Would you turn your back on your best friend if she needed you?

United States
November 1, 2007 8:35pm CST
I've never turned my back on a best friend when she needed me. But, I have been very angry with a best friend. Over the years, I've only had a few best friends. Everyone else falls in the category of acquaintance or friend. I wouldn't turn my back on a best friend, even if she did something really bad to me. Or, at least I don't think I would. Maybe if she spread malicious rumors about me, then I might rethink the depth of our friendship. What would make you abandon your best friend? Would you leave her (or him) if they did something mean to you?
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@crizack (55)
• United States
2 Nov 07
I think I would turn my back on a friend if I found out they were befriending me only for their benefit. A friend should never have to feel used. Friendships should be cherished, so if someone was just using another person, then I think that would be selfish and hurtful. Other than that, I think I would stick with my friend, unless they did something unforgivable.
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• Argentina
2 Nov 07
I agree completely with you, Crizack!
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@sudasre (141)
• Canada
2 Nov 07
Me too, I really agree with you
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
2 Nov 07
It would really have to be serious if I ever had to turn my back on my best friend. I would hope that it would never come to that but if it did, it would surely ruin our friendship. You can eventually probably forgive but forgetting, that would be hard to do.
@laurika (4536)
• United States
2 Nov 07
I am glad nothing like that happen to me.But maybe will soon.I have one friend who is being negative for very long time.And it is not only about me, but about others too and about everything.I can understand she has some problems, but she need to tell me, but not to acting like she is the best in the world and there is no better person then she is.this is one reason I could turn my back to my friend.Maybe it sounds liek not very good reason, but when someone is putting you down for long time, one day will be enough.I hope it will get better and I would never need to turn my back on her.Also another reason might be, when somebody would just spreading rumors about me or when I will need a help and they will turn their back on me.
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@williamjisir (22902)
• China
2 Nov 07
If my best friend did something "mean" to me, I would have to reconsider the friendship between us to see if it is worthwhile to go on. But I would ask him first the reason for doing that so that I could have a better idea about the "mean" thing he / she had done to me. But in my real life, my best friends have never done anything mean to me, nor have I. We are nice and helpful to each other.
@2btrueinu (703)
• Philippines
2 Nov 07
In your kind of situation I maybe. If they really spread malicious things you have to think coz that kind of person is not a friend anymore..... friend is friend and bestfriend is different I must say turn back to them coz they are not your best friend
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@yuncloud (36)
• China
2 Nov 07
General speaking, I will not turn my back on my best friend as he/she is my best friend,to own a really best friend is not easy, we should treasure it. having a good freind is a pleaseant thing ,when you are not happy,there is someone to comfort you, encourage you and let my feel better. But the best frined want to do the thing that is offensive, I will not help me,but try to persuade him not to do it.
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@soulcube (50)
• Canada
2 Nov 07
First of all, Why really would you turn your back on your best friend? And if she spread rumours around about me, Then shes not really my best friend so I would turn by back on her.
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@marinarovi (1318)
• Argentina
2 Nov 07
No, I wouldn't. I guess that it would take something really really really nasty to abandon my best friend, for they're like family already!! What got you thinking about abandoning your best friend?? =)
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@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
I and my bestfriend has several quarrels that some results to heavy fights but when time comes that we need each other we never turn our back from one another even we haven't resolve the fight. And Im sure even up to now we will always be there for each other no matter what happen. We have made a promise that we will be forever best of friends and that means we will always be there for one another and we want to fulfill that promise as long as we live.
• Pakistan
5 Nov 07
Obviously it is not good behavior to turn the back if your best friend needs you or your help. But it happens here. You should never call such person a best friend. He or she should not be called behaved like a friend who turns his back when you needed him or her. Best friend is the best grade in friend ship. Every one could never be called best friend. If a person behaves negative in friendship you should never make you angry. You should pay thanks of God that you came to know the mentality of such person. You should not wait to struck out the name of such person from the list of your friends, and it’s enough punishment for a such person you think and name about a best friend and he or she ignores you.
@I_LUV_U (2519)
• India
2 Nov 07
Yea, if they show some serious infidelity, then may be for the time being i'll leave them. But its too hard to abandon someone, atleast it's too hard for me. I would melt down the moment they ask me sincerely for forgiveness after having realised and regretted their mistake - but that is only after certain time i.e only after i have recovered completely from the blow.
@donna5 (8)
2 Nov 07
im 39 and have know my best friend for 25 yrs. if she had done something wrong or i to her we do sit down and talk about it, sort it and move on as if it never happened. if she was making what i would call a bad decision i would my opinion, let her make up her own mind, and then stick by her whatever the choice she made. if there was really nasty things from her, i would be quiet for however long, but know i would ALWAYS forgive her.
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
2 Nov 07
Absolutely not. Even if we were fighting or were p!ssed off at each other for some reason, if my best friend needed me I would be there in a heartbeat. Fights and disagreements happen, it's a part of life. But they can't get in the way of being a friend when a friend needs you.
• India
2 Nov 07
I wonder anybody turn their back to their best friend. If they do the friend is not suppose to be their best friend.
• United States
2 Nov 07
I have NEVER abandoned my best friend. We have known each other for 12 + years and have been through a lot together. I cant imagine my life without her. REAL friends work their problems out. There have been times when i was upset with her or visaversa..but we have always come to a meeting of the minds to smooth things over
@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
2 Nov 07
hello beautyqueen!c",) I would never turn my back on anyone in need specially my best friend...Actually i have a few best of friends and i do cherish each of them. I have a bestfriend who did something that i considered mean years ago but i never did build grundges between us, our friendship is far more important to me... However if any of my friends would abandon me or turn away from me, i would consider it as fate.. but at least once in my life they had found a friend in me.