Do you know anyone who judges without knowing the person - based on....
20 Oct 07
Prejudging is an inevitability I think. Condemning someone for something they can't control is a shame but often not something you can do much about. Like, if it's not on the scale of literal bullying or something then it's rather intrusive to tell them how to perceive life.
• United States
18 Oct 07
I think it is natural for people to make assumptions about others based on appearance or other characteristics. Anyone who denies doing so is likely lying. Most people do not necessarily act upon their judgements but they have made them. Our brains make decisions based upon comparing what we are seeing and hearing to what we already know. The result is that we expect people who appear in a specific way to match our anticipated notions.
• Abernathy, Texas
18 Oct 07
Perhaps what you say is true to some extent - it is natural for most to make blanket judgements based on things like gender - like women aren't good at math or such, or asians can't drive, we won't go into the right and wrong of that right now - but do you think its okay for us to condemn others as I ask in my thread starter? I've always wished people wouldn't make judgments based on such superficial things. Like if I don't dress up to go shopping, ineveitably, I'm ignored totally when I walk in. Each time. And by the same token, each time I walk in with nice clothes, I'm greeted and spoken too. I don't like people making judgements about me based on my gender. People often make judgments about my husband because he is Asian. Especially in Mississippi before his transfer. Some will voice them, some will just glare at him, making it obvious. Another great example is having a male friend when I was about nineteen who had long hair. My mom made the immediate judgement that he obviously didn't have a good work ethic because apparently ALL guys with long hair are lazy. She got to know him and realized her mistake. Not only did he work hard at his job, but he also pitched in on projects she asked him to. To me not all women are one thing or all guys with long hair another. I learned early on, because my mom introduced me to different cultures and worked with homosexuals in her work with the government that you really can't make blanket statements or blanket judgements. Thank you for participating. I welcome all points of view - even if its not my own. I get to know someone first.