what do you do when you love your job but hate your co-workers

@ejb217 (41)
November 4, 2007 9:08am CST
I've been at my job for several years and have gotten very good at what i do. but I've now gotten to the point where every morning when i wake up all I can think about is how much I dont want to go to work. And every day when i leave work I think thank god the days over and try to think of excuses not to come back. It's really not my job itself that i hate , it's all the fake people that I work with. The supervisors are extremely immmature and are constantly fighting with each other over pitty little things. Everybody talks about everyone else behind their backs. I work at a place where the boss' favor the slackers and the people who could care less about their jobs. And the people who bend over backwards for their job get treated like nothing. What do you do when going to work makes you physically ill???
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@loralee (542)
• United States
5 Nov 07
I have been there. You might want to look for a new job in an environment with a descent management style. Most of the time the boss sets up these dynamics due to their own bad behavior and/or incompetence. That stuff is contagious and can make you either equally petty (so as to fit in with the nonsense) or physically ill (from the abuse of refusing to join in the idiocy). Even though you are in the right line of work, it sounds like you are in the wrong group of morons. There are real people out there in the world, you just don't seem to be around any of them in your current work environment. Hang in there and don't give up hope in finding the right workplace.
@raychill (6530)
• United States
4 Nov 07
Well. I work with an ex boyfriend. Talk about hating your co-workers! But I also don't really like my job so I can only partially relate. Anyhow I think you have one of two options. Either you look for a new job doing the same or similar to the thing that you love. or you just learn to deal with it. It sucks. I had a job I loved but hated the people many times in my life and I always ended up leaving. That's pretty lame but it felt like my only choice. wish you luck
@ejb217 (41)
4 Nov 07
That must suck to work with an ex. I dont think I could do that.I actually not sure I even want to do this kind of job anymore. I think I need to leave this place find something new to do.
@raychill (6530)
• United States
4 Nov 07
I'm really okay with working with him. He cheated on me and broke up with me so he's all filled with guilt and has a hard time dealing with it.. and only because he's so filled with guilt do I have to suffer. which makes no sense but that's how it works apparently. anyway... good luck with your search!
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
23 Jan 08
I am in a similar situation I guess. I am in Banking. I love the people I work with, and I love the industry, but I HATE the company I work for. The senior managers of this company has made an art form of screwing its employees, from the Branch Manager level, right down to the tellers. Literally half the people in the company are looking for another job. I guess that is the advice I would give you. If you love your job, and you are good at it, but you don't like the company or the people, get out and find another company. However, I will advise that you make sure you have another job lined up before you walk out of the one you have now. I don't think I have to tell you that being unemployed can be devastating to your financial position. Good Luck!
• Philippines
6 Nov 07
wow im not at that current situation but if i am, hmmm i may not just physically ill but get mentally ill. nah, im just kidding. i have this kind of attitude that the more they hate me of my skills the more i've flaunt it. they'll get tired eventually. though sometimes i guess it really gets into your nerves. but as long as you love your work and the salary is right, i guess that can be a good motivation right? peace:-)
@azimsay (545)
• India
5 Nov 07
Not necesory to hate my job because my job is better than all.
• Hyderabad, India
5 Nov 07
i will try to avoiding my coworker and me cool at my job
@rimsha (806)
• Pakistan
5 Nov 07
Easey way Change the job if it is not possible then Change the lover.
@MagieL (266)
• China
5 Nov 07
though i am still in school,but if when i love my job but hate my co-workers,i will spend my time to work,just to work.^^
• China
5 Nov 07
I will try my best not to make any coflictions with him, just pay much attention to my work ,not this guy ,anyway ,i just don;t want to ask more troubles for myself .i know what is more important for me ,my job .of course. thank you for asking this question blessed be .
@fanji008 (782)
• China
5 Nov 07
I think that's sth we have to face in our daily life and work. Because there aren't always nice people there. With my current job,most of my colleagues are very nice and easy to get along with except a few "special" ones. But anyway we have to deal with that. We devote ourselves to the work and show our opinions but also respect others,even he is the one that you dislike.But when he's going too far,then we have to fight back straightly. Hopefully you'll overcome that.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
5 Nov 07
I am actually very good at blocking out all the negative attitudes around me altho they admittedly do make an otherwise pleasant job a little trying at times. I worked for years under a boss who was an absolute tyrant but I loved my job so much that whenever she got to me, I had to do some real soul searching and remind myself that I needed that paycheck and unless she fired me then she was stuck with me. I think if I was starting to feel as bad as you about facing each day, I would begin looking for a change. I would not quit before finding another job but it does sound as if you are surrounded by miserable people.
• United Arab Emirates
5 Nov 07
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I think you should think only about your job nothing else should matter because u really love your job. Be good to everybody no matter what they say behind you. Don't waste your time thinking what they say behind you. If you are nice to everyone then what can they say about you, except for good things about you. So just forget everything and concentrate on your job, thats what matters. Take care.
• China
5 Nov 07
From many people said that this society is very realist and bloodiness ,i have to face it after 3 month!!I don't know what things will happen in my future!!
• Malaysia
5 Nov 07
oops, been there done that. You have 2 main choices - pack up and leave, or continue doing your job and not let all of that bother you. Or maybe you can transfer to another dept instead, if that's an option for you? Wherever you go, there are bound to be problems. sometimes it depends on the individual, some ppl treat their colleagues as colleagues + friends, some just treat their colleagues as purely colleagues, no personal relationship there. so what you really need to have is mental strength to withstand the negative people factor and have a clear mind on what is work and what is relationship...handle it well, do your job and excel in it and you'll be fine. unless you don't like your current job anymore and you don't see any career progression, then well, perhaps it's time to seek something new. good luck and take care! ;)
• New Zealand
4 Nov 07
Sounds similar to me a few years back when I was working, within a small department of one of NZ's top 5 companies. What we did within our department, was to have a monthly one on one meeting with the manager. Everbody was tracked for their progress and ranked. (below target/on target/above target, etc). Then you could suggest ideas, etc. This is one way of showing up your co-workers, proving your worth, etc - and it is documented. These were then kept on personel files and sent to head office for review. Perhaps suggest a similar idea... I also implented a idea where everyone had to come up with 2 ways of working smarter every month..not harder. Working smarter for me (e.g. shortcuts, merging tasks, upgrading software/task sheets, etc) may be better than toiling away - but you need to get your co-workers to be actively involved... Perhaps scale back a bit, kindly ask others to help, and get more talkative with your boss about work issues (what I use to do), and if he is understanding, he/she may realize your issue...
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
4 Nov 07
OK, you need to get over it! Start by being thankful for your job and also that you can do it so well. Then take a look at your fellow-workers. They are not Harrassing you, or stealing from you. Be thankful that they are honest. Begin to look for the good in them. Remember that we are all God's children and we are all on the path to God. Some of us are further along on that Path, and because of this we can see further. You can find so many things about your work, and fellow employees that you will have no time to Hate anything, or anybody. Do your work as best you can, and be Happy with your job, and you will find your life turning around and your health improving!
• United States
4 Nov 07
Well... I'm not old enough to have one of those "grown up" jobs lol. But, it's the same thing with school. Students make me physically ill. Here's what you do, and no i don't mean "go tell someone" pfft that never got ME anywhere: Simply try to ignore that person - people are stupid. ALL people are stupid... they can't help it. It's something they NEED to do. They enjoy pestering OTHER people. Don't let them get to you. Tell them off - Tell them to leave you alone, you have more interesting things to do then listen or look at their stupidity. This, to me, seems like pretty much the best thing to do... you could always beat the crud out of them but..hey... no one said fighting for peace wasn't illogical.