The way to a man's heart...

Philippines
October 24, 2007 11:11am CST
I wrote this when my lover and I were just meeting once a week for our dates. Now we are already married and i still continue to cook for him. I just want to share this story with you. :-) ******* Yesterday, my boyfriend sent a text message asking if he could buy eggplants. I told him, "okay, I can cook them for you tomorrow." And he replied, "Yippee!" He was trying to find out what I would say. I love cooking for him. He is such an appreciative audience. He watches me while I prepare in the kitchen and tries to lend a hand if necessary. Tonight, I cooked at their house, not only for him but for his entire family. But it turned out, it was only his mom and dad who were eating for dinner. There were only two things in the menu: sauteed mushrooms and battered eggplants. I chopped a whole head of garlic and two onions and sauteed them in olive oil, added the mushrooms, and seasoned them with a flavor mix, pepper, wine and a little sugar. Oh yes, soy sauce...No salt... Next, I sliced the eggplants thickly, dipped them in egg and coated them with seasoned flour. Then I fried them until golden brown. For the dip, I choped more garlic and mixed it in the mayonnaise, and seasoned the mixture with salt, sugar, and pepper. The maid the prepared some sliced pork thing with sesame seeds and sauce. My boyfriend ate with gusto and his parents liked the food, too. His father said he liked the eggplants but that the mushroom was little salty for his taste. My bf just ate. He said he was so full and happy. He thanked me and said "I love you" many times throughout the night, until we finally parted for the night. It feels so good to be able to prepare meals for him. He loves my cooking and I love to cook for him and serve him. It's so good to have bonded with him over our home-cooked meal.
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@vokey9472 (1489)
• United States
24 Oct 07
That was sweet. I have always hear that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. The whole cook for your man and you will have his love thing. Personally, I think the quickest way to a man's heart is through his chest with a saw. (That was just a little humor) I cooked for my husband too when we were dating. I even cooked when we first got married. But after a while he stopped saying thanks and started asking when I was going to cook something good. I stopped cooking. I still cook for hte holidays but I don't go out of my way to cook for just everyday cooking. The only meal I still cook sometimes is dinner. And then I only cook because my son is there.
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• Philippines
25 Oct 07
hehehe have you tried taking cooking lessons? do you use recipe books?
@vokey9472 (1489)
• United States
27 Oct 07
Oh, I can cook. He just got tired of the foods that I was making. He wanted fancy stuff like I used to make BEFORE our son was born. I just don't have the time to devote 4 hours to making a fancy dinner. He got tired of the normal family meals that most families with kids eat. You know, meatloaf, mac & cheese, spaghetti & meatballs, chicken, things like that. He wanted stuff like rack of lamb, souffles, fancy food. I have a 5 year old child. I don't have the time to make food like that. He started complaining so I stopped cooking. I actually get orders for certain things I make during the holidays. So I know I can cook. People don't pay my kind of prices for bad food. My cornbread dressing goes for $25 a pan. My pies go for $20-$30 each. And if you want one of my roasted turkeys for Thanksgiving, you are gonna pay $50 if you provide the turkey, $85 if I have to provide the turkey. People who buy from me, never complain or try to haggle the prices. That is proof enough to me that I know what I am doing in the kitchen.
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• Philippines
30 Oct 07
"I actually get orders for certain things I make during the holidays. So I know I can cook." oh that is so cool! earning from what you enjoy doing. you must be earning a lot during the holidays! :-) that is right, motherhood can reduce your culinary adventures. maybe you can find do something special again during special ocasions? maybe during his birthday?:-)
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
24 Oct 07
i think we are similar... i also love to cook and i always cook for my hubby everyday... i feel good because my hubby also appreciate my cooking and he also helps me in washing the dishes after i finish cooking... he always tells everybody about how good my cooking is and it makes me feel even better... i sort of agree with you that it is one of the many ways to win a man's heart...
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• Philippines
25 Oct 07
oh that is nice of your husband...we have a maid so we don't do the dishes. but sometimes, my husband does help me with the cooking, such as slicing ingredients, measuring them, etc. :-) it's nice when they help out with chores, right? especially when they are not asked. :-)
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
24 Oct 07
Cool story. It is good to hear that you love doing things for your man but I suspect it is becuz you love each other and he loves doing things for you too. I'll bet he'd love you whether you were a great cook or not. i do know what you mean by the "appreciation". I tend to put more effort into things when I know it is appreciated.
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• Philippines
25 Oct 07
hi sid! you are sooo right. he loves me whether i am fat or thin and whether i cook for him or not. but it makes him happy so i do it for him. and yeah, we love each other so much.
• United States
24 Oct 07
My husband is the same way, he is always very appreciative of me when I cook for him and he will offer help while Im doing so. I dont think there has been anytime that I was cooking for him that he didnt ask if there was something he could do to help. He always gives me a kiss and tells me that what I made was delicious! Such a nice reward for doing something that you would be doing anyway! We have to eat. lol Those eggplants sounded really good, I think Im going to have to try that. I really enjoy fried zuchini, and I enjoy eggplant lasagna so I think I will like this too. Thanks! Bay xx
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• Philippines
24 Oct 07
oh yeah! it is really good and pretty easy to prepare. sadly, we don't have zucchini here in our country, i would also love ratatouille. :-)
• United States
24 Oct 07
I think your story is so cute to read. I am not a believer in food being the way to a mans heart. I have have never cooked for a man to enjoy or even brag about. I have had the heart of a man for years. he loves to cook for me and boy can he cook. he also has never ever eaten anything cooked by another woman. Your man loves you and that is all that matters. it's awesome your not tired of cooking yet. Good luck to the future.
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• Philippines
24 Oct 07
hey thanks! and i'm glad you liked my story. yeah, i guess God does bless us with our opposites. my husband also has a male cousin who does all the cooking while his girlfried just helps whatever way she can. and he really whips up mean dishes! but my husband doesn't. he just loves to eat! hahaha that's why God gave me to him. hehehe
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
26 Oct 07
It depends on the guy. Sometimes you don't even have to cook to get him. Fun story though. Seems like you were really happy with all of that. Personally, for the old saying to work on me, she definitely has to be a better cook than me, or at least able to cook good things I've never even tried. It'll be tough to do, trust me; but at least I have much more criteria to choose a lady on than just this small aspect.
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
hehehe okay....:-) my husband likes my cooking, so i continue to do that for him...but of course, i know he loves me for far many more good reasons than just my cooking. :-)
• China
25 Oct 07
Here my wanting what to say is that you are very happy,the lovers of wish world,all be like you one happy and happy!You can try to do some delicacy of China,because I am a Chinese friend!
• Philippines
25 Oct 07
hi wang! my husband is chinese, too. but i don't cook authentic chinese dishes for him because he is already filipinized. what i do is cook fusion stuff. hehehe and he likes whatever i prepare for him anyway...care for some noodles? hehehe
@jhoanee (599)
• Philippines
25 Oct 07
nice!!!i heard a saying "the way to a man's heart is trhough his stomach", now i learned it from u. its really nice when our bf likes what we cook for them much more when his entire family like what u cook for them. i do sometimes cook for my bf and same he does for me. we helped each other everytime one of us wants to cook something special. even the simple dish matters a lot to you specially ur dearest love cooks it for you. thanks for sharing, hope u have lots and lots of love for each other and for the entire family. and one more thing thanks for sharing the reciepy, hopefully one day i can cook that thing for my family.
• Philippines
25 Oct 07
sure just practice...if you don't have talent for it just practice. by the way now he is already my husband. :-)
@shiloh_222 (5480)
• Philippines
28 Oct 07
hi... i believe that is true.. i love to cook and someday i will be preparing my specialties for my special someone... hahahahaha
@peppy510 (25)
26 Oct 07
The way to a mans heart is truly through his stomach my husband is a food freak he loves eating and i am a real cooking freak i always try something new and works out to be yummy and no wonder he grew a big ponch like a six months pregnant and that is the secret of a sucessful marriage also
@venkatcse (234)
• India
25 Oct 07
It seems u love cooking more than that ur lover. But not every girl loves to cook these days. The time has changed
@bayue12 (38)
• China
25 Oct 07
i think the most important is love, someone will full in love with someone without any reason .
• China
25 Oct 07
aha```happy couple``thank you for sharing``
24 Oct 07
It's a cute story, but as a man i have to say food is not the way to a man's heart. But it's great to have someone to cook for you, and makes one happy. Tough i love to cook more than have my girlfriend cook for me.