Do your kids have friends stay overnight?

United States
October 18, 2007 8:47pm CST
I allowed my 10 year old to have a friend stay all night tonight. I really don't know this girl but she does seem like a fairly good kid. I was just wondering how other parents approach the question of "Mom, can my friend,? stay all night?" I worked over night last night and I only slept about 3 hours today and I am extemely tired and isn't a good evening for company but I hated to tell her no. I think that she should be allowed to have friends stay even though I am tired.
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@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
24 Oct 07
My son keeps asking me if he can invite a friend over to play after school and I keep telling him one day soon son, when I get to meet their parents and they get to meet us. It is important that they know who I am and vice versa. I'm sure as he gets older there will be a chance where he can have a friend stay over - I don't see anything wrong with it :) I hope she has a lot of fun and doesn't tire you out too much!
• United States
29 Oct 07
It wasn't as bad as I expected. I am sure that your son will do the same as he gets older. It seems to be just a part of being a kid.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
28 Jan 08
Since my daughter was nearly 6 years old, we started to invite her friends for a sleep over occasionally during the weekends. Obliviously, I will decide which weekends and I have to be available to prepare their food and take the full responsibility for the guest. Normally, we only invite one child per time as my daughter has a bunk bed only available for two. In return, my dauther's friends' parents will also invite my daughter for a sleepover.
• United States
31 Jan 08
My daughter gets invited to sleepovers all the time. She has one friend who she likes to stay with and the mom says that she is welcome anytime. I am thankful for that as it does give her some time away from home other than at Grandma's.
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
27 Jan 08
I don't have children and luckly when Hubby and I were foster parents the kids were forbidden to stay the night anywhere but our own home. However, my Niece and Nephew often spend the night at friends houses and although I know they love to do it I'd be really careful about where I let them go just b/c there are too many perverts in the world. One of our foster girls did ask to stay the night at a friends and the friends mother was mad that I wanted to call and talk to her before agreeing to it and when she told me that she had a 19 year old son living in the house (the foster girl was a VERY developed 13 year old) I talked to the caseworker and she said absolutely not. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
• United States
31 Jan 08
I try to always know where she is going and know the parents. I don't like for her to go if there isn't going to be a parent there at all times either. I try to be protective but yet give her some space.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
3 Nov 07
My sons had friends who stayed overnight. They had to sleep on the living room floor, or they slept down in the basement where they could get on the computer and play doom. I was pretty tired too, and we made a lot of juice, and ask them what they would like for breakfast, but they went home afterwards. Anyway it did not take too long to make bacon and eggs or pancakes and it was not often. They were in their teens though so it was a different story.
• United States
31 Jan 08
It is a little different when they are teens as they don't argue like younger kids and they can do more on their own. I don't mind the kids being here, it is just that I don't like it when I am so tired!
• Puerto Rico
19 Oct 07
I don't think so. Rather than that I suggest you explain to her about you working overnight, did'nt get enough sleep, how tired you feel and that you need your rest in order to be able to function again. Tell her that it is not a good time or day for a friend to stay over but that maybe when your restless (the next day or whenever you consider it) she can have her friend stay over. Also you can meet the girls parents, go over the house, and as you observe her parents, or study them while your there, and if you consider they are trustworthy as far as you are concerned then you would have the alternative to maybe instead have your daughter say at hers overnight. Of course, you should call at least once and see if everything is OK.
• United States
19 Oct 07
I usually tell her that it isn't a good time but it seems as though there is never a good time anymore. We are so busy with work, school, Girl Scouts, etc that it is just crazy here most of the time. I know how much I enjoyed sleep overs with my friends and so I hate for her to miss out on those kinds of things.
@ssh123 (31104)
• India
19 Oct 07
My son has friends and but we do not allow him to overstay at their place. However, he has cousins in the same town where he stays overnight occasionally. When he goes to my inlaw-s place, he stays there for a fortnight during winter and summer holidays. There too, he has cousin sister and brothers.
• United States
19 Oct 07
My daughter stays with my in-laws a lot and she has friends there too. I have even seen grandma let her have 2 friends stay at once. I don't have a problem with her staying at her friends house as long as I know the parents.