Advice on getting him to sleep

October 14, 2007 2:04pm CST
Hi im having some trouble getting my 4 year old to sleep. Since he was born hes been a brilliant sleeper 7pm-7am every nite until a few weeks ago I started decorating and a few things have changed in house and some jobs have yet to be done. Ive also changed his room around and bought him a new bed, I thought this would be a good thing for him as he was needing a new bed but ever since hes not went to bed easy he crys for me every nite to help his sleep says he doesnt know how to and can i teach him i dont want to sleep in his bed with him and also dont want him in mine as thats just giving him another habit that ive never wanted to start also he says he cant sleep because of noise but these are noises hes heard all his life and never bothered him before such as footsteps on stairs as we live in a flat, bangs outside and sometimes raised voices but all these are finiliar noises to him i just cant understand why now these noises bother him can anyone give me advice on this as i hate seeing him get so upset hes getting himself into terrible states at nite shaking and shivering and crying so hard any advice will be greatly appreciated
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6 responses
• China
15 Oct 07
i think your son just need you love and don,t sleep lonely,you should have much more patient to get him sleep at first,as the time goes,i think he will be used to sleep individually.
15 Oct 07
Thanks for all your comments im sure il try every little tip ive had he gets shown lots of love and affection i cant see this being the problem and his bed routine has changed slightly as i stopped singing to his as it was getting that even his dad couldnt put him to bed because he didnt do my son as our little boy would say i am also trying not to make that big of a deal regarding this as that can fuel the fire i have been told something will work i just dont know what yet
• India
15 Oct 07
Hi ! All mothers are in various problems from their kids. It is not very serious. As you have stated that your child scared of foot steps, or noises. When the noise of footsteps starts, you take him once and show how the steps are making noise, nothing is to be worry about it. He will come out of that fear. Build his strong concentration on something. If he loves songs, reading, listending stories, let his do it and try to make him forget about these noises. Till the time he fast asleep, you will have to be with him. Once he get fast asleep, then you dont accompany him otherwise he will be feeling insecured. Or tell him that you are doing something for him. You are reading a story to tell him. Keeping ready something for him so that he will not distrub you and gradually start sleeping alone. Show him from good movie / cd that see that boy is sleeping alone. Why don't you ? It creats a quick result. Hope this will help you a little. Thanks. miku1bhatwadekar
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• Australia
15 Oct 07
well camoile tea is good for them they sleep more better it is good tea i have not had it for awhile i do like the taste of it
• Germany
14 Oct 07
Does he have a familiar stuffed animal that he sleeps with? Try telling him this animal is the eyes and ears of mommy when she is in bed. That this animal will watch over him as he sleeps and protect him. Another thing I did with my daughter was have "monster spray". I would fill a spray bottle with water and lavender oil because lavender helps you relax. And I would say it was to keep all the bad things away and we would have fun spraying the bed and pillows etc. That also helped. A bed time bath with lavender and chamomile body wash (Johnson's and Johnson's sells one) also helps. I also assume that he has a bed time routine? When ever I change the bed time routine because I run out of time or some other reason then my daughter can not sleep. So make sure that it is the same every night. Bath, book, song then sleep etc every night without fail. I know that can be frustrating! You are right to not want to have be there for your son to sleep and bringing him into bed with you is a very hard habit to break so you are right on track with that. Good luck! I hope that you work this out!
• Abbotsford, Wisconsin
14 Oct 07
The Shaking, shivering, and crying at night.. Your son may have seen something on TV that made him associate these sounds with something scary, or may have seen something happen out the window or something that frightens him. This also maybe because he is getting older, and is more aware of his surroundings, and because his room is different it appears more frightening to him... If this continues to a point where he is not sleeping at all make sure you contact a doctor.. He maybe having really bad night mirrors, or night terrors... or it can just be the fears of being surrounded by many new stuff... Also make sure you check the recall list to make sure any new toys, or items you added to his room are not on it... There is so much being recalled that crying and shaking maybe something making him sick too.. But it maybe nothing but regular struggling to adjust to new surroundings... Please do not get overly worried, but if this continues take him to a doctor to at least get looked at, sounds that never bothered him before may all of sudden do if your son has a sinus or ear infection... which are common in children, at least was for me as a child. - DNatureofDTrain
• Abbotsford, Wisconsin
14 Oct 07
I think it is because it is new surroundings, and he is just struggling to adjust to them.. Give him a couple of weeks, and if he is still having problems with this.. then call his doctor and tell him what is going on and see what they think to do, and suggestions to help you out, and him out. They may have some suggestions of how to help your son cope better with the new changes in his surroundings. - DNatureofDTrain