many people,when the lover he or she loves leave away for ever,such feeling may appear.At the same time,if the world is full of uncertains,you will never kown what will happen to you in a minite. Agree?
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• United States
31 Oct 07
I do think the 2 feelings can join together but not for long.Either it turns into pure love or pure hate.I loved my kids father but i hated him for everything he did to me.I stayed with him because i loved him.Even when i left him i still loved him but after a while the love turned into just flat out HATE!!
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@lucky_witch (2713)
• Philippines
31 Oct 07
Until now, I still dont understand that sayings. Maybe in some ways that can be apply, but very rare. Because I believe that if you really hate someone that means majority of what you feel or what you see in him is his negative side. So how can you say that you love him or her more. Well, maybe I could say that in some hate develops to love or the other way around.
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