Just got married

Philippines
November 4, 2007 11:39pm CST
I'm so happy! I just got married to a nice man. It was a love at first sight. I just saw him the other week, and we decided to get hitched. We had a civil wedding because we didn't want to let our families to know yet. It was a whirlwind romance, and I don't think our families will understand if we suddenly get married after a very short notice. I don't know yet when I should tell my family. We're both not yet ready to have a baby, so I guess I'll just keep it a secret. Maybe in four years, I could tell them, but right now, there's a lot to do, and the least I could do is not to worry my family. I thought I should share it to you to alleviate my guilt.
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18 responses
• Canada
5 Nov 07
You need to aleviate your guilt? That is not a good sign. If you feel guity you should not have made this kind of decision so fast. You really know nothing about this man what happens if he starts hurting you? How do you know he's not an murderer or rapist? You need to tell your family so they know and can help if or when you need it. Secrets only hurt relationships so please tell your family as soon as possible.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
5 Nov 07
Your seriously going to wait 4 years to tell your family of your marriage? Why? Wouldn't it be better that they know now and accept it and get to know your husband rather than keep him a secret from them? I just don't think that is a good idea, whether or not you are ready to have a baby or not. If you decided to make a life decision like this without asking their permission or advice on this, surely you can face them and be brave enough to tell them of your decision. Dishonesty never amounts to good.
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• United States
10 Jan 08
congrats! you are married and happy....I believe your family if they really love you would want nothing but the best for you and only wish for your happiness and that whatever you choose to do is up to you because you are an adult now and they can only say so much...
@hopejordan (3566)
• Australia
12 Nov 07
hi there nothingness i want to say congrats to you on getting married are you glad you did it well i hope everthing goes well in your marraiage and always have love in your marraige many happy times togther ok thanks for this discussion
@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
11 Nov 07
Congratulation.Wow...you just know him for short while and you decided to marry :) My opinion is, if you ready to marry someone, you should ready to tell your family and his family. If you plan to let your family in 4 years time, why you just not marry in next 4 years?? But that is only my opinion, i don't mean anything. Btw, Congratulation and happy forever ^_^
@mari_skye (1638)
• Philippines
6 Nov 07
Wow! That was lightning fast! But congratulations anyway. I believe you have your own reasons for marrying in such a short span of time. My best wishes to both of you. However, I think you should at least tell your parents about your marriage. I am sure they will have some misgivings on your decision, but I do believe that they will come to accept it in time. Besides, all they ever want is for you to be truly happy. Also, you owe them that important information.
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
6 Nov 07
Sorry but I don't believe in rushing into marriage. It's hard enough to be married to a person you've known for a long time. I'm not saying you're marriage will fail. Who knows, maybe you're one of the lucky few who hit the jackpot by finding true love in an instant. Best wishes to you.
@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
6 Nov 07
Well first off let me say congrts to you and your new husband and i wish you both a long life together. Second let me say Welcome to MyLot and I do hope that you enjoy your time with us but shouldn't you two be on some kind of a honeymoon right now. But you really should not wait so long to tell your familys because it might not come out as good as you think it will in 4 years. Please dont wait so long and tell them soon.
• Brazil
6 Nov 07
Be quiet! Love always come first... Try to talk openly with his family, say he is a good person. His family may not like the first time, but over time will giving everything right. Now you found your true love, you should celebrate, enjoy. For the great love, it is only one! Good luck!
• Australia
5 Nov 07
COngratulation on getting married! DO what you think is right. If your parents won't understand then I would wait to .
@kgwat70 (13395)
• United States
5 Nov 07
Congratulations on getting married to the man of your dreams. I hope that you two have a wonderful and happy life together. I think you should tell your families now than wait later. They will find out about it eventually so better not to hide your marriage from them. I am sure your parents will still love you and support you even though you have not known him for that long.
@eyewitness (1577)
• Netherlands
5 Nov 07
Congrats on your marriage. Tell your family when you're ready,but for now enjoy your marriage and cheers on that one.
@lilash2 (52)
• United States
5 Nov 07
ok i have 2 views on this... 1st you really need to tell your family, cause they will be really hurt if you lie to them for 4 years. but then again now that you are married, God says your family is the ones who live with you, which would be your hubby. 2nd since i have just gone through a MAJOR falling out with my inlaws, you might be right by not telling them!!! cause i have just got done writing them off and out of my life, they screwed my hubby and myself over and so for that i hate them now, i think they are stupid and i want nothing to do with them
@Juliayin (22)
• China
5 Nov 07
Congratuations! I also got married last week. My boyfriend love me at first sight, but i love him after communication in Microsoft where I had my internship. That was a nice period.
• United States
5 Nov 07
I think you should just tell them about your marriage at the appropriate point in time, whatever it's Christmas or not.
@fanji008 (782)
• China
5 Nov 07
Congratulations! It's somehow different that you choose this way to get married. You really don't want to tell your family about that? Couldn't you talk very openly with your family? But it's your two's marriage,so you have the right to decide what you'd like to do. Hopefully you can enjoy your marriage right now. Best regards for you and your husband!
@Molinda (77)
• China
5 Nov 07
congradulation.you are lucky to be married to a nice man.I can uderstand your feeling.in my opinion ,you should tell your family as soon as possible.maybe your family can't accept at the begaining,but they love you,their best wishes will go to you sooner or later.It is just my appraisal.good luck.
@michecu (637)
• Philippines
5 Nov 07
First, of all congratulations!!! I know there are many people out there who are secretly married. Sometimes, I do not understand why this has to be. I thought that a marriage is not only between couple but also involve the family. Anyway, I do respect decisions like this. Nevertheless, I think the good news must be shared to your family too and I believe you do not have to wait for four years. Maybe you can surprise them this Christmas... :) Good luck and best wishes!