Do You Know Any Highly Sensitive People?

@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
October 29, 2007 8:49pm CST
I am a highly sensitive person. For many years, I did not know that. I thought I was just weird like everyone seemed to think my mother was. I actually inherited my sensitive nature from her. I picked up a book from the library today called "The Highly Sensitive Person In Love." These are the questions that the author, who is also an HSP ask to see if you fit the bill. 1. Do you fall in love hard, but fear intimacy and all it entails? 2. Are you sick of being told by someone you love that you are "too sensitive?" 3.Do you struggle to respect a less sensitive partner, to ignore behaviors that you may find shallow or harsh? 4. Or have you given up on love, feeling too sensitive or shy to endure its wounds? -Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D.
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@laurika (4536)
• United States
10 Nov 07
I think i was highly sensitive person when I was teenager and when I was kid. i remeber one day with had some workers in our house and my mum terll me to bring the egg. And I accidently broke it so i started cry and run, but not because I was scared, but because I know I did something wrong. Also when teachers hurt me in school with their comments I was sad about it for very long time. It looks like I change or rather say life change me and I am being harder and harder.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
10 Nov 07
I know that I am different, but I do not want to change. I simply want to learn how to effectively deal with those who take advantage of my kindness.
@laurika (4536)
• United States
10 Nov 07
But the different is you are nice different. Stay the way you are. Sensitive people are just beautiful.
• Australia
30 Oct 07
I used to be, but my step dad put a stop to that. Now I just take life in my stride and laugh instead of running away. It is natural to be sensitive, but you can learn not to be! As for love? Coming upto 7 years with my partner and we are as happy as pigs in mud!lol.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
30 Oct 07
In some instances, I guess it can be a hinderance. But, I kind of like being different and experiencing life on a much deeper level.
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• Australia
31 Oct 07
Just because you are sensitive doesn't mean you are not able to enjoy the world. It just means you have a deeper understanding of emotion and can express and feel them easier.
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@Flight84 (3050)
• United States
4 Nov 07
I'm sensitive too. It's taken me years to realize it though. I thought of myself as tough, but I've come to realize that my tough attitude is to sometimes protect me from showing my true feelings. I do fall in love hard, but didn't really fear intimacy. I fell hard for myu husband though. I guess it was okay because we have been together and happy for many years now. I don't like being tolds I'm sensitive, even though I know it myself. I do struggle to respect my husband on certain things when I think he's not being sensitive, but it's usually me that's being overly sensitive. I don't give up on love, but I do have a very difficult time with forgiving and forgetting. This discussion was good for me to express how I can be at times. I'm not like that all the time, but I definitely do have my moments.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
5 Nov 07
I can be harsh at times too. Especially, when I feel like someone is taking advantage of my niceness. It is almost like I have to fight to keep my dignity. It is not that I am ashamed of who I am, I just don't want anyone to think that I stupid, just because I am soft. But, for the most part, I am proud of who I am.
@Zorrogirl (1481)
• South Africa
30 Oct 07
i guess i fit that description. had my first boyfriend when i was 21. was intimate with him after a year of going out. but i am sensitive on lots of other levels too. i am constantly wondering what other people think about me. i just dont know why it bothers me that much. i am extremely shy because of that.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
5 Nov 07
I use to be like that too. Now, I could really care less what people think of me. I am not going to go off and act a complete fool, but at the end of the day, I have to feel justified in the way that I behaved and no one else. My rule of thumb is that as long as God is still pleased with me, I don't give a care about what anyone else says or thinks.
• United States
10 Nov 07
Dear friend sorry this has taken so long to respond to but I have been really busy. No I do not think I am really sensitive. I let a lot of behaviors of other people slide by me. I can forgive a lot of people and tend to find close friends fast. I have been in love with the same man for over 30 years no matter how much he bugs me. (haha). I do on the other hand get upset with myself easily and not forgive myself easily. I do not think that is the same line of what you are talking about. Good topic I hope you have lots of responses.