Local or foreigner?

Singapore
October 18, 2007 8:48pm CST
Do you prefer your life partner to be local or foreigner? Which country's foreigners are the most popular?
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@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
19 Oct 07
Hello Titaniumsoul, How are you? It's nice to visit with you again! Well, partnering with a person with different cultural values than one's self can be a very great challenge. However, many have proven that they are up to the challenge. I think it takes a very open-minded person to allow their own cultural infusion to blend with another's. It can be extraordiarilly difficult. Yet, as I mentioned, many have succeeded magnificently in this endeavor. For me personally, I would never consider anyone other than my own Hubby. Our values are so compatible that we've created a life together where we virtually never argue. We disagree on some things, yet we're both OK about agreeing to disagree. People with differing values might find that very difficult to achieve, because deep in the recesses of their minds they might be wondering whether the other partner thinks they're right because their culture is better, wiser, smarter, etc... than mine? In other words, when there is disagreement, the tendency could be there to look to the greater cultural differences. Again, inter-cultural unions can be utterly fulfilling. However, I would caution both partners to explore within themselves whether they are truly willing and able (when the hard times come knocking -- which they inevitably will) to view their partner as just another human being, rather than a Brit, Malay, American, Spaniard, Russian etc...
• Singapore
19 Oct 07
Hi Ladyluna, It is nice for you to visit me again. I miss your response and discussions. I am fine physically, however, mentally, I have to prepared to be out of job. Why? because my company is going to bust, sigh!
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@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
19 Oct 07
Oh no! That's terrible. Have you any prospects on the horizon? Hey, do you remember your discussion from a while back about exploring a career change when the employer doesn't pay that well? Hmmm, maybe this is the Universe's way of nudging you into a much cushier position. That's what I'm manifesting for you anyway.
• Singapore
19 Oct 07
Of course, I still remember that discussion however, I keep a positive mind about it because I believe there is a path specially reserved for me to take but I haven't found it yet. For short term, I wish to earn more money first, then pursue my dreams and find my specially reserved path.
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@milkfish (377)
• Philippines
19 Oct 07
I prefer to have local partners. That way there won't be any problem on cultural differences. We share the same beliefs and traditions and will usually think in the same level. Having a partner from another country, you really have a lot of adjustments to do. You first have to learn his background and cultural beliefs which may cause conflict in the relationship at the end. But of course, we cannot undermine the fact that there are inter-cultural relationships that have worked successfully. I guess it depends on how much each are willing to adjust and accept the other.