a real friend?

Philippines
October 27, 2007 1:44pm CST
they say that "a friend in need is a friend indeed". but will you still consider somebody as real friend who keeps on asking favors from you and would only bother to call if he/she needs something (let's say - money) from you?
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5 responses
• Australia
30 Oct 07
obviously no.. if it is once or twice.. okay... make it 5 times... then it is ok OR if it is small favors.. not big favors.. otherwise they are not friends.. they are called people that likes to take advantage which is bad... get rid of them.. ignore them.. dont friend them.. a real friend is not like that... n now u say MONEY.. thats worse... do he/she pay u back?? if they pays u back on time then it is ok.. but if they keep lending n not paying.. that ask them to go away... its bad habit.. dont be too nice.. i use to be really nice to people and always say YES... but i know it is bad... say no to them on their face.. who cares if they walk away... WALK THEN...
• Philippines
5 Nov 07
I believe so, too. abusive friends, if you can still call them "friends", should have no place in our hearts. Thank you very much for your nice response. :)
@areweine (33)
• United States
29 Oct 07
That's really sticky. Sometimes friends get in ruts that they can't get out of and they tend to be a little or even alot more needy than we would expect. The way to tell if that person is really a friend and not just a slug who's using you is to say no and see their reaction. A real friend understands the word no, even when they'd rather not hear it, but a user rarely does.
• Philippines
5 Nov 07
Thanks a lot for your response. i will test my friend if she remains loyal to me even if i say no to his/her financial requests. Thanks, again. :)
• United States
28 Oct 07
I have been in this positon twice and I can tell you for sure ... they are not a true friend. A true friend stays in touch, sometimes even calling you for no reason other than to see how you're doing. If this one only make themselves known when they ned something, the balance in the relationship is off and you will probably never feel right about it.
• Philippines
5 Nov 07
I think so, too. As human being, we are sensitive to the action of others, we do not feel good when our friends tend to abuse us one way or another. Thanks much for your response.
@sumitsonu (599)
• India
27 Oct 07
It may be the case that he/she needs you very much and you cannot judge a friend he is calls you when he is in need , you can only judge him when he doesn't help you when you are in need, and maybe the friends financial condition is very bad , so he expects something from you, but that doesn't mean that he is not a real friend, let the time come and it will be clear on its own whether he is a real friend or not.
• Philippines
5 Nov 07
hello sumitsono! i have given your response a great thinking. i am sure you are right in some ways. i will have to prove my friends being true to me so that i could say that he/she is my real friend. Thank you so much for your thoughts. have a nice day. :)
@dajiale (108)
• China
27 Oct 07
Haha, you are their good friend when they need, but they are not your real friends.
• Philippines
5 Nov 07
oh, that's terrible dajiale. i think i have to consider my relationship with that person. thanks for your response. :)