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By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
October 18, 2007 2:06pm CST
Have you ever had to change your phone number b/c someone gave it out all over town? Would you give it to the same person again?
We had a friend of the family that gave our UNLISTED phone number out to all his friends, employers and businesses like Rent a Center. Even after I asked him not to anymore he kept doing it. The final straw was when he came over one day and asked to use the phone and I overheard him making arrangements with several friends to buy pot. I was furious that he'd use our phone and our number (it shows up on their caller id) to do his druggie business. I changed the number the next day and refused to give it to him. We haven't spoken since. That was about 3 months ago.
Do you think I over-reacted? What would you have done? Have you ever had someone get mad b/c you wouldn't give them your number?
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31 responses
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
18 Oct 07
OMG! Heck yeah I'd change my phone number and I'd kick his behind out the door so fast he wouldn't know what hit him!! So what if he won't talk to you, GOOD is more like it! You did the right thing or it would've been all over town once again.
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@BlueStarMom1 (931)
• United States
19 Oct 07
I agree with this responder. You would be an idiot to ever allow this parisite back in your home. Let him get his own phone. I still find it shocking to hear of someone taking so much advantage of another person. Kick his behind OUT.
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@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
18 Oct 07
Our unlisted home number got published in the yellow pages of our city as a Car Dealership and to boot, we are one number different for a local Catholic church so the phone starts ringing at 8:00 am in the morning and goes most of the day asking for the church or someone at the dealership, I get so tired of telling people that this is private residence I usually will not answer it unless I know the number that is calling.
And life goes on ....
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@nannacroc (4049)
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18 Oct 07
No, you didn't over react. I would never give out anyones phone number without asking them first. By the sound of this so called friend, you're better not speaking to him. Your phone number should only be given to people you trust.
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
31 Oct 07
hey t68,
I don't think you over reacted I wouldn't want any sort of involment in illegal activities even if it was just the use of my phone-maybe you can talk to you friend (if the friendship is worth saving) & tell them why you did what you did.
+'s |:)
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@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
18 Oct 07
You didbn't over-react. It costs money to have an unpublished and unlisted number. Someone giving it away is just plain rude. I would not have spoken to that person again.
Just for the breach of privacy, I never would have given them my phone number again. For making POT deals inside my house, I would never have that person as a friend again. that's no friend, it's a criminal.
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@Cajunhellcat (2073)
• United States
20 Oct 07
No ya are 110% right he had no business doing that to ya .
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@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
20 Oct 07
Oh I would have most certainly done the exact same thing!!
You could have gotten in some trouble for that!!
I think you were right on the mark there & good for you!
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@copperkitten (3473)
• United States
19 Oct 07
I dont think you overreacted!! He shouldnt have done that. Its not his phone and he dosent pay the bill. I would have done the same thing. Changed my number and not give it to him. If he wont talk to you over something like this hes not worth it. I dont have to give anyone my number. Theres no rule stating I have to. I only give my number to good friends and family. If someone I dont care for askes for it I give tham the wrong number. To bad to sad!!!
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@recycledgoth (9894)
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25 Oct 07
I would be absolutely furious hun, you have done the right thing and certainly not over-reacted at all. That's one kind of friend you can do very well without
@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
24 Oct 07
I don't think you overreacted, twoey. I had a friend and her boyfriend living with us for a few months and they gave my cell phone number out to all their friends and associates after I told them not to. After I kicked em out, I changed my number and refused to give it to them. Soon after, I broke my long-term friendship with her cause she was nothing but trouble with a capital T.
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
19 Oct 07
Hi twoey,
I once had to change my phone number because I was one digit off from the Mental Health Office. I got phone calls daily for them. In fact at one point I almost felt like one of their receptionists lol. I should have answered the phone "Mental Health can I help you?" lol. Have a good weekend friend ;)
Love & Hugzz, Your Friend, PurpleTeddyBear xx
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@BayleighGray (4334)
• United States
19 Oct 07
No I dont think you over reacted, no matter who it was, the call comes back to you and your house. You could still face serious charges for it even though you had nothing to do with it. You did the right thing! :)
I personally dont give out anyone's number to anybody for any reason. And I think most of my friends feel the same way. If they say its an emergency, then I will make the call and tell them to get a hold of whoever. I think if they didnt have it already, then there is a reason they dont have it. Not going to be on me to pass it out.
Bay Lay Gray xx
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
19 Oct 07
That's strange that this 'friend' would do this. Why would they use your number at businesses? Don't they have their own? And if they don't, why don't they get one instead of abusing yours? Some people are inexplicable.
I have noticed that when people call me from their unlisted number, they also usually have the number blocked so that it doesn't show up on caller ID. You could maybe have this done for your number.
Most of my clients won't give out my number without asking me first, and these are people I work for, referring others to me.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
19 Oct 07
I had to change both my phone numbers two years ago. My husband had changed his about oine year before that.
I had both my homeline & mobile changed to silent numbers, which I have to pay a fee for.
This was because I did not want my husbands ex ringing us. She is an evil woman. She was ringing me at 2.00am, but staying silent. Or she would ring & leave an abusive message on the answering service.
Thats why my husband changed his number before I did, because she would text him & leave stupid messages.
Now she can't contact me, but a few months ago she found out my hubbys mobile number via his son, which really pi..... me off.
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
19 Oct 07
I don't blame you at all. I think you did the right thing. What ever he is into could be big trouble and you need to stay clear of it. Good luck!
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
19 Oct 07
He does not sound like a "friend" to me. It sounds to me like he was using you. I learned at a very young age that you do not, under any circumstances give out someone's number without their permission. That is very rude to say the least. The person who taught me that has had the same number for at least the past 22 years that I have known him.
People want to kkep their numbers the same. They do not want to have to change it for anything. You did not over-react one bit.
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
19 Oct 07
You did the right thing. He was just using you. If he was a friend he would have respected your privacy rights. Who does this junk? Losers and you are lucky to be rid of him. I have had unlisted numbers before, but I was cheap and didn't want to pay the extra 5 bucks and got rid of it. I regret it now though.
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@xavierkyle (223)
• Philippines
19 Oct 07
i would react the same way you did. when i change a number, i usually do not give the number right away.
