HOw Do you deal with your anger?

Kuwait
October 15, 2007 3:09pm CST
Does the reality affect you on your daily living, how do you deal with your anger from some disperations and anxiety.Life is a mytery of that we need to know why things didn't go well as we always wanted.I need to know what are you doing to deal with it...i need to know your ways...
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19 responses
@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
15 Oct 07
Hi, Fortunatly, I don´t get angry easily. But when I do (I normaly get angry with myself,lol),I take a big breath and walk away. To another room or what ever is making me angry. I will then either turn on the t.v or the music. And try to relax. But defenitly not talk. People need to leave me alone when I really get angry. Then with about 10 min, I come back to earth so to speak. If I am right and the other (if it involves people) is wrong, after those 10 min this person does not believe me, no problem, beleive what you want. If I find the other is right and I am wrong , I will apoligize. I don´t like getting angry, but even I am not perfect. LOL Take care.
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• Kuwait
15 Oct 07
Patience is your name,,and im glad that you are not easily get angry on things...glad to hear you that... thanks appreciated.
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
21 Oct 07
Thank-you for your comment. Take care, have a nice day.
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• Brunei Darussalam
15 Oct 07
When I am angry about issues that I can not resolve, I always shift my thoughts and energy to other people who need my care and attention like my aging parents, my daughter and to the small children in my family. I have realized that in order for me not to be anxious or angry or sad, I should not be needy of attention but instead focus on the needs of others. It works for me.
• Kuwait
17 Oct 07
yeah you are right,,thanks God we can still manage ourselves.
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• United States
15 Oct 07
Life is deffinately a big mystery. Whenever I feel very angry, I just sit back and listen to relaxing music or I write poetry.
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• Kuwait
15 Oct 07
A very good way of anger management, good luck and thanks..
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@saibunny (84)
• India
17 Oct 07
When I am angry I just switch on to some other work, like watching movie or having some good food. This reduces my anger and again I am back to problem. Life is ofcoourse a mystery that's why we don't know how things will go on. But one thing we can do is better planning. Plan well and work with full dedication. If you continuously fail it means your goal is either too difficult or you have choosen a wrong field.
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@saibunny (84)
• India
17 Oct 07
Life is not as easy as one thinks. Things never go as one wanted. When I get angry I generally swith to some other work. like watching a movie or having some nice food. Once I am calm again I give a second thought over the disturbing things. I feel that we have to be more practical and well planned in facing our life situtations. This will help in being more relaxed. If we constant fail in achieving what we wanted it means that out target is too difficult or we need to change the filed of work.
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• India
16 Oct 07
life is a mystery..............that`s persistent truth like the other truths like maybe the fault was ours, the other person is right, i m angry for a wrong reason, i can`t accept reality, i should apologise, anger will kill me, it will effect my health,i should count till ten n so on...but the reality is do we remember these things when we get angry??? i don`t think most of us do because that`s the toughtest thing to do at that moment.... don`t u agree dear??? so i think any best ways to deal with anger usually proves to be futile at that particular moment...so we should rather concentrate on our reactions to the milder situations when we r relatively happier n level headed...that`s the time we should contemplate n look for the right answers as everyone has their unique set of solutions that usually works best for their individual problems... all said n done if we try to recognize the root causes of anxiety n desperations at sober times we would build a better individual out of us who will stand rock solid in any adverse situations...
• India
22 Oct 07
there is a very simple rule or law according to which our life moves and that is- to every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction. LAW OF NEUTON. whatever action we do good or bad, we had to face the same. so if u want good then do good. else.... also remember that whatever we are getting good or bad is the result of our past actions. so believe in ur KARMA and ignore everything else.
@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
Very true! When I'm really pissed off, I just breath in and out. I bear in mind not to be angry to my subordinates, I don't have the monopoly of good times. Today, I might be well off, tomorrow might be their time. I just put it that way. One thing more, I get in touch with my emotions, will anger help me any better or will it better anything more? No! So, I always shift from being grounded to the level of understanding that others commit mistakes. I just remind them that things not done well will make the whole project ruined. As a team, working together is badly needed and so everybody's role is very important.
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
16 Oct 07
Hi annettenasser! Yes, it does really affect me somehow, one way or the other. When I am angry, I just keep quiet and really hold my temper. I just try to calm myself first before really confronting the issue at hand because I don't want any hurtung words or insults that will come out of my mouth which I might regret doing. I try to be level-headed because I don't want making decisions or doing anything at all when I am angry. Take care and have a nice day.
@Mbiba66 (50)
• South Africa
20 Oct 07
normally go to the gym and do something positive with the extra energy
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• China
16 Oct 07
when i was angry,i will try my best to leave there. and then i will go to shopping,to buy my favourite foods and fruits.i don't like to tell anyone . i won't be angry with anyone longer than 2 hours.
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• China
16 Oct 07
when i feel very angry,i will breath deeply and tell myself that don't afflict myself for other people or thing. anger is not only an effect to our feeling but also do bad to our health.
20 Oct 07
Personally there is always a solution to every problem good or bad. Im not a walk over but find if for example someone personally goes out theyre way to annoy me with redirect things to make theyre life a little bit awkward to make them aware of the fact im not going to argue or fight but enough to let them know im a pain if they want to be nasty.. But generally I cant even remember the last time i got angry. My ex threw out my coffee machine but was then asking to borrow money..of course i said sure.. once she had replaced the coffee machine. Secret to my way of life.. people generally need me more than i need them.
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@marabdl86 (615)
• United States
23 Oct 07
Honestly the only way i controlled anger is when i finally let my anger get the ebst of me and got myself in a lot of trouble. It involved a police officer, Im just glad that the 5 years in prison they were wanting to give me didn't happen. Not goign to mention all the moeny I worked hard earning went all to anger management classes, fines, court fees, lawyers. Im also not goign to mention the fact i ruined my chances of ever getting a decent job. so you see my friend anger is not the way...unless you want to join me on my boat
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• India
20 Oct 07
I do not get angry very fast.But if i do I become violent.I break and throw things and I do not look what is it I am breaking or on whom I am throwing things. I have broken flowervases, TV, mobile phones, glasses, paper weights to name a few. If I need to change something about myself I would like to change this temper of mine.
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@st091127 (114)
• China
20 Oct 07
I would like to listen to some soft light music. I think music has a mystery power, it can make you cheerful and happy.It can kill people,and make us feel more dispair.But if we choose the suitable music, it can help us to be more peaceful. Recently I like to hear the koto.
• United States
23 Oct 07
Depression has actually taken it's toll on my self esteem, at work, (way to many crying sputs to even mention) with my family but mainly with my closet friends. I constintly worry, and I've never really been a very happy person in my life, and when I see someone who's close to me change and move on and out of my life, and she's doing so much in her own life, it just sometimes makes me feel even worse. I also sometimes get into jealous rages and call other people names, among other things, but mostly, I seem to always hate myself all the more.
• Nigeria
17 Oct 07
The only way i deal with my anger is to hang around with friends or listen to lively music
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@mega73 (4)
• Australia
18 Oct 07
hi all, my daily living is always affected by 'the depression' but with natural therapy help and some medication I seem to have fairly good grip on it for the last few years. when I get ridiculously angry I just go hang out with my animals and cry usually, it seems to work for me. Anger is usually born out of hurt so if I can get past the anger quickly and acknowledge the hurt then it seems to pass quicker. I also try to put myself in the shoes of the person I am angry at because depression has a trap of making me look at the worst case possible before anything else, so I try talk myself to common sense this way too. Remind yourself that we learn from mistakes and only think about what you can change not what is and cannot be changed.