Is it unprofessional to have an affair with your boss?

India
October 11, 2007 2:44pm CST
Hi, I would like to know if it is wrong to have an affir with your boss. i am single. my boss is married. we sit back after work. none at work suspect yet. please advise!!
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@babostwick (2036)
• United States
11 Oct 07
You best be careful because you never know who will read this online actually. If it is found out, you will be probably have people talking about it behind your back. It wouldn't be wise to do so especially if promotions start going to you really fast. Then it will lead to suspicion. I guess just wait and see what happens and if it becomes a problem, make sure to stop it before something happens.
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@jillbeth (2705)
• United States
11 Oct 07
Yes, it is wrong! Especially since the man is married. Do you even need to ask or are you looking for someone to tell you it's OK when you know it is wrong? Even if he were single, it would still not be appropriate and when your coworkers found out it would just lead to trouble. A person who wants to date the boss needs to find a different job first.
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• Canada
11 Oct 07
It is WRONG!!! First of all, whether he is your boss or not, he is MARRIED, and that in itsself is wrong. Married people should not be involved with other people. Secondly, this person is your boss, so if this affair is discovered you will be accused to "sleeping your way to the top," should you be promoted for your naturally abilities. You will never know whether your gain in the office has to do with YOU, or what you can "do" for your boss.
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@michfroi (413)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
i dont think so... as long as you are both single.. but in your case yeah it is unprofessional, unethical and most of all indecent...
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@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
Well, as it is, having an affair with a married person is wrong. If you are single, you have all the freedom to choose someone who's single like you too. When people start finding out about your relationship, you might be in trouble. More so if the relationship will affect the family of the married person. If I were in your place, I would just give up the relationship, even before I fall deeply in love. I wouldn't want to be the cause of a family that could break up because of me.
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@gradyslady (4054)
• United States
11 Oct 07
Yes it's unprofessional, for many reasons. Most companies, if not all, have a rule about work related relationships, they're mostly against them. Also, your boss is married, I don't blame you for that part, he needs to be more wise, whether he wants to be married, or if he wants to full around with someone else, not both.
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• United States
11 Oct 07
He or she, I don't know why that didn't show up, but I wanted to clear up I put he or she is to be at blame.
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• India
19 Oct 07
You might have an attraction towards him. Others advice may not work in this situation.
• Canada
13 Oct 07
I think this is very unprofessional. I think that a married person cheating on their spouse behind their back is very wrong. Since you know he's married, you're choosing to interfere with his marriage, and could be responsible for breaking up his marriage. When you have an affair with your boss there are also considerations about your career. How will the work environment be if you have an affair, or break up later on, or if your coworkers find out, or if the spouse finds out? It could hurt your career, you might want to leave your job, other employees might not respect you, or you could get in trouble with your employer (depending on what their "dating" policies are). This sounds like playing with fire. Personally, I would avoid this affair!