Early potty training

By Amy
Abernathy, Texas
October 24, 2007 4:14pm CST
Here in the US, parents don't start potty training until the baby is close to two - some children aren't fully potty trained until they're three. My husband was potty trained when he was ten months old and from what I've read - this is late for many countries. Many countries will start at birth and babies are fully trained at as young as six months. I've also read that some parents can potty train within a few weeks. When was your baby potty trained and how long did it take? What methods di you use?
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• Australia
24 Oct 07
my daughter was potty trained at 2 years and out of night nappies by 2 and a half, my son on the other hand was completly out of nappies at 2, we plan to start potty training our youngest son this summer and hell be 14 months. I find the easiest way is to wait till summer when there arnt layers of clothes to take off and dress them simply, we normally have a potty at each end of the house so theres one near by and as long as the child knows when they are going to go to the potty (my son pulled faces and looked at his nappy) then they will be easier to potty train as its a sign that their ready. i found www.huggies.com.au a good website and you can also download a potty training guide, even though i dont recomend pull ups because they feel just like a nappy anyway and you want to get away from that.
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• Abernathy, Texas
24 Oct 07
Great tips! I'm hoping to do it a lot sooner...we are visiting my husband's family at Thanksgiving - they sent us tickets - and I just had the thought that maybe I should ask her too. Its a cultural thing for them to train early. I like the idea of waiting until summer - maybe I should have started this summer!
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@lilybug (21148)
• United States
24 Oct 07
The babies are not potty trained that early the parents are trained. A child is not technically potty trained until they can go into the bathroom when they need to go, not just go when the parents take them in there.
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• Abernathy, Texas
25 Oct 07
What a great point! Yes but it certainy saves on diapers! And my baby started crawling at six months so conceivably he could have started then.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
25 Oct 07
Exactly what I was thinking lilybug!
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• Philippines
25 Oct 07
Yeah, I also think so, too, lilybug. Great point.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
25 Oct 07
None of mine were trained before they were 3. I have always thought that was completely normal. My youngest two are 11 months and almost 2 1/2 years, neither of them are ready to be trained. I don't want to be trained to take them, I think that is unfair to them and me. I would rather wait until they actually know what they are doing.
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• Abernathy, Texas
25 Oct 07
I think you're right - all families and babies are different. For instance, I'm still nursing at ten months and since like six months people - including my mom were like - but you're weaning right? What about introducing solids ( I have)? How long are going to do that (like its a four letter word.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
25 Oct 07
I'm still nursing at just over 11 months so I know what you mean! I get tired of saying "Yes, he eats real food too" "No, he's not taking a bottle yet"...even the nurses at our recent hospital trip looked at me like I had two heads when I said he didn't use bottles or pacifiers (and brought him some anyway!)
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• Abernathy, Texas
25 Oct 07
You know what, my baby hasn't been (knock wood) sick once. He gets everything he needs. Many moms don't even gie their babies healthy foods!
@sophylline (1042)
• Philippines
25 Oct 07
Wow, that is just amazing how they can potty train their kids so early as six months! And your husband was potty trained when he was ten months. My baby is one year and nine months old. She is not yet trained. Though I have started a month ago when she was starting to refuse to put on clothes and just love to strip down and has made it her habit. I guess, it was a sign that maybe she would be ready to be potty trained. I just put her there when she would take a bath. Sometimes she would take a pee. Other times not. I have yet to experince that she take a poo. I am also interested in learning how others train their children.
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• Abernathy, Texas
25 Oct 07
Many start at birth. It actually facillitates communication between mother and child at a very early age. There are many great books on the subject - you can look it up on Amazon - and then buy the book - cheaper - on ebay - that's what I'm going to do - plus ask my mother - in - law for advice. The neat thing to learn is that this has been the natural way for centuries - it is only fairly recently - and a Western practice, that we wait. Good luck! I will write a new discussion after Thanksgiving if I get some great tips from his mom!
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• Philippines
2 Nov 07
Hi, thanks for the information and the nice comment. How was your trip to your in laws? Did you learn any new tips from them? Thanks.
• Abernathy, Texas
3 Nov 07
That's for Thanksgiving. And also my baby's first birthday. I'm hoping to learn some and will be buying a book on early potty training.
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@sherrir101 (3670)
• United States
25 Oct 07
I was fully potty trained by the time I was a year old, as my sisters were. My daughter was tow when I trained her. She just couldn't get the hang of it. LOL I did the reward method. Rewarding her, when she went. It probably took two months.
• Abernathy, Texas
25 Oct 07
I like the idea of the reward method. I like positives!
@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
25 Oct 07
My son is 20 months old, and he is pretty well pee trained during the day. He still has trouble pooping in the potty and he still has accidents over night. I let my child decide for himself that he was ready to use the potty. I never set a timer, I just asked him every little bit if he needed to go. I did a lot of things that other people say not to do. I used Pull Ups. My son was still able to tell when he had used the bathroom. I still use Pull Ups when we are going to be out shopping or something. I didn't want to push my child before he was ready. I let him lead the way, and he did. There is no way that I could have potty trained him before he was a year old. He couldn't walk, so he wouldn't really have been trained to use the potty on his own. I would have still been the one taking him. That's not the same thing as him going and sitting on the potty by himself now.
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• Abernathy, Texas
25 Oct 07
It was right for you to wait. I personally see taking him the same amount of time as diaper changing. Plus diapers are very expensive. And nappies take a lot of time - much more then bringing the baby to the bathroom. Sounds like your training is going well!
25 Oct 07
Both of mine were around 20 months when I started. It took two weeks intensive work to stay at home, leave their nappies off and have the potty by them when they needed to go. Each time they used it I would praise them and we would make a visit to the toilet to flush it away. This worked well and after the 2 weeks they were dry day and night. I must admit I have never heard of potty training as young as you say, in the UK it is around 18 months or earlier if the baby shows signs it wants to use the potty. I work in a nursery and I am finding more and more kids are not even toilet trained at three years old. Nappy companies have made their nappies so effective a child does not feel uncomfortable in a soiled nappy anymore, so they just don't bother trying to use the pot or toilet. I big disaster has been Pull-Ups, these are the same as nappies and are useless at training a child. They have even brought onto the market pyjama pants for older kids to wear if they wet the bed. Unless kids have a medical condition they should not be having accidents at this age. The amount of kids I have had to train at work because parents have become too lazy and just rely on Pull-ups is awful. It is a hard job to do, but as responsible parents we just have to do it, even kids as old as 4 are in nappies at nurseries I know and they have no special needs, just lazy parents.
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• Abernathy, Texas
25 Oct 07
You know what? I wonder if its not the nappy or diaper companies who started this late potty training that we have nowadays. Its not natural. Babies through the ages were taught early. Not only does it save money, but it facillitates communication between mother and baby.
• United States
25 Oct 07
My girls were trained by 13 months, my boys were later at 2 years. My mother said I was trained before I was 11 months. But, she used the spanking method to train. That is something I didn't believe in.
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• Abernathy, Texas
25 Oct 07
My husband and I don't believe in the spanking method either. OR withholding food. This is cruel - to make a child go hungry. I saw this grandmother at the zoo with twins - and one peed or pooped and she was like oh you disgusting child, I hate you when you do this. Your so gross to soil your diapers. WRONG. You never put down your child this way! Thank you for participating!
@freddy89 (16)
• Norway
25 Oct 07
I haven't got a child of my one.. But i think you should start as soon as passible. Because children learn much faster when they are small.
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• Abernathy, Texas
25 Oct 07
Yes, not only that, its very natural, its only in recent times - and basically only in Western practice that this has changed, and parents start later.
@AmbiePam (48672)
• United States
24 Oct 07
Parents wait that long? I live in the U.S. and I didn't know that. Of course, I'm not a parent. But I was potty trained at 9 months, my sister at 11 months, and my mom was also potty trained at 9 months. My dad was a year old before he was potty trained, but he says that is because his head was so big he couldn't stand up all the way, LOL.
• Abernathy, Texas
25 Oct 07
Crazy huh? And one daycare I called when I brought up the idea thought I was crazy - and said although they help parents when kids are older - continueing potty trraining parents do at home - older like two or three- they wouldn't help a baby under one.
• United States
24 Oct 07
I was potty trained at 18 months so I wanted to take the same initiative with my daughter. I did start potty training her at 15 months and she was potty trained at 16 months... but, then the unthinkable happened and an airplane of all things went by while she was sitting on the toilet and she was so scared of the noise that of course we had a lapse in potty training- she just wouldn't go on the toilet. So, I gave up until she was about 20 months and then I just set the timer for every 30 minutes and when it would go off we would go to the bathroom and pretty soon when she would hear the timer she would know it was time to go to the bathroom. I was one of the lucky ones because she was totally trained in 3 days and we were very consistent :) but, the pooping on the toilet was another story-- she still has the occasional accident, but I did that by buying a gum ball machine and then when she would go on the toilet she would get a penny to put in the machine and then of course i would cut the gum up to where it wasn't a choking hazard for her and it worked like a charm! I'm a firm believer in rewards and that's the way I chose to go about doing it for my daughter! and I'm very happy I did because she's trained and we are preg. with #2 and she's due to arrive in February--so it's been nice!
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• Abernathy, Texas
25 Oct 07
I love that reward system - great idea! Like lily says - we are trained just as much as the baby taking them every thirty minutes - lol. I can't imagine what it would be like changing diapers and being pregnant! I am sensitive to smells as it is - when pregnant!
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
24 Oct 07
Our sons started to walk before they were a year old, I think it was about ten or eleven months. Soon after that, when they became dry at night and when they could walk relatively well, we started them on the potty. It did not take long, a couple of days and they knew what to do. I do not know what time it was, but I am sure it was way before they were two years old. I think they were probably a little over a year or a year and a half.
• Abernathy, Texas
25 Oct 07
How easy that must've been for you - and so much less expensive then diapers. Other people in the US who I tell this too they think the idea is crazy - to potty train so early. And I alked to one daycare on base who although they told me they work with parents who are potty training - continueing in daycare said they couldn't do this for so young a baby - it would take up way too much time.
@rosebudh (32)
• United States
31 Oct 07
I find it hard to believe that they are potty trained at this young age! My aunt would take her babies and hold them over something every so often. You can't force a child to learn to potty train. They will potty train when they are ready to. My first one was potty trained at 18 months. I've just never heard of such things as potty training them at birth... The methods I use is when they go potty in the potty chair the first time I give them a special treat..such as a sticker on a chart, a small pc of gum or candy and let them know that they are doing great. Or else I would set up a potty chair and have them go in there the same time I would and sit on their potty and when I was done would say..see mommy went potty..can you go..
• Abernathy, Texas
31 Oct 07
I hate to say this since you feel so strongly - but its very true. Think how this saves on diapers! :) Its natural and was for centuries and still is in most non-western countries. In the West, we deviate from the natural by waiting so long. You're right, you can't force a child, it just won't work, which illustrates my point beautiful - its natural and facillites communication between mother and child. A few of my respondents started their babies at birth and they were trained by six months. I think my husband was late at ten months compared to others in his country. Not only do I love your treat strategy - I love the learn by example one as well - I haven't heard of that - but you better believe I will try it. Did you just figure these methods out on your own, or did you read or learn from your mom?