Who has had this happen to them.

United States
October 24, 2007 4:53pm CST
Have you ever lost a spouse, you loved dearly, to death? I did but two days ago. She had many complications from diabetes and had a heart attack. She spent 2 weeks in intensive care and them moved to the cardiac floor. She seem to improve so they sent her to a rehab center. Once their she did not last the day. She died in my arms while trying to put her to bed and I will never forget it for as long as I live. I have heard that you go through different stages. I have grieved...and still am greatly...I have tried to think of what I may have done to prevent this but I have no answers. How did you handle this? How do you ever get past it?
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
25 Oct 07
I am so very sorry for your loss. We will keep you in our thoughts. I have experienced a sudden loss of a family member and though many said time heals, and I couldn't feel that at the time, it has lessened over time. Though the pain will always been there I can smile again and laugh again. I wish you all the best and again so very sorry for your pain. Vicki
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• United States
30 Oct 07
Thank you very much Vicky. I do know what you say is true and I will keep going with a lot of help of my family. But nothing hurts worse than loose your spouse who you love dearly. Especially if they die in your arms. May this never happen to you. The Lord be with you.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
24 Oct 07
I am so sorry for your loss, yes this has happened to me and it is something I think you never really get over, sometimes some people are best to go and get professional help to help them cope, I prefered to do it on my own, you will go through many stages but things do get easier in time but nothing is ever really the same again, it is like a life changing event in your life, you have to start a new road down the map of life, I wish you well...
• United States
24 Oct 07
Thank you so much for your comments. I know you are right about a life changing event. While I knew this was a possible outcome somehow you just can't let yourself beleive it. I do hope you had family to help you through yours as I do and the are invaluable. But I also know that they will soon go back to thier lives and I must find how to travel that other path. Again thank for responding to this.
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
24 Oct 07
I do wish you well, I got through with my beliefs that there is something better to go to when we die, not another life as we know it but something something wonderful, and that our loved ones have gone through what we will eventually have to go through and I know they will be there for us when our time comes...be strong and be happy for them....
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• India
26 Oct 07
i just read the post. i am so sorry jb. GOD WILL comfort you soon. remember we are all GOD'S property and what HE does HE knows. let her go with gladness in your heart, to the place from where no one would ever want to return , we too will be there very soon jb, very soon. bring a cheer in your life and believe in GOD'S divine wisdom. please dont get offended but i rejoice for the soul that yearns for GOD and finally got freee from the shakels of this life, and as for our loneliness, we will get by we will .but can you imagine the joy your wife must be facing being by GOD ??? so let go and cheer up my friend. i love you lots my friend. may GOD BLESS us with HIS CHOICEST BLESSINGS ever. am here if you need me.
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• United States
28 Oct 07
Thank you Apple so very much for all you've said. Of course you are right and it is what I hold onto. Her suffering is over and with God and now I must make my way on. With family I know I will. But it is such a great loss. I have never had such pain in all my 66 years and I have lost much. But as I look back I can see how blessed I have been. I knew her only 5 years but it was as if a lifetime. It is also a blessing to know you. May god be with you.
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• India
28 Oct 07
those who have a taste of great things in a small quantity in this life are being made to yaern for what is waiting for them jb, believe me just wait and INSHA ALLAH(GOD WILLING)we will be like jumping and shouting in heaven . i have lost a lot in life jb, and you know what my shoulders will gladly take my most loved possesions to grave for they are going to GOD. smiles.love, apple.MAY GOD ALMIGHTY BLESS us all WITH HIS CHOICEST BLESSINGS ever and ever.(my heart cried to know that you were sad)
@brandy78 (159)
• Canada
25 Oct 07
I have not had to deal with this but I just wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss..I cannot imagine how hard it must be.. my prayers are with you
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• United States
28 Oct 07
Thank you very much.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
25 Oct 07
I am so sorry for your loss. I don't have any words of wisdom to make it any easier on you. I've never lost a person that I was close to other than my grandparents and I hadn't seen them in a long time so it upset me but didn't devastate me. The only loss I've suffered that devastated me and changed my life was last year. I lost my beloved little dog, Petey. Although he wasn't a person, to me he was. He still is my best friend and we went through alot together. I miss him still every day. I had some kind of a nervous breakdown when I lost him and couldn't function right. A friend in Texas sent me a poem about the Rainbow Bridge and how our pets wait for us and we are re-united when our time here is through. That helped me alot knowing I'd see him again. I also keep his pictures by my bed and on my desk and I talk to him through the day and every night before I go to bed. I don't know if any of this helps but I hope so. My prayers are with you. !!HAPPY HALLOWEEN!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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• United States
30 Oct 07
Thank you so much for all you say here. WE all must travel this road at one time or another. I pray that your time to grief is long in the future. May God be with you!