How do you handle toddler temper tantrums?

@ModelMom (129)
United States
October 27, 2006 10:32pm CST
What do you find to be the best way to handle a tempter tantrum thrown by a toddler....especially in public?
6 responses
• United States
28 Oct 06
In public take them to a quiet place like back to your car and bathroom and talke to them
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@ModelMom (129)
• United States
28 Oct 06
Thanks to everyone for their tips and input! SO far, I've tried ignoring my son at home when he has a meltdown, or taking him to his room to cool off. Being in public has been a hard one, but I have decided that no matter where we are, if he starts to tantrum, then we are going home. Hehates being at home, gets so bored, so I hope this will be the trick!
@DRoddy77 (1780)
• United States
28 Oct 06
In public, if they wont calm down take them to either the bathroom or back to the car until they do calm down. At home, I just ignore them until they calm down because they are usually doing it just for attention. I have 2 two year olds and one 3 year old right now and lots of temper tantrums!
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@beckaboo (347)
• United States
28 Oct 06
OMG! that must be a house full of temper tantrums!!! In the store I'm not really too sure, My daughter has onlt thrown one and we were on ouor wy out anyway. But as for at home I agree, I just ignore her or turn of the cartoons or take something away if it gets really bad.
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@fbarcenas (129)
• Mexico
28 Oct 06
It starts in the home. Your going to need to keep your cool, and communicate with your child in a different way, and ignore him/here if they throw themselves on the ground. I use to laugh and pretend that I found it very funny and amusing, and he stopped it because (reverse psychology)he was trying to do things that irritated me. So if I pretended I liked it, and laugh when he kicked harder on the floor, he just never did it again. I was making fun of him for doing it.
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@getnbuy (1315)
• United States
28 Oct 06
I have a friend who told her daughter to walk a little bit away from the child and look on in amazement, like you don't know who he is. This accomplishes 2 things. 1) He will likely calm down when he sees he does not have your attention, and 2) You will not be embarrassed because no one knows he is yours. When he is all done with his tantrum take him home.
@cburtz (282)
• United States
28 Oct 06
At home I make my 2 year old son go lay in his bed until he is done crying. It usually stops soon after cause no else is in the room to put a show on for. If we are out then I just stop whatever I am doing and take him to the car. If he will not stop we go home and he goes to bed.
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@OneShot (188)
• United States
28 Oct 06
I am a father of six so if I am not an expert, I am at least qualified to give you a layman's advice. For starters, don't be embarrased by a child's outburst in public. Kids throw fits, it's a fact of life. Yea there will be the sideways disapproving glances from some -- the same people who as kids were also throwing temper tantrums in shopping centers. Most people, however, have experience with this and are totally sympathetic. I've had my kids lay down on the floor of Kmart and scream bloody murder, only to have some old lady come up and say, "OH... What a little angel." Or something like that. You know she's been there and done that. Second. If the fit is over some toy or something you told them they couldn't have, sternly tell them that if they don't knock it off they will lose priveliges to something else. If that doesn't work just ignore them and continue what you were doing. I realize that won't work everywhere, like libraries and movie theaters or other social functions, but in most cases its ok. Eventually the kid will get the message that his or her tantrums don't work. The worst thing you can do is reward that behavior by giving in.
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