CUSTODY BATTLE - Have you ever been stuck in the middle?
October 22, 2007 5:23pm CST
I am in the middle of a custody battle between two friends of mine. I have been closer to one of them because we live in the same city. The other friend moved to a different state, but since she has come back to town to try to get her child back I have gotten to know her better than I ever did before. Now the friend I was closer to is acting like a real weirdo and making it hard for her to even see her child. I am seeing a side of him that I never saw before. He is being judgmental and acting like his shiot doesn't stink and that he is/was and never will make mistakes. She is so heart broken that she cannot see her child that is breaks my heart. She regrets letting her child stay with him for a while so she could get her life together. Now she is being falsely accused of things that never happened and he is blowing things out of proportion. I'm so frustrated with the situation, I am almost beyond rational thought on it. The way he is acting is making me want to end our friendship. Has anyone else been in this situation and how did you deal with it? And if anyone has any advise on this subject it would be greatly appreciated.
• United States
4 Nov 07
fizz11, this is a heavy thing you're going through. I think its truly horrible when a friend makes you choose between them and another friend. Possessive friends are really enemies in disguise. Sorry but, your friend sounds like a complete piece of crap. How long have you been friends with him? Also, is he remarried and is he with someone who is intolerant of his first wife? Many times it is the other spouse who creates all the conflict. I would try to defocus on him and when you are around your other friend try to stay positive and encouraging that she will see her child again. stay strong kindred
• United States
4 Nov 07
Thanks loralee for these words of concern. I've been friends with him longer than I care to admit(too long). I'm very fed up with his childishness. I don't believe he will ever grow up. At this point I don't even care. I have way less stress with him out of my life. I should probably miss his friendship but strangely I don't. I am not even mad at him anymore. I do miss seeing his children though. And yes, he does have a very intolerant spouse who has always been hard to be around. I would like to blame it all on her but deep down inside I know he is responsible. He has said too many bad things and blatantly lied to my face about more things than I care to mention. He is not the person I thought he was all these years. Looking back on our friendship I am beginning to see it was strongly laced with negativity. I've been reevaluating myself as a person since this started a few month back. The fact that I have been friends with him for so long and put up with his weird and often petty behavior is making me take a hard look at myself in relation to the world and everyone I interact with on any level.