What to do if you fall in love after marriage?

India
October 22, 2007 6:15am CST
It is often said that there is no any timings and age for love.What if you start loving someone else after marriage.Then that love would be considered as invalid or wrong?why?Do we people really lost our independence after marriage?I am not married but i have my various friends who dont love their husbands,they all have extra-marital affairs.
5 responses
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
31 Oct 07
Well, I am into that place before. It is important that you both like to save your marriage. It takes two, to make things work. I was not the one who fell in love with another. It is my husband that fell in love with his boss. ThoughI have given all my best to save our marriage thefacty that he just continue doing that with the girl, made me decide to let go, so I wont loose my respect for myself. I really dont understand the reason but maybe there rae times that love is strong enough to make you loose your sanity and the right reasoning. Sure there would be problems along the relationship and you will see someone better than your wife/husband. But of course you should expect that to happen. But you must also remember that there would be someone better than you too. To avoid falling in love with another, be faithful with your own partner. Instead of using the problems as your excuses for falling out of love, use those problems to strengthen your relationship. Instead of not talking, try to ask your wife or your husband out, have a date, try to refocus more on your life and relationship. Show your love more and more. Keep the flame of love flaming. Dont give up with a little problem. And if you find someone better, just tell yourself that you are faithful and though your family is not perfect, though your partner is not perfect, you are still both lucky because you know that you have each other... that even with those imperfection you are still meant for each other Give your best to make things work. Give all the love that you can give. But as I've said... it takes two to make it work.
• India
23 Oct 07
its wrong to fall in luv after marriage..v sud b faithful to our partner always...
@deserve40 (1642)
• India
22 Oct 07
Being an Indian, atleast no body should have any extra-marital relations. This is absolutly against our ethics. However, loving your husband or not is a separate question. If you do not love your husband that does not mean that you fall in love with some other man. However, the same should be applicable to men also. Here the question is of loyality. If you do not love your husband, ask a question to yourself, why is it so? Is it because of some difference of opinions? Then if it is so, it is not very difficult to resolve them with little love and patient. However, if you do not love your husband because of something else...then just consider...if he has such relationship, would you tolerate? The answere of this discussion, lies in the answer of my this question. Anyway, I think that you belong to Rajasthan, probably, Kota or somewhere near. As far as I know, this type of relations are not so easy to maintain in that culture, isn't it?
@surajpkn (584)
• India
22 Oct 07
Well, i am very sure ill not fall in love with anybody else other than my gf. Because, when you already love a person, and if that love is so true, then it is not possible to love anybody else at any point of time in life. If some sort of a feeling comes that way, it is not called love, it is only lust. Such a thing is wrong i would never fall into doing something like that and hurting my wife.
@carol_m (709)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
If you just fall in love, I guess there's nothing wrong with it. What would be a sin is when you would have an extra-marital affair. I hate to intrude but, why should your friends go into marriage when they don't love their rsspective husbands?