What's the best way to get over someone?

United States
October 19, 2007 11:19am CST
i've been in love with this guy for the longest time..we've been good friends for so long..but then i ended up having feelings for him..I finally admitted to him that I loved him, but then things didn't turn out the way I want to 'cuz he's already talking to someone who showed up out of no where..and before her, he had feelings for me tho.. so I need to move on because I got so hurt..and it seems like it's not worth loving him.. what is the best way to really get over someone that you've loved for so long?
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@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
19 Oct 07
Maybe you should stay friends with him and ride out the relationship he is in now. Maybe if you back off and give him a little time he will see for himself what he is missing. If it is true love it will have a way of working out. If not then at least you will still have a good friend and in life we can use as many friends as possible!
• China
20 Oct 07
i don't think love will come if we don't speak out. i know there are many people in love but they don't tell each other. they are afraid to lose the friend if they can not accept your love. but it is better to tell him if you do . why we must hurt ourseves quietly.
@Amberina (1542)
• United States
20 Oct 07
I was once in love with someone who didn't feel it back the heart can do some mean things to you can't it? Everything happens for a reason and you may not understand that reason now but I'm sure you will later. Maybe there is someone else out there who is yours and is just waiting for you to come along? Take time for yourself dear one and never forget only you can make you happy. Take care -Amber
• Puerto Rico
20 Oct 07
Oh Dear, the fact is he had no feelings for you whatsoever when he is already making his move with someone else and to whom he will probably do the same to that new someone. Now ask yourself, is he really worth you hurting? I don't think so! Just move on, go out with friends, you can meet other guys but this time be careful of whom you set eyes on. This is only one of the stages in life you are going through and believe me, it gets worst. You have to learn to deal with these and other situations and not let them get to you. Look forward to a better future which is not him. Keep in mind & tell it to yourself, "it's his loss and not yours". Don't even give him the satisfaction of hurting or crying for the dude. Have pride but most of all, have "mucho" dignity, that's one thing a women should not loose. GOOD LUCK IN THE FUTURE!
@shadowing (309)
• Malaysia
20 Oct 07
Hi Jepa. Well, personally I am sad to say that I don't think there is a way to get over someone, I mean, not that easy. However, at least you make it a point to give up, so I think it's just the matter of time to heal your hurt. Maybe you can try to remove your focus from him? If you used to talk to him at that particular time, you just keep yourself busy about some other things? Anyway, it's just my advice. Take care and all the best.
• Philippines
20 Oct 07
Maybe a bit of time away from him might help. Keep yourself busy with other activities, spend time with other people, be it with your friends and family. I think time apart will help you move on easier if not totally.
• United States
20 Oct 07
Best way I have found is to go out with friends, live your life, try not to think about, find a new boyfriend, go to clubs and party, wait for the right guy to come along, to make a promise not to have that happen again to yourself. Those are my ways of getting over someone.
@talisman (1308)
• United States
19 Oct 07
When you need to get over someone, you just need to take the time that's needed. Getting over someone isn't forced, it'll just happen, but if you don't take the time for that to happen it'll just drag on and on. Since the person you're wanting to get over is a friend of yours, you really need to take a break from the friendship while you're getting over your feelings for him. Once you're sure that you are completely over them, then you can go ahead and resume the friendship.
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
19 Oct 07
If you are hurt, take a moment to yell out he's a scumbag. Don't do it in public, but find a nice spot to do it from. Also know that being in a relationship isn't everything.
@ailema4ever (2675)
• Finland
19 Oct 07
I'm afraid there's no best way to get over someone. You should just let go and let time heal you. Sometimes it takes a short time, sometimes it takes a longer time (a year or longer). I think it also depends on your ability to let go. If you keep on hoping to be with him, then it'll be harder for you to get over him. GOOD LUCK and take it easy...it does take time no matter what, esp. since you're good friends with him and you've been having feelings for him for a long time.