I am at a loss for words about this!!

United States
October 25, 2007 6:36pm CST
Yesterday, my sister-in-law left me a voicemail message so I called her back later on in the day when I went to pick the kids from school. So, she tells me that my sister, my one & only sister, called her to ask where she could get a marriage license and asked me if my sister had said anything. I was in shock, almost screaming "WHAT? WHAT??" to my SIL on my cell phone. My sister hadn't said anything to any of us, not even my mom!! She just has gotten way over her head with this situation. She's been married twice before, cheated on both spouses & ended up getting a divorce. I just feel bad for my niece cause she wants to move in with me now. I guess it's a "mid-life crisis" deal for my sister but she could've at least chose someone with more huevos to do this with. I mean like this guy is an alcoholic, has a job but doesn't help with rent or food, ran up the phone bill so high that the phone company cut off service and so on. I just want to slap my sister silly!! I know she's an adult and that she can make her own decisions but I always end up having to bail her out sooner or later for one reason or another. Anybody have to deal with stuff like this?? I am so irritated, thanks for listening.
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@citygirl (1081)
• Canada
26 Oct 07
Guess that is all we can do is listen.The old saying is true, you can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family. Good luck
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• United States
26 Oct 07
Thanks. I guess it would be easier for us if my husband & I didn't have it on both sides. I mean like we both only have 1 sister each and both of our sisters are just clueless!! What's the chances of that happening??
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@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
25 Oct 07
Well, I guess teh only thing that you can do is talk to your sister regarding what you think. That is the only thing you can do. It is because you cannot decide for her no matter how silly she is. Too bad for her, if after everything she still do not learn her lesson. Maybe, if she would not listen again, time will come she will have to learn her lesson the hard way.
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• United States
26 Oct 07
She always learns the hard way. According to my mom, my sister can't be talked to right now cause she just flies off the handle. Thanks.
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@tess1960 (2386)
• United States
26 Oct 07
Hon, sounds to me like your sister has very low self-esteem. She feels she has to have a man in her life. If she would let her at this time I would take your niece in and give her a more stable home. Be sure your husband agrees though. If not just be there for her whenever you can because right now your niece could end up the biggest victim in all of this. I am on a rant about family right now also. You complain all you want, it's what we're here for. Sometimes I find re-reading my rants helps me figure things out. Someone comment helps sometimes too. I am the oldest and my sister is 10 years younger. She got married just to have kids and he didn't want any. They have 3 now. Who knows how that will end. Your hubby and you were made for each other. You both understand the others feelings when it comes to sisters. This is a good thing!!