pain and depression and unhappiness

@raydene (9875)
United States
October 15, 2007 8:23am CST
I am having a hard time keeping my head above water here.. Due to my new life with hubby out I am sinking! I have talked to my dr but am not ready to take more meds yet.. I have struggled to reduce the meds.. My pain level is up some... What do you all do when you are sinking into the dumps? How do you get your feet back under you? I spend alot of time in my prayer book...This helps..I know I'd be much worse Just needed to put this out there... Thanks xoxoxoxoxoxo
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@Grandmaof2 (7604)
• Canada
15 Oct 07
Admitting you're feeling the depression is a huge part of the recovery. As hard as it is to do and I know, I've been there and done that and am still doing what I can, the best remedy is get out and go do something. For me that is not easy because I don't get around well and I need to be home a lot but when things are not good, like today for example. I will make lunch then I'm going to the cafe and I'm going to volunteer an hour or two peeling potatoes then I'm coming home. I wish I could go walking. That is so helpful just a slow walk. You miss so much when you drive everywhere you go. Don't give up you'll be sorry if you cave in, just plug along and do what you can to get back up. Too much meds is definately no good. Made me feel worse. Be strong hon. (((BIG HUGS))) Sometimes I think why the hell do I have to live so far away from these people and this is not the first time I have felt this. Not that I'm any fancy expert but I need a friend sometimes too. But anyway Take Care
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@weemam (13389)
15 Oct 07
as you know pal I have a lot of stress with family , I find the best thing is talk to a family member who understands , Some timesss this helps and sometimes not , I find it good to write down how you feel , even writing it down takes some of the edge of , I also pray pal , I am so sorry if I am not being any help to you , you know ou can e-mail me ANYTIMe , you are in my thoughts and in my prayers sweetheart , You WILL Get through this , just remember there are a lot of people in this world who love YOU xxxx
@GardenGerty (88985)
• Marion, Kansas
15 Oct 07
You have two or three issues feeding each other here--your pain, your money struggles, and your feelings of betrayal. That is a lot to have on your plate. For me, when I joined myLot, and made a lot of new friends, it was one of the mental lifters I needed. I would say you should take advantage of your friendships and communicate, as you just did. We will lift you up. I see someone else says to try to get extra sleep, I agree with that too. I would also say to get some soothing music, and while you are in your prayer book, also listen to the music. The pain from your jerk of a husband will take a while to diminish. Taking care of the physical pain with soothing things and healthy choices may keep your meds down. Working your positive business will help you not go under financially. We will hold you up in our thoughts and prayers. Hugs to you my friend, wish I could give them in person.
@BlueAngelRS (2900)
• Canada
16 Oct 07
I talk and pray when I feel myself sinking into a ship of unhappiness and depression...I also talk to friends and try to look to the positive side of my life and not the negative hugzzz.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
16 Oct 07
Hi raydene! Will it help if you will go out more and try to have some form of relaxation outside of the house? Will that be possible? I am no expert but when I get really sad and depressed, I go out of the house and walk for awhile or go somewhere where I can keep my mind busy on other things or try to engage in another activity that I know I will enjoy. Just my thoughts, my friend. Take care and have a nice day.
@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
16 Oct 07
((((hugs)))) I guess we all do feel that pain at some point of our life..I just hope you can make it through.. Talk to someone,I know it will do you good,you just did right by starting this discussion and letting us know of your situation. Remember this one liner " This too will pass" God bless you. :)
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@abbey19 (3129)
• Gold Coast, Australia
16 Oct 07
As you said raydene, prayer helps you, so that's a positive; I believe in the power of prayer. I also thing going for a walk in the countryside and just observing mother nature takes away my problems. Writin down your thoughts can be very therapeutic, and sometimes helps you get things in perspective again when you see it in black and white. I think by far the most positive thing is to talk to your friends - communicate. It's surprising how good we can feel when we have unburdoned our feelings to a friend who is a good listener - they don't have to say much, just really, really listen to you. You have some good friends here raydene who are more than willing to support you and get you through this tough time; use us - we are here to help.
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
16 Oct 07
I heard the following words of wisdom, while in the deepest part of my many years of depression, they helped me and if you truly think about it it is the absolute truth. The speaker was a lady and were at a Al-anon meeting but this applies to any one and any situation, the words are: WE CAN MAKE CHOICES, WE CAN CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY, OR WE CAN CHOOSE NOT TO BE. I CHOSE TO BE HAPPY" I was blown away by those words because I believed I HAD no choice but to suffer. so that day " I chose to be happy" and have been ever since and I will not allow life's circumstances to rule how I feel. If you really think about this it is true and there is no negative side to this, and I promise you it is worth your time and effort. Be well and be happy, it is IN you to do
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@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
15 Oct 07
Raydene, I think of you often. My heart goes out to you. There is nothing but time (and God) that will get through this. Just resolve to get through each breath, each hour. Of course your pain is up, it is responding the emotional pain. Keep in touch with all your friends, including the ones here on myLot. Sing songs you like, play music--even when you don't want to. Make an appointment with yourself for a half hour each day to really whine, cry, holler and wail. Have a real good pity party. The rest of the day keep busy at something else and tell yourself you can't feel sorry for yourself until your pity party time. May you find peace soon.
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@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
15 Oct 07
i usually pray and talk to God when i feel frustruated or down... otherwise i just read a religious book and sleep... i feel much better after i wake up from the deep sleep... i'm sorry to hear about your situation... hope your situation will get better soon... take care and God Bless...
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
15 Oct 07
Oh Sweetie and you where doing so well to please don't sink find your way back up please Do not let this destroy everything you have worked so hard for he is not worth it Sweetie I will keep you in my Thoughts and hope that you will be ok and come back I love you loads and never forget that Your Angel xxxxxx
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@mummymo (23709)
15 Oct 07
Mom my heart is breaking knowing that you are going through all this! I so wish I could just reach out and help to hold you up and hug you! You are in my heart and prayers both night and day and I am here if you need me! You are a wonderful example to us all and I love you xxxx
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@ElicBxn (60016)
• United States
15 Oct 07
I hear ya. I find I lay down & nap if the pain gets bad. Yesterday when I got home from adoptions I lay down on the roomie's bed & took a 2 hr nap. I had been talking to her until the phone rang & then I was OUT!
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@MsTickle (24807)
• Australia
20 Oct 07
I know you don't want to see anymore hurt or pain caused due to your husband's infidelity so I can't understand why you are slipping. You are the one in charge of your life, not him and not your pain. You know what they say...the best revenge is to have a great life...sooooo.....go get yourself a new hair-do, have some nice spa treatments to make your body feel good. Party a little with your friends. If you're not up to going out, invite them over. Give yourself the gift of laughter. It's still the best medicine. I know you can do this and I know your friends will be only too happy to help.