Lesson from "Dear Abby" ...do not think of yourself more...

@LCecelia (1124)
United States
October 17, 2007 7:35pm CST
...highly than you ought to think... Taken from Romans 12. A 23 year old woman wrote to "Dear Abby" lamenting on the fact that even though she was confident and a real catch she couldn't find the right guy. She continues by saying that she was "beautiful inside and out, that she was raised in a great family with good morals and that she was kind to everyone. She has a killer personality, a great sense of humor, and inspiring attitude and that her glass was always half full. She says that she is sick of meeting creeps and that she wants someone in her league. She wants to know where were her male equivalents? "Dear Abby" didn't pull any punches. Here's what she said in response to the question of where were her male equivalents: I quote "they died of altitude sickness, trying to climb the pedestal you have placed yourself on. You have described your selling points, but what about the quality of your character? Are you nice to people who don't want anything from you? Are you giving? Sensitive? Can you compromise? Are you interested in other people? Perfection does not exist in anyone. And the sooner you become less preoccupied with your own perfection, the more likely it is that you'll meet your male 'equivalent.'" So what do you think folks? Was "Dear Abby" too hard on her? Did you want her to draw blood? What about the young lady, do you think if you dug deep enough that you would find some humility? Just thought I'd liven things up a bit. :-)
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@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
18 Oct 07
Haha that is pretty funny. I don't know if I'd be able to say something like that to someone, but I would certainly be thinking it! lol I guess the lady kind of needed to hear something like that. :P
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@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
18 Oct 07
Yes it is pretty funny. I'm with you...I wouldn't have the courage to say something like that out loud. I suppose it is safe to write anonymously to a newspaper columnist.
@AD11RGUY (1266)
• United States
18 Oct 07
I think the response was very appropriate. The sudden mental "smack" will hopefully get this young lady to review herself and her qualities in a more humble, respectful way. I do identify with her desire to meet a mate of "equal", but I don't think she has the exposure to life in general enough to know her equal when she sees him. But maybe this response to her letter will open her eyes to the broad realm of possible "equivalents" that are there right before her eyes. Thanks for sharing this one.
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@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
18 Oct 07
I hope so too. It would be a shame for all her potential to go to waste. Unfortunately many of our young people today have this same better than you are attitude, or an attitude of entitlement.
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
18 Oct 07
Wow! How does Dear Abbey know weather she is perfectionist or not? Who is she to judge? Dear Abbey does not know anything about this woman, only what the woman wrote about herself in the letter. I believe Dear Abbey was too harsh on her.
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
18 Oct 07
You can tell quite a bit about this young lady just by her comments. You can also tell based on her comments and her young age that she has been told these things all her life and has begun to believe her own press. There were several things she said that would lead one to believe that she thought herself to be perfect. For instance her comment about only meeting "creeps," the fact that she thought herself to be beautiful inside and out, that she had a killer personality...her words not mine. A speaker doesn't have to say in no uncertain terms that they are such and such for observers to come to an opinion of how that speaker views themselves, the old adgage of "actions speaks louder than words" may apply here.
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
20 Oct 07
I don't see anything wrong with being choosy. Especially when there is the possiblilty she may want to get married someday. She knows what she wants and she is not going to settle. If that sounds like she is one of those holier than thou, I am better than you type person than so be it.
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
24 Oct 07
I'm not saying that she shouldn't be choosy, heck, I'm choosy myself. What I am saying and you've said it yourself is the attitude.