Do people treat you differently because of your looks?

@dreamy1 (3815)
United States
October 29, 2007 7:35pm CST
I have an example of good looks getting better treatment. Years ago I worked for an airline. We were sent to Cleveland for training for a month. One of my classmates was a very pretty girl the same age as me. I've never considered myself attractive so I really don't get attention for my looks. During our training we practically lived at the airport all day and had a meal allowance at the airport so we always ate lunch there. One of the guys that worked there used to always give my friend free food every day because she was pretty. But me, I never got any free food. We would be out after training just out somewhere or at the mall and I would notice how men always did a double take when they saw her. I wouldn't say she was a huge flirt but she knew she was good looking and I think she enjoyed the attention especially when people did things for her because of the way she looked.
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@ssh123 (31104)
• India
30 Oct 07
I do not think so. May be the new comers who come in to contact,may respect a person because of looks and dress he wears. But that is shortlived, if the person is only container and not contents. People respect others because they find some extra ordinary quality like honesty, integrity, hardworking, dedication, kind etc. There are people who respect a person because of his status in society, irrespective of his behaviour. There are people who respect a guy because he is tough, rough and a rowdi element. People respect others because of compulsion: like boss, teacher (some teachers) etc.
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@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
30 Oct 07
thanks for your response.
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
30 Oct 07
It may be somewhat true. I think youth and beauty can determine some job hires. I always said for many of the temp jobs I got when much younger that I was merely a 'centerpiece'. I was paid well simply to answer phones. I told the agencies I didn't want to type or do any calculations and they gave me jobs where I would just greet people and answer phones. The kind of jobs you're hired for without anyone checking references. I would go and just get hired. Granted, I was hired by a few weight loss companies the same way, but I sold myself in the interview - which is what I needed to do with potential clients. Nowadays - without the perfect figure (not bad but not barbie doll), ten years older, its not so simple. The thing is though, despite my joke about being a centerpeice, I don't even consider myself gorgeous or typically pretty, but in past years I was very confident (I've lost a bit of that temporarily) and I think people react to that. I got free bus rides, free food, free drinks from bartenders and others (which I would pass along to friends as I don't drink) free prizes at amusement parks when I didn't win at all. For me, it wasn't so much my looks but my confident yet somewhat reserved manner - boldness and shyness - and my willingness and interest in listening to others. I was often told that the person felt comfortable wth me and such. So I think its a combination.
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I wish I could get free stuff just because.
@laurika (4536)
• United States
13 Nov 07
Yeah i think for people is still look very important. i have friend who is really pretty girl, but not the smartest one. so but eveyone would talk to her, because she is so pretty. I don't consider myself as a pretty, but I lost some pounds few years ago and I see many men are looking at me now and giving me a lot of compliments. we are still trying to say we don't treat people different because of their look, but we still do, just don't want to admit it.
@dimaks (786)
• Japan
9 Nov 07
i think it is a common human attitude. we tend to give more attention to the one we like - it be from the viewpoint of beauty, accomplishments, and fame. but don't worry, things should not end up in the perimeters of beauty and looks. real human quality comes with ability and knowledge. no matter how good looking a woman is, if she does not know how to lead a life, things to me are just nothing but ordinary.
@MGjhaud (20740)
• Philippines
7 Nov 07
Sometimes I would say yes some people do treat me differently because of my looks. I’m not too beautiful though (hehe…) but I make sure I look pleasant. I often experience it in a mall, saleslady entertain you wherever you go in their store if they notice you look good and would seems can buy something but if you look seems that doesn’t buy, they will just stare at you the whole time.
• United States
1 Nov 07
Of course people get treated differently if they are good looking or percieved as such. I also give people credit for looking beneath the surface and seeing inner beauty one on one. Unfortunately that never happens in a situation like waiting in line for service or trying to attract attention or help. The attractive person always gets waited on or attended to first. I could site many instances where my sister and I are both looking to be waited on and the sales clerk always chooses her first, yes she is prettier but she isnt always first in line!
@violeta_va (4834)
• Australia
31 Oct 07
I do know what you are saying and its not just men flirting and all that its everyday things that people do.
@ctrymuziklvr (11060)
• United States
30 Oct 07
My problem is that I'm 60 years old but don't look anywhere near it so people don't treat me with the respect that they should a "sr. citizen". When I ask for my sr. citizen discount which starts at 55 years old I always get a look like I'm trying to pull something over on them or I'm joking and then have to pull out my id to prove my age. People in the street would knock me over before they moved over to let me walk by when I see them make room for someone who is obviously at least 60. Everyone tells me I should be happy about it but I think I deserve the respect of being a sr. citizen. I don't think I look all THAT young!
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
Absolutely yes. Because based on my experienced if you are pretty you have a confidence to do your job well. Nowadays companies employed a worker if they see it is pretty or not? if you are pretty then you have a better chance to be employed in a company.
@rimsha (806)
• Pakistan
30 Oct 07
I have no any experience.
@hopejordan (3566)
• Australia
30 Oct 07
hi there dreamy1 thanks for this discussion i think you should treat others the same i what i think god bless you
@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
30 Oct 07
Yes, people treat others according to the looks but I think that is a shortlived advantage if the looks dont comply with character. Good looking people tend to take advantage of their looks to gain what they want. I have seen this so many times. So if you want to be treated that way make sure you are more good looking than the people that accompany you....lol.
• United States
30 Oct 07
Of course it is true, in many contexts, that "people treat [one] differently because of his or her's [good or bad] looks" Of course, if the context of the discussion involves a blind person responding to one in part because of how that person looks, the issue becomes interestingly more complex. For instance, if that person USED to have vision but does not currently have any, its possible that the person forms a mental image of the other and thus does have a concept of how good or bad looking that person is. If that's the case, we might say that its possible for a blind person to respond differently because of one's looks, but then we have to make sure we understand that "looks" here means "perceived looks"