Younger sister gets pregnant

when my sister got pregnant, she hasn't finished school and she has no work, I couldn't react. in fact, I was indifferent. it felt like I got tired of minding her business. because she was kind of a blacksheep in the family and she often brought problems in the house. I remember a time when I got really mad and I was slapping her and she was crying and I was swearing.. I couldn't remember anymore the reason for it but it was after that that a gap, a high wall between us was formed. and I stopped caring. so when my mother told me I should talk to my sister because she might be pregnant, I just shrugged it off and thought that my mother was just imagining the worst scenario. and when I finally knew the truth, I was disappointed and I remembered our little talk before that I was the one who wanted to be a single parent and she was the one who wanted a complete family. and I felt betrayed because she didn't hold on her words. though, her bf accepted the responsibilities, they didn't marry. until now they aren't married. but they are living together and her husband has work. but now, she has given birth to her second baby, I am slowly accepting her fate and I'm taking my time on renewing my old relationship with her. afterall, I can't do anything about it and everything has happened already.

I know it's kind of disappointing. But as family, i guess, you just have to be supportive of her. There are decisions and things she made in life that we may never understand, but, regardless, as family I guess, it is important that she knows you'll be there for her. She may now undergoing things that we could be clueless of. :)

In life,we have to face different difficult situations.But we have to face it with calm attitude and getting frustrated will create more problems only.Whatever happened is happend.It is past and we have to thinkk about the future .

There's no use getting upset about this. Nothing is going to change, because of painful emotions. It's her life, and whether she wanted to get into that situation or not, she's there. Crying and worrying and being frustrated is not going to change a thing for anyone.

It's very difficult in this situation. I know that your disappointed in your sister, but the situation is what it is. I think that you need to help support her emotionally and work with her. Making her feel ostricized and alone will not help her. I know how this feels because I was a pregnant teen as well. Make sure she knows you love her and that she has your support. Y ou can still love her and be disappointed in her behavior.

Honestly, i over reacted that she had a boyfriend(my 23 year old sister) what more if she got pregnant. My gosh, knowing the kind of job her boyfriend have. I cant really take it. But, well that is the reality. That is really what will happen to all the girls. But it is a matter of how the girls handle the situation or their feelings. It is her, we cannot take it out to her. That is already there we cannot get it back. The best thing to do is accept and learn to forgive. and let it go. And help her. I know in every step that we undertake there is always a lesson. Maybe, the faults that she has now can makes her grow.

Don't get upset about it because you cannot reverse the situation. The omly thing to do is listen to her and hear what she has to say. If she going to keep the pregnancy you should support and if not you also support her. She can still give birth and continue schooling, it is not that she has broken a borne or what! Dont get frustrated over something like that. Involve the parents also but dont make decisions for her lest she come to regret.

oh wow i understand.. i dont know what i would do but i think as a big sister i would help her threw it because that is a hard time in your life to handle. just be her big sister and help her as much as you can.. dont put her down .. tell her it will be ok .

i will get frustrated of course. my sisters are all in college now and I want them to finish schooling before they involve themselves into this. It's too early to get pregnant. I have high hopes for them. with regards to your situation, well, at first it's normal to get shocked and frustrated but you should be supportive to your sister because you and your family are the only thing in her world that will be there for her in times like this. eventually, you will understand and accept what happende to her.