age vs love

United States
October 17, 2007 11:09pm CST
Does age come into factor when you find someone that you are intrested in??? How far apart are you in age from you partner??? there is a part of me that believes if you are truely in love then age should not matter, but then there is a part of me that could never be with someone who could be old enough to be my father or young enough to be my child.. I am about 1 year and a few weeks older then my husband
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
18 Oct 07
Hi usmc, my husband and I are 14 years apart...He is 59 and I am 45...I don't believe age matters as long as you love each other...Even with 14 years between us we still have a lot in common and with him being older I have learned a lot of things too!
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• United States
19 Oct 07
thats great = ) I am not sure if I could be with someone that much older but I guess if there is love then it does not matter
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• Australia
18 Oct 07
I agree that age does not matter I am 10 years younger than my husband. We met when I was 17 and married when I was 19. I am now 33 and he is 44 and we are as happy if not happier than when we first met. We have been married for nearly 15 years and have a 13 & 14 year old. Things couldn't be better.
• Australia
18 Oct 07
I agree that age does not matter I am 10 years younger than my husband. We met when I was 17 and married when I was 19. I am now 33 and he is 44 and we are as happy if not happier than when we first met. We have been married for nearly 15 years and have a 13 & 14 year old. Things couldn't be better.
@quanto50 (140)
• Sweden
19 Oct 07
I think that really affects the love.. age.. because just imagine if you were the young girl would you ever want to sleep with the old who has entered his impotency age and has problems . I think you would want a guy who would really quench you and your thirst and of course if you were the young guy you wouldn't want the old woman in your bed .. would you? :-)
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• United States
19 Oct 07
I like your reply it makes sense
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@quanto50 (140)
• Sweden
19 Oct 07
thanks a lot ..
@aj2006 (1534)
• Philippines
9 Nov 07
I am twenty seven and my husband is fifty five.. yeah you read it right, we've been together for three years and we have a lovely one year and eight months daughter and another one in my tummy to be born next year, I believe that in LOVE, Age really doesn't matter, you cannot please all the people around you, what is important is the two of you. :)
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• United States
9 Nov 07
wow thats great Congratulations !!!! thats very true you need to make yourself happy and not those around you
@applsofgld (2506)
• United States
18 Oct 07
I think if you are very young, age would matter, but if you are mature enough emotionally, then age would not be a problem. My first husband was almost 8 years older than me, he used to act like he was my father, telling me what to do, etc. It grew old, and we divorced after 24 years of emotional abuse. My current hubby, is only 4 years older than me, and we are so like minded and get along wonderfully. I think as long as there are not too many years between you, it would work out fine.
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• United States
18 Oct 07
yes I think maturity has alot to do with it
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• India
19 Oct 07
If age is matching, the understanding becomes easy. If it is not matching it is difficult to keep the understanding for a long time.
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@Bunsdk (242)
• Denmark
19 Oct 07
Age matters a lot untill you hit mid 20s. When I was 22 I had a gal at about 16/17 trying to convince me over at least a year that she was right for me, but the differences in age is very marked at those ages. But now, I dont really care if I find someone 15 years older than me, or someone 5 years younger (still keeping away from anyone in low 20's and under lol). When I hit 45, or even 64, I dont think that finding someone 15 or more years yours younger matters more than you make it. Most think about what others think, rather than if the two are a match and actually could put a serious relationship into motion.
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• United States
19 Oct 07
yes age should matter when you are that young, Yes it's a good idea to stay away from those under 20 LOL
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• Japan
18 Oct 07
I think age isn't as important as maturity. There is only one year difference between my husband and myself, he is a year older. I was talking to a friend who said that the wife should be older as women tend to live longer than men, her sister was marrying a guy 10 years younger than her. The biggest age difference I know of was my brothers friend, who was 21 and the woman he married was 61. That was a bit extreme. The bride and the mother in law were about the same age!!!
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• United States
19 Oct 07
yep you cannot help who you fall in love with
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• Greece
18 Oct 07
I dont think that age is a factor for love! You can fall in love with someone a bit younger or older than you . So age isnt that important!
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@ssh123 (31073)
• India
18 Oct 07
More the age, more the merrier the love life will be. I think love has no barriers of age, caste, colour, creed. So it is the state of mind that is important.
• United States
18 Oct 07
well put
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• United States
8 Nov 07
I think a big age difference say 15 either way is not good, you are just at different poiint in you life
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
18 Oct 07
Im about one year older then my husband. But before I was married I dated a younger guy. He was 10 years younger then me. But it didnt work out.
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• United States
7 Nov 07
I am also a year older then my husband I think that is the perfect age gap, at least for me
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• India
18 Oct 07
When ur in true love I think age is no boundry. Its abotu how u feel for it rather than what society will think for it. Love does not mean that you need to have the company of that person but its all about the way you care and think about your relations.
• United States
30 Oct 07
alot of people are saying true love age has no boundry, I guess that is true in most cases, thanks for responding =)
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@hoghoney (3747)
• United States
18 Oct 07
Age has not matter when it comes to loveing someone. my boyfriend is 11 years younger then me, but I am really young at heart. Some times having an age diffrece is what keeps the love strong and growing. I find loving someone that is not the same age as me alot hard to deal with then someone younger or older.
• United States
6 Nov 07
that is so true young at heart is a good thing
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
18 Oct 07
I do not know. For me that is a tricky question. I guess I would have to say that it all depends on the man's level of muturity. I had a long term relationship with a guy who was ten years older than me and I eventually outgrew him. What he had done when I was younger was impressing to me, as I got older, it started to really annoy me. I really do believe that men mature a lot slower than women do. That is why I prefer older men. But, like I said, it all depends on the level of maturity.
• United States
18 Oct 07
yes I agree for the most part men mature slower then females
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@taskata10 (627)
• China
18 Oct 07
Hi! If both adults really love each other, the age doesn't matter. Love is selfish and good to each other. Sometimes some people may think the two partners' ages are so big that they may think they get married not for a real love but for money or something else.
• United States
21 Oct 07
I think love in selfish also
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@b3ll3ps (11)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
i think it depends on the age of maturity and the way of thinking of both i mean between the husband and wife... as for me i am 15 years younger than my husband but i can say that i am the one who handling the situation well when it terms of misunderstanding from both of us, i am the one who always adjusting and initiate the communication to talk about what the problem is. all i wanna do is think on what would be the best to save our relationship. Maybe this could be really love for him. :)
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• United States
19 Oct 07
=) I don;t think it can work for everyone but tlike you said it depends on how mature you are
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• Kuwait
18 Oct 07
not much,,, my husband is older than me of 2 years and 2 months but its okay becasue when you love each other that means you connect and understans everything to each other.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
8 Nov 07
when persons are in deep love age harly maers. But one should be mature enough for that. But in very tender age, very much age difference does really matters. Also if people involved are OK with the difference, then there is no problem.
@fredgame (1260)
• China
8 Nov 07
i think the extreme case is a problem. so if your partner to be could be you father or child isn't so good due to the fact that at such an old age and giving birth to a child will be a responsibility for the young partner which may be a great burden except they're rich to have no financial stress. however, a narrow gap of age difference shouldn't be a problem.
• United States
19 Oct 07
i believe age shouldn't matter either. i really don't think you can help who you fall in love with. BUT as you said, i can't see myself either with someone my father's age or my lil brother's age in my case. (my child is only 3!) BUT i've just never loved anyone in those age groups, but what if? one of my girlfriends is married to a man who's 13 years older than her, they've been happily married for 7 years now. my hubby and i are only a year and 2 months apart. but that's just who i fell in love with!
@darkaeon (465)
• Portugal
30 Oct 07
hi, im about 3 years older then my wife and its true that life doesnt have ages... if you really love a person go for it!
• Philippines
8 Nov 07
Age is not a question. What is more important is the level of maturity and how two people match despite the differences. No two people are like. And age is just the same factor that we consider as differences. If two people love each other and understand each other, love and relationship would be smoothly sailing regardless of whatever gap they could have between each other.