Are you adopted?

@ayshren (137)
United States
October 30, 2007 11:32am CST
I myself was not adopted, but Im just curious if any of you are. When you found out, how did you feel and have you ever met your natural parents?
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10 responses
• Canada
30 Oct 07
My husband and his sister were adopted and they always knew they were. My in-laws never saw the point in keeping it a secret. My husband has never had an interest to find his real mother which completely boggles my mind. I would be so curious. I would want to know who she is, what she's like, what she's done with her life, if I had other siblings... My sister-in-law on the other hand wanted to find her bio mom when she got pregnant, concerned about health and genetic issues. After a short search she gave up. Both feel that their parents are their real parents and don't need to know more than that! They both have the utmost respect for their parents for giving them such a great family and are happy with it. For me, my curiousity would kill me! And yes, I've also wished many times that I had been adopted LOL
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@ayshren (137)
• United States
31 Oct 07
Im with you on that one! Id be so curious I wouldnt be able to stand it.
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@blueunicorn (2409)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I am not adopted. I often wished I was when I was a teenager, but that doesn't count!
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@ayshren (137)
• United States
31 Oct 07
lol Thank you for your reply
@kkittu (426)
• India
31 Oct 07
no, i am not adopted, i am my mom and dad cild,
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• United States
31 Oct 07
I am not adopted. However, my parents adopted a little boy straight from the hospital in 2000. He is now 7 years old and recently found out that he was adopted. (He found out from another person, nobody in our family.) It's been hard. There are days that he doesn't want any of us to tell him he loves him and he feels that we constantly lie to him. My heart aches for him. When he gets upset or mad at us, he usually lashes out and says that we're not his real family.. it hurts but it's only a fraction of what he's going through. He doesn't want to meet his real mom and doesn't want things to change with us. We're all he has known and for now, that's all he wants.
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@irishidid (8734)
• United States
19 Dec 07
My sister and I were adopted from the same family. I've grown up knowing it. I've met a couple of siblings.
• India
2 Dec 07
Thank you so much for this discussion, ayshren! I am not adopted; but, somehow marriage has never worked for me, and I guess it never will. But I am very much interested in kids, and want to adopt some as soon as I get financially fit. Your discussion gave me insight into something I know nothing about. How do adopted kids feel? How can a foster parent take care of such a child? I was worried about the child's identity? To reveal or not to reveal? But after reading this thread, I feel it is good to tell the kid the truth at the earliest possible. It is the best way to protect them from an insensitive society. But what if the kid takes it hard? That's the problem! What if the kid gets bitter and develops hate? I have a lot of questions and phobias about adoption.
• India
2 Dec 07
Thank you so much for this discussion, ayshren! I am not adopted; but, somehow marriage has never worked for me, and I guess it never will. But I am very much interested in kids, and want to adopt some as soon as I get financially fit. Your discussion gave me insight into something I know nothing about. How do adopted kids feel? How can a foster parent take care of such a child? I was worried about the child's identity? To reveal or not to reveal? But after reading this thread, I feel it is good to tell the kid the truth at the earliest possible. It is the best way to protect them from an insensitive society. But what if the kid takes it hard? That's the problem! What if the kid gets bitter and develops hate? I have a lot of questions and phobias about adoption.
• New Zealand
19 Nov 07
I am not adopted. But if in case I am, I will be very thankful to my parents who have take good care of me. I should not be ashame if Im adopted coz its not my fault and at least there's someone out there who can considered my family..=)
• United States
15 Nov 07
yes i am adopted ive known as long as i can remember im fine with things however i havent found my natural parents as of yet i would like to because both of my adoptive parents have passed away and i also would like to know my medical history
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
12 Nov 07
Yes, I was adopted when 6 weeks old. My parents told me just before I entered Kindergarten. I think a child should be told as soon as they can understand. Parents talk and sometimes kids overhear them and the snowball begins. Always a good idea to tell the child before entering school. I was ok with being adopted until my teen years. Then wanted to know the scoop/story. At 21, I did a search and found both my biological parents. Still in contact with my father but my mother is deceased now. It's been a rather interesting life!